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Winter is gone, and the galaxy is long
Regarding emotions, please pay attention to me
01
Do you believe in long-term love?
In the dull passage of the trickle of years, the two people who spend the day and night will slowly get closer because they are attracted to each other.
Regarding love, one of the most comfortable movies I have ever seen is "The Charm of Ordinary Years".
It allowed me to redefine the way I think about love, which turns out to be more than passion, dopamine and freshness.
Perhaps the essence of love is to use the warmth of ordinary life to balance the mundane things in life.
The film is set during World War II, when Livi, a beautiful and well-educated girl, marries Ray, a single farmer she has never met, by the arrangement of her father and priest.
Why would she be willing to marry a stranger she has never met before?
Because Livi was pregnant before marriage, the military boyfriend disappeared.
The father could not afford to lose this man, he said:
"While we have faith and hope of being forgiven, we must face the fact that our actions have consequences.
For you, you might think that this is a momentary indulgence, but you chose it. ”
The implication is that Livi has to pay for her choices, and her only request is that the marriage partner can love the unborn baby in her belly.
And for Ray, it is indeed not easy to accept a strange woman who is pregnant as a wife.
At the moment, it is estimated that most men are not willing to withstand a lot of gossip and bear a lot of pressure.
But Ray agreed, he felt that this was God's instruction, the best arrangement, and he was willing to accept Livy's baby, to accept everything about Livy.
He said to Livi, who met for the first time:
"You're so pretty, I can't believe anyone doing that to you."
He is distressed that Livi was pregnant before marriage, but was abandoned by her boyfriend and suffered this misfortune.
From that moment on, Livi developed a gentle feeling for this tall and rough man.
After confirming each other's decision, they went to the church and held a ceremony in the presence of the priest and Ray's family.
02
Ray lives on a vast farm, surrounded by desolate surroundings and far away neighbors, much to the annoyance of Livy, who grew up in the city center.
When he got out of the car, there was a dog barking, and Ray was afraid that the dog would scare Livy, so he locked it up.
Before entering the house, Ray said softly to Livy, welcome home.
Ray introduced the furnishings of the house and the situation of her family to Livy, and in order to welcome Livy's arrival, he also specially installed a hot and cold system for the faucet to facilitate Livi's use.
Ray's attentiveness and gentleness surprised Livy.
But the changes in the living environment, the lack of news of her boyfriend, her unmarried pregnancy forced to leave school and leave her family, the sense of gap and fear caused by these bad things have made Livi have a strong sense of vigilance.
She misses her family, wants to read books in the library, borrows a cookbook, and grows her not-so-good cooking skills.
She graduated from graduate school, studied archaeology, and wrote a thesis on Troy.
But Ray didn't know anything about it, just like when Ray drove her into town to make a phone call, and on the way Livi looked at the crops in the field and didn't know anything, she couldn't even tell the difference between tomatoes and potatoes.
They are not people of the world.
They went to town, Livy went to call, and although Ray was nice to her, she couldn't help but cry when she listened to the familiar voice, she missed everything before, the news she had asked about her boyfriend, but there was still no news.
Ray went to borrow books, and in addition to the recipe books, he borrowed a due date book and a book related to Troy.
He was willing to do anything for Livie, and his family and friends were warm and friendly to Livy.
But Li Wei still couldn't help but send a letter to her boyfriend quietly in the name of sending a letter to her family.
She knew it was wrong for her to do so, but she still couldn't control it, as if she just waited for a reply and everything would be back on track.
Ray would take Livie out for a walk, thinking that Livy had said that she used to like to swim and planned to dig a pool in front of the door and play with her and the children when the time came.
Livi was surprised that in Ray's future plans, there was herself and the child who had nothing to do with him.
Ray's family didn't gossip about Livy, but were very enthusiastic about helping to name the child in her belly.
Livi will also watch the recipes and learn to cook, although the dishes she cooks are difficult to say, but Ray will hold her every time.
Life here is simple and comfortable, the days are so calm and beautiful, Livi's strong heart defenses have begun to loosen.
She knew that Ray cared a lot about her feelings and was pleasing herself, but they never communicated well with each other.
Their vision is different, the pattern is different, many ideas are different, and how to cross this gap seems to be a very difficult thing.
How far can two people like this go?
03
At my aunt's birthday party, Ray wants to dance, but she wants to accompany Livy.
LiVi saw that he was eager to try, invited him to dance together, they from the beginning of the careful to the tacit understanding of the back, as if to find a suitable beat for each other, not only dance, life is also.
Maybe Ray was walking toward Livy and caring about Livy, livid was beginning to respond in the same way.
Beautiful music, smiling crowds, and loving blessings all make Livy feel warm and comfortable.
She seemed to be getting used to life here, and she began to have a crush.
During a meal, Ray took the initiative to talk about Troy, which he had seen in the book.
He was slowly trying to change, trying to understand Livy's world, which surprised and touched Livy.
They began to talk about archaeology, and about the crops that should be sown this year, and it seemed that both of them understood that the original insurmountable chasm could slowly approach each other as long as they moved forward.
When they said goodnight, Ray wanted to kiss Livy, but she wasn't ready.
Ray didn't force her and decided to give her a little more time.
One morning, her sister suddenly came to see Livy, and the purpose of her trip was to invite her sister home to live.
She felt that now the time had come, there would be no rumors of illegitimate children, it could be said that Lei was drunk and had a bad temper, so she chose to leave him.
She can give Livi better care, after the birth of the child, she can also help take care of it, Livi can also return to school, this is the best arrangement.
But Livy hesitated, she didn't want to lie, Ray was the most gentle man she had ever met.
But her sister felt that she should not marry someone she did not love, let alone give up her dreams and her own life.
Livi couldn't decide, she chose to send her sister away, but still asked her to help send a letter to her boyfriend.
After her sister left, she heard a song coming from the warehouse, and it was Ray who was humming the song while repairing the car.
He said that it was a song that his father used to sing to them when he was a child, and he was trying to think about it so that he could sing it to his baby later.
Ray's delicate and gentle heart also made Livi's heart become soft.
On her way home, Livi found an air raid shelter with many treasures, Bronze Age arrows and whole cans of flint, which was undoubtedly her interest.
Livi happily showed Ray the treasure she had found, and looking at her excited look, Ray couldn't help but raise the corners of his mouth.
But later, Ray mistakenly thought that the things in the sack were garbage and wanted to clean it up.
Fortunately, Li wei found out in time to let these things survive.
Although Ray immediately apologized, Livy was still very sad, in her eyes, these things are history, are imprints.
Their gap still exists.
The next day, Ray left a note on the table: There is still a lot of "garbage" in the cellar, you should like it, but be careful of dust.
Livi happily came to the cellar, moved a lot of things out of it, and carefully wiped it clean.
She became more and more accustomed to life here, and they would go together to pay homage to Ray's dead brother, and also installed a phone for the house, and Livi would take out the prepared food from the oven when she heard Ray driving back.
But on this day, Ray's face is very ugly, it is the boyfriend who replied to the letter, Ray got the letter, he was angry.
But even if he was angry, he still spoke to her as gently, which made Livi even more uncomfortable.
She read the letter from her boyfriend, who thought he was not the child's father, and asked Livi to find the child's father.
Livi was desperate, she had always thought that her boyfriend loved her and wanted to be with her, as long as she replied, there was hope, but the result was disappointing.
For such a scumbag, she also hurt Ray, she has no face to stay here, and she is not worthy of Ray's love.
I paid too much by mistake and failed too much.
When it was time to make a decision, she decided to leave.
But before she decides to leave, Ray suddenly confesses to her.
He said that from the beginning he knew that Livi had just treated their marriage as an agreement between father and priest, but he still fell in love with her and the baby in her belly.
She was the best thing that had happened to him.
Although she is a terrible cook, it doesn't matter, he can cook;
He knew that her heart was far away, and it just so happened that the town had a long history, and she could continue to go to the canyon and bomb shelter to hunt for treasure;
He took out the ring to make up for the regret of not having a ring on his wedding day.
Lei's confession touched Livi, but she could not forgive herself for always mis-paying energy and failing others, and she felt that she did not deserve Ray.
But she also wanted to try it, so she took the ring and put it on her hand.
At the end of the movie, the child is born safely, the two greet the little guy happily, they kiss together, and Ray sings the song to him.
Livi decided to stay and continue to feel the warmth, beauty and love that this place brought her.
All feelings do not come from the vigorous, but from the bits and pieces of ordinary and small things.
Livi no longer feels lonely, she has a home, she has a lover, and even some small frictions are harmless, because it is full of happiness.
Living a simple life may be the greatest charm of life, without any intention, and it is precious to follow the quiet flow of time.
It turns out that plain is the truth, and ordinary is the essence of love.
04
There is a lyric in the song "Someone You Loved" that goes like this:
I need somebody to heal,
Somebody to know,
Somebody to have,
Somebody to hold,
It's easy to say,
But It's never the same.
Translated as Chinese means something like this:
I need someone to heal, someone to understand me, someone to accompany, someone to rely on, easy to say, but not easy.
Everyone who comes up during the trough can be a salvation.
We all want to meet someone like Ray, gentle, considerate, kind, and will carefully let you open a rose on your wound.
It's like you're hiding in a dark corner, but he walks gently with a lamp and gently asks: Can I sit here?
He will understand you, he will hurt you, he will amaze you for the rest of your life.
Someone said:
The person who loves you the most is not rushing to your light, but when he sees you struggling in the mud, he gently extends his hand despite your embarrassment.
Icing on the cake and charcoal in the snow are two different things, and I always succumb to tenderness.
A lot of people like you because you're a bit sensible, pretty and good looking.
And some people like you because you're crying, understand your wretchedness, and want to give you shoulders, candy, and love.
Is it okay for such a person not to let him/her lose?
Although I am not a gentle person, I am willing to do all the gentle things for such a person.
END
The highest state of love: no license, no marriage, sleeping in separate rooms, living together for 20 years but still loving as ever
Some people, if you miss it, you will miss it: there will be weak water for the sea, and then send acacia to Wushan
Sister-brother love myth: In the relationship, the age really does not matter, because this is a male-female relationship
Some people, just stay in your heart, don't have to expect to stay around, please be smart when you say goodbye
When I got married, my mom said, "Don't go the way I've walked." ”
About the author: a southern girl, severe procrastination, a strange person in a carnival, yearning for the snow in the north, wanting to share a story with you.
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