In Jin Yong's "Smiling Proud of the Rivers and Lakes", there is a kind of kung fu called "Star Absorbing Dafa": "This [Star Absorbing Dafa], created from the "Qiaoyao Sect" during the Northern Song Dynasty, is divided into two ways: "Northern Meditation God Gong" and "Huagong Dafa". Later, it was passed down from the Dali Duan clan and the Xingsu Sect and merged into one, called the "Star Absorbing Dafa", which mainly inherited the "Huagong Dafa" all the way. It's just that scholars can't do it, and it's quite flawed. ”
The strength of this kind of kung fu is that it can absorb the internal strength of the master for their own use, thereby enhancing their own cultivation. Unless you encounter someone with particularly strong skills, there is no internal force that can resist it.
But it also has shortcomings, the use of star-sucking Dafa must have a deep internal force or the correct method of suppression, otherwise, it will be repulsed by the inhaled internal force.
Ling Fox Chong almost died because of practicing the Star Absorbing Dafa.
Later, Ren Yixing was improved to fuse the internal forces of the xenomorphs without sequelae.
Such a star-absorbing Dafa can also be regarded as a masterpiece.
In fact, in marriage, some men are also particularly good at using the "Star Absorbing Dafa".
For example, the three marriages experienced by Jin Yong and the year-long love of the French sculptor August Rodin are the process of their practice of star-sucking Dafa.
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Wuxia novelist Jin Yong had three marriages.
His wife Du Yefang is a lady of a famous and prestigious family in Hangzhou, although Jin Yong himself is also a son of everyone, but the family road has long been lost, and even if he marries, he is a cultural celebrity who is invited by the woman to come forward to feast.
The woman's brother said that their wedding banquet was extravagant, hollowing out half of the woman's family.
After marriage, Jin Yong took Du Yefang to Hong Kong to work hard.
When he arrived in Hong Kong, he was busy with work all day, rarely spent time with his wife, and even spent a year in Beijing, leaving her alone in an empty house.
Du Yefang did not understand Cantonese, no one communicated, the gap in living standards, the neglect of her husband, so that she could only talk to her pet dog, unable to adapt to life in Hong Kong, and finally returned to Hangzhou, divorced Jin Yong.
Jin Yong's second wife is his former colleague Zhu Mei, who is young and beautiful, exquisite and strong, good in English, and highly literate, much like Jin Yong's Huang Rong.
In her career, she is also like Huang Rong, doing her best for Jin Yong's future.
She joined Jin Yong's Ming Pao, worked hard with him, and suffered and suffered together.
Two people can't afford two cups of coffee, so they buy one and drink it separately.
Working overtime until late at night, you can only take the cheapest ferry home, and the leisure activities on weekends are just a bus minibus to cruise the river.
Sometimes the newspaper could not pay her salary, and Zhu Mei had to sell her jewelry to solve the urgent need.
In life, she gave birth to two boys and two girls for Jin Yong, these four children were all raised by her one hand, and at the same time, both inside and outside the home, she took care of them with one hand.
Even Jin Yong's meals were cooked at home and sent from her home in Kowloon to the newspaper office on Hong Kong Island.
02.
Zhu Mei combines the abilities of working women with the virtues of traditional women, and is even more perfect than Huang Rong.
But Jin Yong is not Guo Jing.
He cheated in marriage, and the object of the cheating was Lin Leyi, a waiter at the restaurant.
Lin Leyi was just 16 years old at the time, 29 years younger than Jin Yong, from a poor background, and his education level was not high.
Compared with Zhu Mei, she only has the advantage of age and appearance.
Lin Leyi can attract Jin Yong's attention, which is very simple to say.
Jin Yong went to the restaurant where she worked to eat and gave her a tip of ten yuan, Lin Leyi recognized him, took the initiative to talk, said that he liked to read his novels, and said that it was not easy for him to make money writing, and did not want his tip.
Therefore, Jin Yong sighed: This girl is so simple and unpretentious, it is not the same as those enchanting xxx outside...
Soon, he fell seriously ill, Lin Leyi took the initiative to take care of her, Jin Yong did not refuse, and hid her in the golden house.
At first, he only wanted to treat Lin Leyi as an outer room, and he dragged on for many years without divorce.
However, Zhu Mei was highly educated and did not want the two women to serve a husband, repeatedly quarreled with Jin Yong, and eventually divorced him.
Lin Leyi thus ascended to the throne and became the third Mrs. Cha.
After 20 years of marriage, Zhu Mei's internal strength was sucked out and exhausted.
After the divorce, she was physically and mentally devastated, lost the ability to start over, did not remarry, and had no intention of working.
In the end, the old age is bleak and depressed.
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After marrying Lin Leyi, Jin Yong began to be eaten back.
His divorce from Zhu Mei left her depressed and his reputation and image plummeting.
He himself admitted to being sorry for Zhu Mei: "She has always treated me very well, I am grateful, but I am sorry for her, what should not be done, I have done." ”
His most qualified son, Cha Chuanxia, was abandoned by his girlfriend after a failed divorce against his parents, and he chose to commit suicide when he was only nineteen years old.
However, Jin Yong was 48 years old, which should have been the peak of his creation, but he never wrote a new work.
It can be said that all his works were written during his marriage to Zhu Mei.
After marrying Lin Leyi, he once said in an interview with Dialogue: "My own love life is not very complete, nor can it be poignant, in short, it is not very complete, not very ideal!" ”
Rumor has it that Lin Leyi is very strict about his daily life, diet, and living, and Jin Yong obeys her.
She lost her temper, and Jin Yong could only hold back from returning her mouth.
In fact, it is very common for old and frail men to be subject to young wives.
Spiritually, the two people are not harmonious, Jin Yong once let Lin Leyi go to Australia to study, but the other party did not have the heart to study, just went to school and gilded a gold and came back.
Although the marriage is not ideal, Jin Yong has no strength to divorce again, and can only live on.
On October 30, 2018, Jin Yong died in Hong Kong at the age of 94.
Jin Yong is a typical egoist in marriage.
His first wife left him, and he was in his 70s still accusing her of betraying him in public.
But she has long since died, has there been any betrayal, and how to verify it?
The second wife gave him full support and help, but he cheated on her in marriage, cared indifferent to her after the divorce, and let her fall to her death.
The third wife took care of him for forty years, performed a sterilization in order to marry him, and gave up the right to be a mother, but he still said in front of the media that he was not satisfied with her, and it was enough.
Even because the marriage was not happy, the ending of "Tianlong Babu" was rewritten.
In the first two parts of the "Eight Parts of the Heavenly Dragon", Duan Yu hugged the beauty to return, but in the new version, the ending was: "After Duan Yu hugged the beauty, she suddenly found that the original she loved was the stone statue, and the real person made her lose interest." After Wang Yuyan discovered his indifference, she lost confidence in her appearance, looked for fangzi who was immortal, and finally pushed down the statue of the immortal sister. After the effort failed, she offered to leave, and Duan Yu did not keep it. In the end, she returned to the crazy Murong Fu and accompanied Murong Fu with Abi. ”
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The French sculptor Rodin, the author of The Thinker, is no less than Jin Yong.
He had many lovers in his life, including female models, students, noble ladies, ji women, etc.
Ruth Burray, the seamstress who accompanied him throughout his life, lived together for more than fifty years before getting married, had an illegitimate child, and half a month after their marriage, Ruth Burley died.
He also had a very important lover, Camille Claudel.
Camille, 18, was also a sculptural genius with a beautiful appearance and had been Rodin's model and assistant.
When she met Rodin, he was 43 years old and already a well-known sculptor in the industry.
The two people are in love.
He called her: "Morning sun, my morning light." ”
She said, "I love you madly." ”
They moved together and began a decade-long underground love affair.
Camille worked endlessly in Rodin's studio, but there were very few works under her name, and her efforts were absorbed by Rodin.
Rodin did not give her a fixed salary or pay her to model.
Later, Camille's mother learned of their relationship and swept Camille out of the house.
Rodin paid only her rent and expenses, and gave her only the treatment of a "mistress", rather than getting self-reliance from the salary she deserved.
Ten years later, Camille, who had multiple abortions and miscarriages, broke off relations with Rodin, who was 28 years old at the time.
"I don't care about poverty and suffering, but I want to live a dignified life, and this kind of unclear waiting has fed me up," she said. ”
When she left, she found herself working for him day and night without a single decent piece of clothing and shoes.
Although she left Rodin, her love and thoughts for him never stopped.
Stubborn, she was reluctant to accept the so-called official recognition and wanted to declare war on Rodin at the World Exposition, but the public had mixed praise for her work, all praise was given to Rodin, and denigration and criticism were given to her.
Soon, she couldn't receive any orders, and making ends meet became a problem.
She didn't have a job and wanted to be recognized by the industry.
But her former lover Rodin jumped out and put the plagiarized hat on her head, giving her a fatal blow.
Under such a blow, her mental condition became worse and worse, and she developed symptoms of paranoia, and she could only close the door and not go out.
At the age of 49, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia and spent 30 years in an insane asylum until she died at the age of 79.
She had no relatives, no inheritance, most of her works were lost, and even her bones were nowhere to be found.
To make matters worse, no one talks about her, and in Rodin's book she is only occasionally referred to as "Miss C," or "a female artist."
Ning Caishen once ridiculed men's pursuit of women at different stages: "When I was a teenager, I wanted to meet a Nie Xiaoqian, Fought for my life, and took her soul away before dawn. When I was young, I wanted to meet a Bai Suzhen, the family was big, what to have, after eating soft rice and wiping her mouth, there was someone responsible for locking her up in leifeng pagoda. In middle age, I want a snail girl, gentle and lovely, red sleeves to add incense, writing in the middle of the night tired, let her change back to the original shape, add dried peppers, peppercorns, ginger, garlic slices stir-fry, drizzle sesame oil, pot and plate. ”
Therefore, for women, it is really necessary to be careful that in marriage, the internal force is sucked out by the star-sucking Dafa, and from then on, they lose the ability to make a living, the courage to live, and the mentality of self-healing, in that case, even if you try harder, it is just the fertilizer under the man's tree, and he has prospered others and saved himself.