With the popularity of the Internet, "phoenix man" has become a synonym for careful investigation and treatment in marriage. After all, the probability of him pulling down your quality of life is relatively large, of course, it does not negate that those phoenix men with a sense of proportion have really grown into "phoenix".
When everyone focuses on men, do not ignore the existence of "phoenix women" who have the same attributes as phoenix men.
Everyone's life will leave the imprint of the original family, which will directly affect a person's outlook on life and values.
Liu Yan has always been a role model for parents in the village to educate their children, and Liu Yan's family is relatively poor in the village, but fortunately, she and her sister are fighting. My sister was admitted to a university in the city, and she was even better, going to a bigger city and a more famous university.
When Liu Yan graduated from college, her brother happened to be in high school. Admitted to graduate school, she gave up continuing to study, choosing to be like her sister, and grasped the work to reduce the burden on her family. In fact, since Liu Yan was admitted to the county high school, she has been working and studying half time.
After working, Liu Yan is also very economical, and unlike ordinary girls, she spends more time studying business, and her salary is rising year by year. In the face of this flower world, she still has strong self-control, earns 8,000 wages, and lives 1,000 lives.
Liu Yan's special attracted Fang Zheyu of the same project team. After a year of love, the two people walked into marriage hand in hand.
Unlike the average phoenix woman, Liu Yan did not ask for a high dowry, nor did she ask for a name to be added to the house book. The atmosphere of the meal is harmonious and there is a deal of discussion.
In this way, the two people lived a very harmonious life after marriage. In fact, marriage is, in a sense, a community of interests, and it is important for husband and wife to have one heart.
Fang Zheyu and Liu Yan encountered problems before, and the three views were basically the same. The real disagreement was in the preparations for going to Liu Yan's hometown for the Spring Festival in the second year after marriage.
Liu Yan wanted to prepare generous gifts for her relatives at home, and Fang Zheyu agreed to prepare more carefully for relatives closely, but distant relatives did not have to.
Liu Yan said that although they were distant relatives, they had helped their families before. The wedding itself did not have too many requirements, it was not as grand as my sister, and this time I "returned to my hometown" must be more decent.
Seeing his wife's insistence, Fang Zheyu understood how bitter Liu Yan's past was, and it was also painful, so he agreed. However, Fang Zheyu's family is also an ordinary well-off family, and his own salary is in the upper middle of the city.
What Fang Zheyu did not expect was that the number of relatives given by Liu Yan was so large, and the two people experienced this Spring Festival, and the economic pressure doubled.
But this time did earn face for Liu Yan, and what surprised Fang Zheyu was that Liu Yan did not drive his own scooter of less than 100,000, and also rented a high-grade car and drove back to his hometown.
Unsurprisingly, in everyone's stars and moons, Liu Yan had a few days of super sense of existence.
However, since then, the "relatives" who come to the family to ask for errands have not been broken. Liu Yan was hard-headed, and even took the money to help herself, as if it was just for a compliment.
When Liu Yan's younger brother was about to graduate from college, the internship work was contacted by Liu Yan. Liu Yan should also inherit that her brother can live in his own home during the one-year internship. This caught Fang Zheyu off guard and resolutely disagreed.
In the argument between the two people, Liu Yan also revealed that if her brother can stay in the internship unit, then she and her sister will pool money to buy a house for her brother in the city, and the loan will also help repay.
In the escalation of the contradiction between the two people, Liu Yan said such a sentence, which completely broke the marriage of the two people: "There is no blood relationship between us, and I and my brother have broken bones and are still connected to the tendons." ”
In fact, what Liu Yan does not understand is that the relationship between parents, children, brothers and sisters is "gradually drifting away", and decent detachment is better than the chicken flying dog jumping together.
There are difficulties to help each other, but we must do what we can. If a woman is "confused" in the relationship between marriage and her mother's family, then herself, her husband, and her flesh and blood relatives can predict will become "victims".
Changing your life through your own efforts is commendable. But what is important is the change of concept, and the ability to distinguish between the light and the heavy in the face of life.
Of course, some of the characteristics of phoenix women also have two sides, if the man and his original family can be accepted, the three views fit, it is also a good marriage.
The traits are as follows:
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the sense of scarcity, unconsciously looking at "money"</h1>
The origin of the phoenix woman is generally not high, and the starting point is low. The hardships of life make them unconsciously insecure and have an extraordinary yearning for money.
At the same time, because I see more of the world,there will be more selfish elements in my personality. This is like a woman who has been hurt in many loves, longing for more security and the ability to protect herself.
Security is not something that is visible to the naked eye, and the most intuitive alternative is money. Just like when we were young, we wanted to eat sugar and couldn't, once we had the ability, we wanted to ask for it arbitrarily.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > self-esteem, purposefulness and perseverance</h1>
Girls wrapped in a happy, single environment have a relatively simple personality, while girls who have experienced the test of human nature may still be kind in their hearts, but they are often not so "simple".
When a person has the ability to come out of poverty, she must have unique qualities that others do not have. Such girls are generally more sensitive and self-respecting, have a strong sense of purpose, and have more perseverance.
This kind of girl's heart will be particularly concerned about other people's opinions, and even some inadvertent actions, she will over-interpret. Perhaps only after a long period of security and satisfaction fill, can we treat life more peacefully.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > lack of satisfaction and are easily coerced by the original family</h1>
The more developed areas emphasize rules, while the more scarce and backward areas pay more attention to human feelings. People are susceptible to the surrounding environment and establish a value system.
In order to survive, the phoenix woman's family no longer lives in a single family unit, but multiple families help each other, forming a system of mutual assistance. In the process, they will establish a value that "it is good to sacrifice for others."
For example, Sun Shaoan in "Ordinary World".
The satisfaction of such women is based on the help of family and friends. There is a deviation from the concept of marriage and a lack of clarity about the boundaries of a small family.
The original family cannot choose, but what kind of life to live, the choice is in your own hands. Filial piety should be done, everything should be measured, precipitating one's own heart, and simplifying complexity.
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[This article is originally produced by Wei Wei'an, plagiarism must be investigated / The picture comes from the network, invaded and deleted]