In the past, "phoenix women" would marry a city boy with very ordinary conditions in order to mix a city hukou, and some urban boys also liked to marry excellent "phoenix women". However, this type of marriage is not as beautiful as it seems in the face of facts.
Just because it is not beautiful enough, so that now many urban boys are afraid of marrying an excellent "phoenix girl", just like once bitten by a snake and afraid of a well rope for ten years, more and more urban boys have given up the choice of "phoenix girl" in the column of choosing a mate.
The reason why this situation occurs is actually very simple, and it is related to the following aspects.
Dislike each other
I have heard many comments from "phoenix women" with excellent conditions about urban boys, saying that they are lazy, content with the status quo, not thinking of progress, and so on. If you can be called a "phoenix woman", she must be excellent, and she has single-handedly changed her life destiny.
However, it is not enough to get here, and in order to stand on its feet forever, marriage must make the right choice. However, excellent urban boys generally do not choose "phoenix women", even if they are excellent, the families behind excellent urban boys are not willing to accept them, and they can only choose ordinary urban boys.
And for a long time, many "phoenix women" can marry ordinary urban boys. However, the funny thing is that they will have a state of mutual dislike again, the city boy dislikes the "phoenix woman" behind the eternal dissatisfaction pit, the "phoenix woman" can not stand the inertia of ordinary boys.
In the state of seeing each other, fewer and fewer urban boys are willing to marry "phoenix women", and "phoenix women" are unwilling to marry back to the countryside, so a large number of leftover women in the city appear.
Different environments create different attitudes towards life
No matter how excellent the "phoenix women" are, they also lack the natural self-confidence of girls who grew up in the city, and in life, they are more easily influenced by their original families, and they are different from those who grew up in the city in terms of values or living habits.
How to say, people who grow up in real cities are more casual in consumption, and the habit of picking doors is relatively less, and in the enjoyment of life, people who grow up in cities pay more attention to quality and do not know how to save.
People who know "phoenix women" know that most "phoenix women" pay special attention to external dress, and are very particular about dressing, but other quality of life is not necessarily particular, they can buy a beautiful dress, and eat instant noodles.
This phenomenon is less common among people who grow up in cities, and urban people, because they are more materially rich since childhood, do not pay so much attention to clothing.
Moreover, it is the various habits of life, in a word, that is, the environment in which they grow up is different, and the attitude to life created will be different, just because of the difference, the probability of disgust for each other is higher.
The influence of the original family that cannot be escaped
"Phoenix women" are disliked, and they have the greatest relationship with the native family behind them, and many "phoenix women" have become the link between the original family to change poverty and fate.
And they themselves have been taught since childhood that they must take care of the whole family, take care of everyone in the family, and cannot be ungrateful and forget their roots. It can be said that most of the "phoenix women" who do not understand have to turn their heads to their native families all their lives, and even do not hesitate to devote their efforts to small families.
This is also the reason why more and more urban boys are afraid to marry a "phoenix girl", because you are not marrying one person, you are marrying her whole family.
The concept of door-to-door pairing has been brought up again
For a while, marriage did not need to be right, and during that period of time, the choice of marriage was more free, but also because of freedom, marriage in various modes appeared in a variety of forms, each different, good or bad.
With the change of people's concepts, as well as the accumulation of various things in life, more and more people understand that marriage must still be about the right door after all, because the marriage happiness rate of the door is higher and more stable.
This is also the reason why more and more urban boys are reluctant to marry "phoenix women", because there is a gap between each other's protégés, even if they are boys from ordinary urban families.
Conclusion
Marriage, it seems that two people build a small family, but in fact, the big family behind it is the key to whether the small family can be happy. And the unhappiness of many marriages is because the big family behind them is too involved and takes too much.
The reason why the marriage between the city boy and the "phoenix girl" was rejected and abandoned by the city boy has a lot to do with the "phoenix girl" itself. Of course, with the revival of the principle of marriage ownership, this is also the reason why such unequal marriages are becoming less and less.