The online lesson has started, are you ready?

The re-arrival of the epidemic has disrupted our original lives. In the face of students and parents, the most commonly asked questions are learning and parent-child relationship. Do you have the same confusion? Wang Tao, a psychotherapist at Ping An Gansu Psychological Crisis Intervention and Research Center, answers for you.

Question 1: My parents valued my grades. Home class is a challenge for me, my parents are very tight, I am particularly nervous, how to adjust my mentality?

A: I understand your feelings very well. Here are a few ways you might be able to help. First, through the analysis of wrong questions, revisiting knowledge points, etc., to enhance the sense of control over learning. Second, set a small goal, make practical efforts, and give yourself encouragement or rewards in time when you reach the goal. Third, build a sense of solidity to eliminate tension. For example, during online lessons, your feet firmly step on the ground; before doing homework, clean up the table; write down your own study plan, and cross out one after doing ... Fourth, communicate with classmates and teachers, and strive to explore the "different scenery" and "unexpected gains" of online classes and home learning. Fifth, communicate more with your parents and bravely express your experiences and feelings.

Problem two: the child can not sit quietly in one place, listen to the lecture inattention is not concentrated, easy to desert, only play toys and video games can be quiet, does he have psychological problems?

A: According to the child's performance, the following two aspects should be considered.

If it's new: Recall when your child first had a problem, what happened before? What is the impact after that? Deepen your understanding of your child and find the key to change.

If it has always been like this: depending on the child's age, personality, and differences in children of the same age, etc., find out if their behavior deviates from the stage of psychological development. If it is in line with the psychological performance of peers, parents may need to regulate their anxiety and stimulate their children's interest in learning. If a child's performance deviates from his or her stage of psychological development, it is necessary to seek professional help in time and use personalized therapeutic interventions.

Question 3: If your child's work and rest at home are irregular, how can I help my child re-establish good habits?

A: First, work with your children to develop a family life schedule and arrange homework and activity time reasonably. Second, increase timekeeping activities, such as chronography and puzzles, so that children have a sense of urgency within a limited time. Third, create an environment that facilitates concentration. For example, when asking children to clean up the table and put irrelevant things in place when doing homework. Fourth, the requirements for children should be in line with the laws of their age and physical and mental development. Fifth, the combination of reward and punishment. When the child performs well, praise in time, mobilize enthusiasm, and establish a virtuous circle; if the child performs rubbing, do not remind too much, let the child experience the adverse consequences of the rubbing. Sixth, lead by example and use your own good habits as an example for your children.

Liu Xiaofang, all-media reporter of Lanzhou Daily

Editor 丨Sun Yue

Responsible editor 丨 Zhang Yajun

The duty director 丨 Guo Junyu

Source: ZAKER Daily Lanzhou

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