"Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist": After reading this book, he was cured instantly

This book was read after listening to a podcast of Limited Culture, and this book is not a style at all with psychology books in general. It was completely different from what I had imagined, there were no obscure technical terms, and it only used the experience of a toad to clearly explain our relationship with our parents, our relationship with ourselves.

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The author, Robert Debod, is a British psychology researcher and clinical experimenter, and he deduces the whole process of psychological counseling for us in this book, so that readers can find the answers they want after reading this book.

The toad grew up in a family with extremely rich material conditions, and has a majestic toad manor, and the original toad lived a happy and elegant life. Suddenly after experiencing the change, the whole person became bad, and with the help of the psychiatrist Heron, the toad gradually found itself, and found its goal and direction step by step.

In the process of psychological counseling, the heron is always trying to throw out the question, and then guide the toad to find the answer to the question, after several rounds of interviews, the heron found that the toad is actually "a boy among men, a man among boys". When the toad told his growth experience, the heron learned that the toad had not been himself for so many years, and he was always treating the current things with a childhood attitude, insisting on his own choices, until he became an adult, he was also driven by the voice of his parents and trapped by the emotions of childhood.

When I was halfway through the book, I also thought back to my own childhood, and there was a shadow of myself in the story of the toad. In childhood, we are all inevitably naughty, and the consequence is to be taught by our parents in harsh language, and the attitude we have after being taught is a stress response, at which time we have automatically activated the defense mechanism and opened the self-protection mode. When we become adults, we tend to treat similar events with the same emotions, rather than dealing with problems with the attitude of a real adult.

Psychologist Adler said: "Lucky people are cured of childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives". In the process of our growth, the most important thing is to learn to reconcile with our own emotions, rationally face our emotions, and every emotion generated is perfectly normal. While understanding our own emotions, we must also learn how to feel the emotions of others and "empathize" with others.

Even if you are a psychology white, don't be afraid that this book will not be able to read, we may have been Mr. Toad, as long as you follow the heron's question to find the answer, I believe that after reading it, we can also jump out of a certain obsession and bravely make choices for life.

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