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<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="69" >Introduction:</h1>
For the favorite explanation, I have seen two versions on the web:
What is like?
Blushing, heartbeating, not speaking.
Can you be specific?
Insomnia, anxiety, often dreams.
Can you be more specific?
The afterglow is all about you.
Another version is:
Breeze and dawn moon with stars.
Seeing you goodbye at first sight has been heartwarming.
The afterglow is you.
People have always described the emotion of "like" as quite literary and dramatic, just like in the eight-o'clock soap romance drama, with a rapid heartbeat, red ears, nervousness unable to speak, and even a blank brain.
When there are more such idol dramas and romance novels, some young people will think that they must have these characteristics in order to be called "like" feelings, so they go to find their partners according to this standard, but they are repeatedly frustrated, and eventually become the one who is "left".
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="56" > "My love principle: the other person is the girl who makes my heart beat faster"</h1>
The cousin of the aunt's family is 24 years old, but he has not really been in love, and the aunt sighs all day for this. The cousin actually has a good condition of himself, people are thin and tall, the family conditions are also well-off, there is no shortage of matchmakers who come to mention blind dates, they can see the face, and finally there is no following.
My aunt asked me to have a good chat with my cousin to see what he really thought. Under careful questioning, I understood that my cousin, who seemed to have no requirements for the other half, was actually "demanding", he said: "I must meet a girl who makes me feel heartbeat, and if I can't find it, I will never fall in love!" ”
Although he has not officially talked about love, but his cousin has his own insistence on love, he believes that only when he sees each other, he meets red ears, his heart beats faster, and he misses it all the time when he is not seen, can he meet love. Although he was eager for love, he did not want to give up his principles.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="55" > in fact, this is not love for others, but for love for yourself</h1>
Young people who think the same way as their cousins should not be in the minority. Affected by the emotional rendering of male and female protagonists in film and television dramas, some people have also deviated from their understanding of love, and as everyone knows, this behavior is relatively naïve.
Indeed, when you see the person you like, you will make your heart like a deer, you will be nervous and sweaty, you will be unable to speak, you will be haunted by dreams, and you will miss it day by day. If not, I'm afraid this person is just a gentle gentleman's friend to you, and you have no distractions about him/her.
However, you have to know one thing, that is, this feeling is actually encounterable and unattainable. If your attention is not on the other person, but simply take this feeling as your love goal, become the ticket to love, and only consider your own thoughts and feelings when getting along with people, then this is not love at all.
Simply put, all you like is this heart-pounding feeling, not a living person with flesh and blood. This means that you love only yourself, not others. This is not only a manifestation of mental immaturity, but also a concrete manifestation of strong self-centeredness.
If you can't even tell the difference between loving yourself and loving others, and mistake your feelings for love, then you will never be able to satisfy yourself in love.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="54" > "fawn bumping" is not necessarily love</h1>
On the other hand, I would like to say that seeing a person, feeling that your heart is beating faster, and the fawn is bumping, does not necessarily mean that your spring is coming.
Heartbeat doesn't have to be true love: the suspension bridge effect
I once saw such a small video, two people who never knew each other smiled politely at each other, sat in the same row of seats, and prepared to experience the roller coaster. In the acceleration and tumbling, both men shouted in fear. When the roller coaster stopped, both were panting, trying to control their hearts that were about to jump out.
At this time, the two looked at each other again, stunned for a few seconds, and suddenly looked at each other and smiled. At the end, the two shyly took each other's hands and began a new journey. You say, is this called heartbeat?
There is a term in the psychology of love called the "suspension bridge effect", that is, when a person walks across the suspension bridge in fear, he looks up and just happens to find a person of the opposite sex, which is the most likely situation to have feelings.
Because the heart beat faster, nervous, and the brain is blank caused by the fear on the suspension bridge, it will be mistaken by this person for a reaction to seeing the other half of the fate. This is the illusion in love, and the "heartbeat" you think is not necessarily the real heartbeat.
A fleeting and unprovoked obsession: crush
Sometimes, we think that we like a person, and we can't say why, but in fact, it is not called "like" at all, at best it is a good feeling, and the English should be more accurate: I have a crush on you.
"Crush" does not mean "I am in love with you", it does have the meaning of "affection", but it is also mixed with some keywords, such as short-lived, unprovoked, and even stupid. That is to say, the emotion of rush is more inclined to the feeling of good feelings and the temporary infatuation of not knowing when.
It has also been mentioned in the psychology of love that the early stage of love is the "intoxication period", at this stage, you will be deeply attracted by the other party's image, words and deeds, talents and other charms and intoxicated. And always reverie of the other person's image, almost hallucinatory thoughts, coupled with panic, shyness, eagerness and other overlapping emotions, make it easy for you to fall into an irrational trance.
After this time, you regain your sanity, and you will find that the person just automatically added a "filter" to your mind.
<h1 class="pgc-h-center-line" data-track="47" > Conclusion:</h1>
Life is not an unrealistic idol drama, we are not the male and female protagonists with their own "goldfinger", real-life love is not scripted, no one will cooperate with your performance.
I do not deny that there is indeed the existence of perfect love, the two from the beginning of love, blushing heartbeat, to entering the palace of marriage, white head and old age. However, taking such a feeling as the standard of love is indeed living in the "love fantasy" that you have woven.
Instead of indulging in fantasies and illusions, it is better to cherish what you have now, be down-to-earth, treat others peacefully, and do not let those illusory fantasies hinder the pace of your own life.
Today's topic: How do you think about the love that wants to "move"?
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