Why is it said that ordinary people are far from success?

Text/Lian Wei 2021 No. 139

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In every Olympic Games, everyone pays the most attention to the number of gold medals. However, with the strength of our country and the strength of all of us, our attention to the fact that the country as a whole has a few more gold medals and a few few gold medals, on the contrary, more and more attention is paid to athletes with strong personal charisma, of course, only to those who have won gold medals.

The person who wins the gold medal at the Olympics is the world champion, and "world champion" is a simple four words, but when you think about it even a little, you will feel "Well, simple four words are not something anyone can have." Behind these four words correspond to the training day after year and the restraint of almost harsh self-indulgence.

Olympic champions are undoubtedly successful, and everyone defines "success" differently, and what I think of as "success" is those who have reached the top in a certain professional field. There are several measures: First, do things that make you feel fulfilled and happy. Second, from the economic point of view, what you do may not make yourself rich, but you must be able to achieve basic financial freedom. Third, from the aspect of social reputation, when others mention a certain field, you are a person who is very important and cannot be ignored in that field.

Maybe this standard is too high for us ordinary people, if the achievement of the Olympic champion is reduced by ten notches to define success, we are still difficult to achieve, why? Because ordinary people simply do not have the basic character qualities needed to succeed, which ones are included, we will talk about them one by one.

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Lack of domineering that is bound to be achieved.

I heard that those who were admitted to Tsinghua and Peking University aimed at Tsinghua and Peking University at the beginning, even if they were expelled from school because of playing games, they could still enter Tsinghua and Peking University after a few years of taking the college entrance examination again. I also heard that these people identified one school, and other schools were not.

The people who compete in the Olympic Games and finally win the prize are relaxed and at ease, not because they don't care, because they feel that everything is under control.

Some people say that as long as I want to enter a field, I must be the king of that field. People with this kind of spirit can do anything.

Of course, everyone will say big things, and the important thing is that every time you say it, you believe in others. It's easy to talk, it's hard to do. I believe that people who love to say such things have the conditions to support, which is to say that the second condition that successful people have, which is also what ordinary people lack.

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Lack of diligence to practice effectively and deliberately.

Some people saw Su Bingtian still carrying a rice cooker during the competition, and some people said that he was from Cantonese and liked to drink soup everywhere he went. I think that's funny.

His approach reminds me of the four-year-old retired athlete who never lets him eat salt, and he carries a pot everywhere he goes. She didn't use it for soup, she wanted not to break the eating habits of athletes.

We think she is too harsh on her children, the child is four years old, she is not allowed to eat anything she likes, and she is called junk food by her mother. Cooking alone everywhere, children are miserable, adults are also hard, it is such a thankless practice, as an athlete will not give up, teeth will also insist.

This is true of everyone who wants to achieve something. Su Bingtian trained every day, ate the prescribed food, and demanded himself like an ascetic.

We ordinary people think that their lives are too boring, if life can not live according to their own ideas, then what is the strength of living? But it is through the anti-human operation that others have achieved excellence, and the more human nature controls their own people, they become more and more ordinary.

Because excellence is to overcome the shortcomings of human nature, diligence is anti-human, persistence is anti-human. It is human nature to eat well and be lazy, to have fun in time, to focus only on the present, not on the future.

There are often celebrities who say how hard they work, and now it seems that compared with athletes, other people's hard work is not worth mentioning. They are not just diligent, they are really de-human desire, put an end to all temptations, and life is so simple that only exercise is left.

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There is a lack of guides and methods to accomplish things.

The more excellent people are, the more they like to worship the teacher. The world champion is good enough, but who doesn't have a coach?

Coaches are not people who are technically better than you, they are people who can help you find problems and help you move forward quickly.

The difference between professional and unprofessional is very large, take badminton as an example, a professional trained person hits a non-professional person, that is a hanging, that will make the other party lose pants. And bystanders can't look at it at all, like the difference between a doctoral student and a primary school student.

So there's a saying, don't challenge your amateur major to others.

What is Professionalism? It's not just a matter of practicing. It is a state of subdividing a technology into multiple items and practicing each one to the extreme.

There's an example of riding a bike in Little Logic, and it's about winning a championship, and there's a passage that says, "If you can take apart everything you can think of that would be related to cycling and then raise them by 1 percent, then when you put them together, you're going to get an amazing improvement." ”

I believe that the acquisition of any professional ability is not casual, it is all about a certain method. Badminton is "playing", but how to play well is studied and practiced day after day. Playing badminton into 1,000 sub-disciplines at the beginning and then practicing it will be a different result.

The recklessness of not paying attention to the method is not effective, time is also spent, energy is also costly, and finally there is no effect, slowly give up, there is no progress, sense of achievement to speak of.

There is a way to do anything, the method is not a shortcut, the shortcut is always to get it for free, and the way is to get started quickly and get progress in an accurate direction, and don't do too much useless work.

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When others spend their energy refining their professional skills, you spend all your willpower on how to stick with it.

Some people say that diligence is the standard of success and is the least worth mentioning. Successful people are hardworking, but not every hardworker is successful.

But sadly, ordinary people are a group of people who can't even be "diligent", think about it, apart from eating, sleeping and forced to go to work, what one thing you insist on for more than 100 days?

No. Except for those things that are physically necessary, everything else is left to chance. Do what you want, don't do if you don't want to. If you are in a good mood, do not do it if you are not good.

Take weight loss, there are successful people, but there are very few. The most fundamental problem is that you can't control yourself. If you can control yourself, you won't allow yourself to develop into a situation where you need to lose weight.

Not only the matter of weight loss, the main reason for the failure of ordinary people is that they cannot control themselves, and once people cannot control themselves, they cannot do anything. If you always use the time of the exercise and reading books to follow the drama, you can talk about what success you can achieve.

Successful people are a group of people who deserve our envy, but their real life is the most boring group of people, that is, like a robot, they can do things at any time, and they will not squander their bodies, time, energy and money. You can say they're robots, or you can say they're self-disciplined people.

Self-discipline is anti-human, and "human nature" is like a large hand with a strong magnetic force that firmly controls you. Only self-discipline and self-control can escape the clutches of "human nature". The ultimate purpose of self-discipline and self-control is to form habits, good habits are the enemy of human nature, and only habits can make you effortlessly overcome the weaknesses of human nature.

Unfortunately, only a small percentage of people are self-disciplined, self-controlled and habit-bound, and for them, it doesn't take willpower to do it every day, so they spend all their energy on improving their professional skills.

But ordinary people, just the daily persistence consumes a lot of energy, and when they start to do it, they can complete it and feel that they have succeeded, and they are too far away from dying themselves and refining themselves.

Therefore, the success of ordinary people is not only a problem of doing or not doing, but also a problem of how to do well. Most people are defeated by the first question relative to the second question, which is why I say that ordinary people are too far away from success.