Chen Yinke photo
On the well-read Tsinghua campus, Chen Yinke, a limping, disheveled and skinny Man, was talking to his friend about a poem.
At that time, Chen Yinke, an older "leftover man" who was nearly forty years old, did not expect that this poem had already secretly connected him with an older "leftover woman".
We all know that Chen Yinke, a master of traditional Chinese studies, has a historiographical achievement that countless people admire and a great contribution to traditional Chinese studies, but few people know that his love and marriage are also admirable.
Speaking of Chen Yinke's marriage and love history, his father Chen Sanli can be said to have contributed to his love marriage.
Chen Yinke was born into a famous family, and his father was Chen Sanli, one of the "Four Princes of the Late Qing Dynasty", who was a famous poet who was a well-known poet who was very popular.
Under the influence of the family academic atmosphere, Chen Yinke has embarked on the road of studying abroad since he was young.
Chen Yinke's father, Chen Sanli
At that time, Chen Yinke, with a simple heart, carried out "two ears do not hear things outside the window, and only read the books of the sages" to the fullest. From the beginning of his studies to the time he returned to China to teach, his eyes and heart were only learning and research, and he could no longer hold other things.
But even if people have knowledge and achievements, they cannot only live a lifetime with academia. Sure enough, Chen Yinke, a thirty-six-year-old leftover man, was finally urged to marry by his father Chen Sanli.
At that time, Chen Sanli was also old, and looking at Chen Yinke, who only knew how to go back and forth between teaching, work, and research every day, but had never seen the signs of marriage events, he was naturally angry.
Therefore, one day, after Chen Yinke returned home, Chen Sanli mentioned to him about starting a family.
Chen Yinke in his youth
But who knows, as a "nerd", Chen Yinke could not see his father's anxiety and the seriousness of the matter, but casually replied perfunctorily: "Marrying a wife is just a small thing in life", and then closed the door to study.
After that, day after day, on the one hand, Chen Sanli was anxiously waiting for the news of Chen Yinke's girlfriend every day, while on the other hand, he talked to his friends: "It is a great shame that his knowledge and moral character are not as good as others. What is there to be ashamed of marrying a wife that is inferior to others? ”
It is enough to see Chen Yinke's emphasis on learning and his indifference to marriage.
But this realistic university person who treats marriage and love lightly, at that time, he did not expect that his heart would be subdued by a female teacher in the future, and composed an ideal story.
After a period of time, Chen Sanli saw that his son's marriage affair had not been settled for a long time, and Chen Yinke had never had the idea of marrying a wife, so he was really anxious.
He gave Chen Yinke an final "ultimatum": "If you don't marry a wife again, I will give you a dowry", and Chen Sanli will personally plan a lifelong event for Chen Yinke.
Seeing his father's stern and urgent look, Chen Yinke knew that his marriage event was inevitable.
Although Chen Yinke's attitude toward marriage was understated, this did not mean that he would obediently accept feudal arranged marriages. As a progressive young man who has studied abroad for many years, he is also afraid that his father will find him a woman who does not fit in and will trap himself for the rest of his life.
In view of this, he was kind and reassuring, and asked his father to give him some time, and he would definitely find a good couple to marry. But this is undoubtedly difficult for Chen Yinke, who has only focused on studying knowledge and has not talked about love once.
The pressure on Chen Sanli's side was enough, but at this time, Chen Yinke was still living in a friend's house and living with Zhao Yuanren and Yang Buwei.
Zhao Yuanren and Yang Buwei
The days of living in Zhao Yuanren's home were very satisfactory to Chen Yinke, and There was no worry about clothes, food, and housing with Yang Buwei to take care of, and zhao Yuanren exchanged academically, and he was overjoyed, so he said: "I would like to have a home, but I don't want to start a family." ”
Zhao Yuanren and his wife have great respect for Chen Yinke, and although the life of the three is harmonious, the couple believes that Chen Yinke has been alone and is not a long-term solution, so they knock on the side of his marriage.
Who knew that Chen Yinke did not feel inappropriate after hearing it, and only said: "Although it is not a long-term eternal plan, it is also very happy now." ”
Zhao Yuanren was also anxious when he heard this, and immediately quipped: "I can't let my wife manage two homes!" Chen Yinke listened that he could no longer "lai" at his friend's house, and it was time to find someone to live with.
Photo of Zhao Yuanren
The urging of his father and the "dislike" of his friends completely pulled Chen Yinke from the beauty of academic and partner life to the "cruel" reality, and he finally embarked on the road of "blind date".
Someone said, "Could there be two people like that?" I was born to meet. "One second earlier, one second later, fate seems to have been predestined."
The woman who was close to her was None other than Tang Yun, the granddaughter of the patriotic general Tang Jingsong whom Chen Yinkei admired. Also, the author of the poems that Chen Yinke talks about with his friends.
One day, Chen Yinke was chatting with a friend, and the friend accidentally mentioned that he had seen a poem hanging on the wall in the home of a female teacher, and the poem was a person named "Nan Zhusheng", which made him very puzzled, so as to ask the erudite Chen Yinke.
Chen Yin pondered slightly, "'Nan Zhusheng' is another name for Tang Jingsong of Guanyang, Guangxi, so it seems that this must be Tang Jingsong's granddaughter." ”
Chen Yinke had read Tang Jingsong's "Diary of Please Miao" and admired Tang Jingsong's patriotism and the courage of the people, so he wanted to visit the hero's descendants.
After being introduced by friends, Chen Yinke and Tang Yun were finally going to meet on a blind date. According to Tang Yun's personal description of the scene when the two first met, it was very interesting.
Tang Yun in his youth
Tang Yun waited early in the park dressed, only to see a man in a robe in the distance, untrimmed and walking high and low, walking high and low.
Although Tang Yun is not a person who judges people by appearance, when he encounters this scene, he inevitably has some gaps and doubts in his heart.
After the two talked, Tang Yun asked Chen Yinke why his legs and feet were so and so, and Chen Yinke did not shy away from it, frankly saying that this was caused by the long-term wearing of unsuitable shoes when he studied abroad, so that he became a cripple.
In the face of Chen Yinke's frankness and frankness, Tang Yun felt that he was very cute. Chen Yinke's side had long been attracted by Tang Yun's elegant conversation. In this way, Chen Yinke and Tang Yun met and hated each other late, and fell in love at first sight.
In the days that followed, Chen Yinke often asked Tang Yun to meet together. After coming and going, the two had a deep relationship, and after half a year, they decided to live for life and entered the marriage hall.
This year, Chen Yinke was thirty-eight years old and Tang Yun was thirty years old.
Tang Yun's wedding photo
The married life of the two is very happy and envious of others. But with that comes the pain that follows.
The following year, Tang Yun gave birth to a daughter for Chen Yinke, which was supposed to be a family affair, but it made Chen Yinke's heart ache.
Tang Yun had been suffering from myocarditis before, the eldest daughter had too much head circumference, and the delivery process was long and difficult, resulting in infection and heart disease.
Tang Yun on the hospital bed was dying, almost separated from her husband and daughter. But at that time, Tang Yun seemed to hear a voice coming straight from the bottom of his heart: "It is very difficult for him to be plagued by illness himself, how can I rest assured that he is suffering alone." ”
Chen Yinke hugged her daughter
The weak Tang Yun survived alone with his extreme deep love for Chen Yinke. But since then, she has also been suffering from pain and can only rely on drugs to survive.
Chen Yinke often warned his daughter: "You can disrespect me, but you must respect your mother." The mother is the main backbone of the family, and there is no home without the mother. It was enough to see Chen Yinke's gratitude and pity for his wife.
Although Tang Yun's own body was already weak, it was as if she could never see her physical condition, and her eyes could only contain Chen Yinke's physical form.
Tang Yun knew from before he decided to marry Chen Yinke that his physical condition was not very good.
When Chen Yinke was a teenager, he did not eat and dress well when he traveled abroad to study, and he was picky about eating, resulting in some malnutrition in his body. Lameness, low vision, coupled with excessive mental work in long-term research and learning, made Chen Yinke's physique very weak.
Chen Yinke Tang Yun with his daughter
Before Tang Yun married Chen Yinke, she was also a well-known bridesmaid, and she had never done the rough work of chai rice oil and salt, but for Chen Yinke's body, she single-handedly supported the family's large and small affairs, and took care of her husband and children all the time.
Tang Yun has a "food ingredient list", the contents of which are all handwritten by herself, involving the name of the food, nutritional ingredients, calories, etc., all very meticulous.
She also learned from friends how to extract vitamin B, and learned to make a variety of homemade toast, only because Chen Yinke did not like to eat buns.
Every time Tang Yun ate in his life, he would always pay attention to Chen Yinke's diet. If he ate a lot, Tang Yun would smile at the corners of his mouth, and if he ate very little, then Tang Yun would frown in worry and feel depressed.
At that time, the situation was turbulent and the war was not endless, and Chen Yinke's family often moved and traveled from place to place. Chen Yinke's academic work was heavy, but his body was getting weaker and weaker.
In order to replenish the weak Chen Yinke, Tang Yun dragged her weak body and ran to a distant street to buy a goat for him, and after the ewe gave birth to a cub, she began to learn to milk the cow herself.
At that time, Tang Yun's body had also been plagued by disease for a long time, and after milking, she hurriedly gave it to Chen Yinke to drink, not caring about her dizziness and weakness at all.
She loved Chen Yinke to the bone, so much so that she couldn't imagine that she was also a patient who relied on drugs to maintain her life, and only wanted to make Chen Yinke's body get better as soon as possible.
Chen Yinke's family
In addition to taking care of his diet, Tang Yun also paid attention to cultivating Chen Yinke's life routine and physical exercise, "forcing" Chen Yinke to take a lunch break and take a walk.
Once, a scholar went to Chen Yinke's house to pay respects to Master Chen and asked him to correct the paper. Tang Yun told him that Chen Yinke was taking a nap and asked him to wait a little while and then ask for advice when Chen Yinke woke up.
Who knew that at this time, Chen Yinke suddenly walked out of the bedroom, Tang Yun was very unhappy to see this, Chen Yinke explained: "I am not asleep in bed,...... So I got up. After hearing this, Tang Yun said, "A nap is a nap, and if you can't sleep, you must rest." ”
Under Tang Yun's arrangement, Chen Yinke went to Central Park for a tea walk after dinner to enhance his own physique.
Chen Yinke Tang Yun was walking
If Tang Yun's meticulous care for Chen Yinke in life was tear-jerking, then her later sacrifice of herself for Chen Yinke's love and fearlessness was straight to the point of destroying people's livers.
Before Tang Yun taught in the school, she was an extremely responsible teacher, but in order to allow Chen Yinke to professionally study and learn and teach without worries, Tang Yun took the initiative to quit her teaching job.
This is undoubtedly a heavy blow to Tang Yun, who loves her career, but she does not complain a word, but wholeheartedly devotes herself to Chen Yinke's life and work.
Tang Yun's support is not only spiritual and life support, but also the front line of academic work with Chen Yinke.
Chen Yinke, who was already blind after his retinal detachment, once described the second half of his life as follows: "Zuo Qiu was blind, his grandson was on his feet, and he was in the western mountains at dusk."
At that time, he dragged his half-dead body and still adhered to the lifelong principle of not taking leave of absence in every class to teach students.
When Chen Yinke's former assistant did not say goodbye, Tang Yun did not hesitate to take up the position of assistant and assist Chen Yinke in consulting materials, compiling lecture notes, classroom lectures, and other matters.
Chen Yinke (right) and Tang Yun (left)
Later, after Mr. Huang Xuan and others came to serve as Chen Yinke's assistant, Tang Yun could relax a little.
However, Tang Yun still did not stop, but in the afternoon or evening gap, he helped Chen Yinke to review the manuscript, arrange the anthology, and make all the preparations for the publication of Chen Yinke's anthology.
During the social chaos, Chen Yinke was insulted and beaten by inhumans. In order not to let Chen Yinke suffer pain, the weak Tang Yun blocked Chen Yinke's body every time, bearing successive heavy blows for him.
In his later years, Chen Yinke, under the evil words of the disease and the vicious words of society, punched and kicked, was already bedridden and unable to eat.
Under the pressure of life and society, his wife Tang Yun's heart disease became more and more serious, and he was almost paralyzed. The husband and wife could only look at each other helplessly, weeping miserably, and a sad and desolate heart.
Chen Yinke in old age
At the time of extreme pain, Chen Yinke tearfully wrote an elegy for his wife Tang Yun: "Weeping on the cow clothes, thirty years into the history of intestinal fragmentation." The crippled leopard is hidden, and the nine springs are waiting for the eyes to dry up."
He hoped that his wife would leave him first and get rid of the suffering and pain brought to her by his life as soon as possible.
After Tang Yun saw it, the tears flowed unceasingly, and he was even more determined to walk behind Chen Yinke.
On October 7, 1969, Chen Yin died in pain, leaving Tang Yun alone in this world to bear the pain.
At that time, Tang Yun did not cry bitterly, nor did he cry secretly on the side, but supported his weak body, which was already plagued by illness and labor for most of his life, took care of the affairs behind her husband and did the last care of his life.
"One generation and one couple in a lifetime, fighting for two souls", Tang Yun at that time, his heart was definitely tearing his heart and lungs. The lover has gone, and she has budgeted for her own day of departure.
Sure enough, after arranging Chen Yinke's posthumous affairs, she returned home at ease.
She went to see her husband who had loved all her life, cared for her whole life, and protected her all her life. She loved Chen Yin ke very much, and she couldn't trust him all her life, so how could she bear to let him be alone and helpless over there.
Chen Yinke and his wife Tang Yun walked hand in hand through their lives, allowing the wind and rain to come and go, and always got along with each other. This sentiment has been long and long, through the wind and rain of the times, and has been extended to this day.
The world said that Tang Yun was born for Chen Yinke, and also died for him. In this regard, Tang Yun's treatment of Chen Yinke is not the embodiment of the humility of love, on the contrary, it is the greatness of love without words.
Chen Yinke once put forward the "fifth-class love theory":
First, the one who is the highest in love, there is no one in the world. That is, falling in love with strangers to the point where they can die for them.
Second, those who have good knowledge with others, but those who have not tried to share the pillow are secondary. That is, there is only spiritual love, no physical action.
Third, and secondly, it was once a pillow and will never be forgotten. That is, to the point of having only one bedtime, but falling in love with each other for life.
Fourth, the second is the husband and wife who have never had an affair for life. That is, husband and wife will stay together for a lifetime.
Fifth, the lowest one, everywhere, but desire is the picture, and it does not matter. That is, only lustfully and arbitrarily combined, there is no trace of love to speak of.
He classified his marital love with Tang Yun as the fourth class, but the love between the two of them was so deep that it had already surpassed the first class and could not be divided and described by rank. Such a deep affection is so deep that it makes people's liver and intestines cut off.
Chen Yinke and Tang Yun
"Death and life are broad, and Zi cheng said." Hold the hand of the son, and grow old with the son" said.