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A fan asked me why there were always people who didn't respect him when he was in high school, and now that he's in college, his roommates always disrespect him, not only that, but even his classmates.
What he calls disrespect is about the tone of his speech or the style of doing things, for example, many times he will be ignored, and everyone will not pay attention to politeness in the process of talking to him.
This is a particularly troublesome thing for him, because he feels that he is particularly disrespected, living in such an environment, and no one can stand it, but he is not aware of his own problems, he feels that it is all someone else's fault.
A person who does not respect you, it may be that he has a problem, if many people do not respect you, then the problem must be in yourself.
Don't doubt that there is no unprovoked thing in this world, if you find that the attitude of the people around you to you is similar, then you should reflect on yourself, some of your behavior, some style, will give people a feeling of disrespect for you.
In fact, others do not respect you may not be your shortcomings, sometimes it is just a style of expression that is not as good as the right one, usually under the circumstances, others do not respect you is not accidental, but there is a reason, and this reason is probably because you have the following characteristics.
Pleasing sexual personality
Regarding what is called flattering personality, I believe that most people are very familiar with it, because this sentence can literally understand that the so-called flattering personality is habitually trying to please the other party.
Whether that person you know or not, you always look flattering and selling, for fear of provoking the other party to be angry and now you have been currying favor.
If you don't know what kind of state this is, you can go and see the pets you have in your own home, and the attitude towards these owners is usually the same.
Although many people can't accept this metaphor at all, this is a kind of normalcy, but also a reality, at least in everyone's mind is actually like this.
People who please sexual personality will always give people a feeling of condescension, they have been pleasing others and ignoring themselves, but also let others ignore them.
In fact, this is a very sad thing, although everyone living in this world should respect others, but respect and flattery are definitely two completely different meanings.
To take a very simple example, you just came to a company and you have a lot of respect for everyone, but that respect is limited to politeness.
But if you are very flattering to everyone, and you nod your head when others say something, as if you are a slave, and everyone else is your master, then the result is completely different.
What you are polite to others in exchange for others will be very polite to you, and what you respect others for is that others will respect you, but if you please others, in exchange for the contempt of others.
If you please everyone, then all you get is that everyone disrespects you, everyone will treat you like a clown or a trivial person, and in some cases they will even bully you, such as because you are a flattering personality, so they will entrust their work to you.
Verbally asking for your help, in fact it is just bullying you, because you are naturally a flattering personality, so you do not know how to reject the so-called flattering personality is a tendency to please everyone.
Such people not only do not know how to refuse, but also will go to please others, sometimes they also feel that this matter is very annoying, they also want to refuse, but there is no way, this is a kind of character determined.
If you find that you have such a tendency, then you must change, do not become such a person, straighten your waist, and let yourself live upright.
Don't please others, because your flattery will not be exchanged for the respect of others, but will make people despise you.
Smiley and immature look
Some people are very simple, especially like to laugh, and always give a feeling of immaturity, this type of person mostly just graduated from school and entered a company to intern.
It doesn't seem like news that interns aren't respected, it's a well-known thing, and many interns are oppressed by old employees when they intern at the company.
Although they themselves are very reluctant to face it, but this is a reality, those old employees also started as interns, but now they have become old employees, so they want to squeeze others.
For example, what they don't want to do is left to the intern to do, to be honest, such a person is indeed very hateful, but in real life there are many such people, but all interns are different.
If an intern has a personality and gives people a particularly unpleasant feeling, even the old employee will let him score three points, which is bullying soft and afraid of hard, which is also a true embodiment of a person's human nature.
Of all the interns, the ones who are most likely to be disrespected are those who are particularly smiling and have no temper and even give people a particularly simple, immature feeling.
Such people are more likely to listen to others, especially when they first arrive in an unfamiliar environment, they often regard those old employees as predecessors, so this gives others the opportunity to disrespect them.
What kind of environment and what to do, when you are a student, you can be a simple child who loves to laugh, but if you step into the society, you must be a mature person, clean experience is the most important thing for everyone to do.
conceited
Some people are naturally arrogant and arrogant, always do not take others into their eyes, in their minds, as if no one in this world is more powerful than them.
In fact, this kind of person has in real life, and there are also in the network, but everyone has given people on the network a very strange name, that is, keyboard man.
In fact, they are the same kind of people, but this kind of people are only on the Internet, and it is impossible for people like them to be respected by others, because they simply do not know that the sky is high, how can everyone respect them.
A person who is proud and complacent and never puts others in his eyes cannot get the respect of others, not only that, but their appearance of not knowing the sky will also make people laugh.
For example, many times you can see people on the Internet to reprimand or comment on some social elites, including the god of Peking University, which is really strange.
Everyone must be humble, do not do something offensive, only modest people are more likely to get the respect of others.
Not only is it poor, but it also lacks backbone
Some people say that if a person is poor, it is difficult to be respected by others, and this sentence is not entirely true, but it must be determined according to the specific situation.
To take a very simple example, if a person is not only poor, but also has no backbone, he is easily not respected by others, on the contrary, people may despise him.
But if a person is poor, but very backbone, everyone does not dare to underestimate him, because he has his own principles, this kind of person has been respected since ancient times, everyone calls this kind of person proud bone.
No matter how poor you are, don't lack backbone, only a person with backbone can get the respect of others and let himself live in the sky.
Only by respecting yourself and adhering to certain principles can you get the respect of others.
The quality is low
Have you ever seen such people, who are usually not too high-quality under the circumstances, and will always do something very annoying, which may be manifested in words or behavior.
But no matter what, they will always make people feel very disgusted, no matter where they go, they are particularly unpopular, if a person has such a character, he cannot be respected by others, and everyone will only hate him.
If you find that the people around you do not respect you, then you must be a person who is enough to be respected, and if you have some bad habits, then quickly correct them.
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