In love, the boy who loves him thinks that the girl in front of him is like the bright moon, pure and pure, white and immaculate; and his beloved girl thinks that he is the fiery sun, the sun is like fire, and the enthusiasm is unrestrained.
Love makes us blind, unable to see the essence and the truth. People in love are attracted to a certain point in each other's body, which may be appearance, may be personality, or may be material abundance. If you pay attention to appearance, you will be attracted to people who are outstanding in appearance; if you care about personality, you will be attracted to people with good personalities; if you pay attention to material things, you will be attracted to people who are rich. And what attracts you will become more and more radiant in love, making you more and more paranoid about each other's cognition. When people are in love, they will ignore the friends around them and will underestimate the environment everywhere, because they only have each other in their eyes and cannot see these subtle environments. Why is early love always discovered by the teacher in school, because two people in love forget that they are in school, and their every move cannot escape the teacher's eyes. Why is it that when in love, the wind and rain are smooth, and the preparation for marriage is resisted by all parties of family and friends, because two people in love only care about each other, and do not consider the impact on their happiness with family and friends.
The phenomenon of the lover's eyes is called the "halo effect" in psychology, also known as the "halo effect". Love gives each other an aura in their ideal state. "Halo effect" means that people's cognition of others comes from the initial impression, and then deduces other aspects from the initial impression, which is what we often say, "to partial generalization". If the initial impression is good, then all good qualities are added to the person; and if the initial impression is bad, all negative qualities are added to the person.
In fact, both parties are idealized, and on the basis of the advantages you know about the other party, the advantages that you do not understand or even the other party does not have are automatically added. This is an aesthetic illusion, the male and female in love for the examination of the beauty of the opposite sex has an illusion, this aesthetic illusion is also meaningful, it allows people to explore each other's deep advantages to compensate for some deficiencies, better promote the development of love. However, if there is no correct aesthetic consciousness itself, or the aesthetic illusion in love is unreasonable to a certain extent, it will have a negative effect.
When the love breaks down, the two will find the original blindness. At this time, people will look at the feelings of the past through a more objective perspective. Thinking back to the advice and advice of my friends, why I was indifferent, at that time, there were only the advantages of each other. When the relationship is over, you can face up to the problems of this relationship.
Men and women in love are easily confused by each other's little good, take each other's little strengths as all, think that lovers are the most perfect, and even no one in this world can compare with them.
Why "the lover's eyes out of the West"? Because, "the IQ of both men and women in love is negative."
