In this world, there are many people whose relationships seem to be hovering on the fringes of "friends" and "lovers",
This relationship can be called "friendship above".
She has a boyfriend, you have a girlfriend,
You can play with her boyfriend and she can also joke with your girlfriend,
You are out of love, she teases you must be too casual, so you have been punished, she is out of love, you throw down your girlfriend, cry with her, laugh with her.
This is a special area for those who are trapped in it,
They can't really maintain a friend relationship with close friends, nor can they be friends' lovers,
In the Thai movie "Friendship Above" released in domestic theaters this week, Pan is one of them.
Pan and his best friend Qin, caught up in a "friendship above" relationship for 10 years,
There are people around Pan who have the same experience as him,
Because the girl she likes has a boyfriend who can't get any closer, the confession failure can only get stuck in the embarrassment of a good friend.
Or the girl she likes says she doesn't want to be in love now and keeps procrastinating.
In high school, Pan and Qin had the opportunity to cross this strange boundary.
But Pan's fear made them good friends who would never break up.
After that, Pan became Qin's most reliable shoulder dependency, he was not a boyfriend but did everything his boyfriend did.
Take care of her when she's injured, always mention her name when she makes a wish, rush to her city as soon as she's helpless,
He is a good friend, but he has a more interest in the piano than a friend.
Her elaborately dressed appearance made him obsessed, her hurt embarrassment made him feel painful, and her solitude made him always think about it.
Pan said in his mouth, "It is enough to be friends", but his heart has been crossing the line.
Created by the "Genius Gunner" team, "Above Friendship" is a deconstruction of the emotional life of young people who are now cut and messed up:
Do you have such a friend "above friendship" around you,
They like each other, but they can't be a couple because of various concerns.
One: Afraid of breaking up, so choose not to fall in love.
When Pan first revealed his feelings to Qin, Pan, who originally wanted to confess, was afraid and said that we would always be good friends, so we would never break up.
Qin, whose heart was waiting for him to confess, experienced the rejection of people after suffering the blow of his father's cheating,
So, from then on, Qin broke off her thoughts of Pan and continued her chaotic emotional life.
She and her first love boyfriend have been in love for many years, but suffered the fact that the other party cheated on her, and then she quickly fell in love with the artist Ted, whom she represented.
At the time of the chaos of the piano, Pan was not idle, constantly changing girlfriends, he was not bad, he was not attentive enough,
Pan and Qin are like two parallel lines, they know each other well, often pass the time together, but they never have the opportunity to express their chests to each other again, every time Pan wants to confess again, Qin refuses to come back with our best friend.
In the past, Pan was afraid of destroying their deep-rooted friendship after confessing, but now Qin is afraid of losing such a tool person on call.
She was afraid that she would always be derailed by the fate attributes that would make her and Pan not far away, and finally not even have to be friends,
Compared with a boyfriend who can only grind his ears for a while, she needs a friend who can be with her forever.
In the face of emotions, people are greedy and blind, and sometimes they want to keep a relationship, preferring it to develop in a deformed direction rather than face it.
Two: lick the dog's refinement.
Now there is a popular word "licking the dog", describing those who can't ask for it in love, but desperately hold each other and don't let go,
No matter how disrespectful the other party is, people who must be tied to each other and selflessly pay for each other.
Licking the dog is an absolute derogatory term, and in "Above Friendship", Pan vividly interprets the true state of a dog licking,
Knowing her menstrual period and every important life turn, every time she is sad, she is accompanied by him, he accompanies her pregnancy test, accompanies her to monitor her boyfriend, accompanies her to lose love and distracts,
Whether she was right or wrong, he supported her unconditionally and understood her.
Pan is not a unique licking dog, and there are many licking dogs like him hidden around Pan.
Some of them accompany the girl they like to date their boyfriend, and some of them accompany the girl they like around the clock when she is split by her boyfriend.
Some of them have been afraid to confess, and can only maintain a safe distance from the people they like.
What is it that makes so many licking dogs so caught up in this ambiguous emotional relationship and unwilling to withdraw?
It may be that there is no existence around that can surpass the other party, or it is just an obsession that I buried a long time ago, or the ambiguous attitude of the other party is not active, not rejected, and irresponsible.
Any one of these reasons can put a young man and woman in a pathological state of not being able to ask for it but accompanying each other.
The longer the time, the deeper the dependence, the more unable to escape this bondage,
Instead of starting all over again and paying for another person, it is better to hang yourself from a tree.
The end of a relationship is not necessarily a new beginning.
At the end of the film, Pan finally recognizes the truth of his relationship with Qin,
It was he who had always spoiled Qin, which made Qin feel that Pan would not leave him, so she did not have to be afraid, offend or anger Pan.
Because of the relationship between friends, Jean Qin is fearless, and she thinks that friends will never break up.
But being a friend has a bottom line and a boundary. ，
Friends can rely on each other, but can not have more than the thoughts of friends, friends can support each other, but can not be unreasonable, occupy each other's effective time,
After having boyfriend and girlfriend with each other, the boundaries of friends are even more clear.
Qin forgets this boundary and tries to vent her emotional failure on Pan after the loss of love,
It also made Pan see clearly that he could not be friends with Qin in the end, either to leave, or to admit that Qin could only be friends, which Pan could not do, he could only clear his relationship with Qin.
Friends will also break up, which Pan experienced in heqin's emotions.
The previous "Genius Gunner", because of the use of fraud mode, let a transnational cheating tension and stimulation interlock,
At the same time, it satirizes the corrupt education system and expresses the feeling that the poor people have no head.
And "Above Friendship" once again fits the emotional hot spots of young people nowadays,
But this time the attempt can not surpass the "Genius Gunner", although the plot is compact, but the scene of men and women attending banquets, stalking boyfriends, and playing together on the beach to heal their wounds seems dispensable.
The entanglement scenes of Pan and Qin are clearly visible, and the essence of why they are entangled has not been explored much.
In "Above Friendship", we only see the woman who is full of unreasonable trouble and the man who is humble to the dust.
This kind of love has not yet come to the end, it has made people full of appetite, friends are talking, is companionship, but not a garbage can,
And this kind of preparatory boyfriend who reveals the temperament of the spare tire, although everything is meticulous, pays more to the girl he likes than his girlfriend's feelings, but it is impossible to like.
What kind of person will leave his girlfriend to take care of other girls, what kind of person will pestering a boy with a girlfriend,
Think carefully, think very afraid!
However, the filming of scenery in Southeast Asia in Thailand was very successful in this tourism promotion, and the theme song of Southeast Asian female singers was also very good.
(Circle cards have been added here, please check out the today's headlines client)