Author: The Healing Girl
The opening sentence of the original book of "Half Life" has this sentence:
"The days go by really fast, especially for people after middle age, ten years and eight years seem to refer to things that are between the two." But for young people, three years and five years can be a lifetime. ”
This sentence seems to describe Shi Jun and Man Zhen, but it is actually suitable for every character in the book. In the most critical three or five years of life, everyone has gone to a path that should not belong to them.
Today I mainly write about the three women in it: Man Zhen, Man Lu and Cui Zhi.
None of them had a good ending, it could even be said to be a tragedy. Man Zhen was ruined by Zhu Hongcai, gave birth to a child, married Zhu Hongcai again, and finally divorced.
Man Lu thought that if she helped Zhu Hongcai get Man Zhen, she would be treated kindly, but as a result, Zhu Hongcai's dead nature did not change, and her body was crushed alive, and eventually she died of hatred.
Cui Zhi's life seems to be stable, but he has no feelings for Shi Jun, and his life is lonely and lonely. Their fate may seem to be the result of personal choices or family pressures, but from a larger perspective, they are only products of the old society.
The morality and ethics of that era, the oppression of women, was like a prison that left them unable to breathe and without a way out.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >01-enveloping men, persecuted women</h1>
In fact, Man Zhen is the most conscious woman in the whole book, she is very independent, a bit like a modern woman, thinking that career is more important than love.
When Shi Jun proposed marriage to her, she said:
"What if you have children?" Once you have more children, you can't go out to do things, and you have to bear the expenses of these two households alone. I have seen this kind of thing a lot, in addition to raising a family, the father-in-law's family must also rely on him, forcing him to catch money when he sees it, and do everything, then what future is there. ”
It is hard to imagine that Man Zhen, who is so strong, will eventually marry Zhu Hongcai.
What was the public opinion about women at that time? You can get a glimpse of one or two from Mrs. Gu's mouth.
When Mrs. Gu learned that Man Zhen had been ruined by Zhu Hongcai, her attitude was to let Man Zhen marry Zhu Hongcai, which was the best way to save her reputation.
When Man Lu told her that Man Zhen had been making trouble, she said, "Oh, this child is so ignorant, how can this kind of thing be shouted, she has no face." ”
The theory of guilt for female victims is like a flood of beasts.
Women are hurt, and no one cries against men, but thinks women are dirty. What made me most angry was that from the beginning to the end, no one stood up to accuse Zhu Hongcai of the evil deeds he had done, he lived so neatly, only Man Zhen was like a person who had made a mistake.
What's even more frightening is that a woman loses her "virginity" and you have to marry that man.
Take a look at Man Lu's advice to Man Zhen:
"But he has always respected you, and if he hadn't been drunk yesterday, he wouldn't have dared to do that again." As long as you are willing to forgive him, he will always repay you well in the future, and he will never change his heart for you anyway. ”
A woman's ruin, to outsiders, is nothing more than a small mistake made by a man when he is drunk. Man Zhen will marry Zhu Hongcai, in addition to pitying the child, the entire public opinion environment is more like a behind-the-scenes pusher.
Both Mrs. Gu and Man Lu are sending three messages to Man Zhen:
First: Zhu Hongcai did not mean it, but was confused before he made a big mistake.
Second: Zhu Hong is sincere, and he is different from others to Man Zhen.
Third: Man Zhen is no longer clean, except for marrying Zhu Hongcai, no one will want her.
Regarding these remarks, Man Zhen went from resisting at the beginning, to being indifferent, to accepting.
Deep inside Man Zhen, she also felt that she did not deserve to be loved. After escaping, she wanted to ask Shen Shijun for help, but her psychological activities were:
She could see him when she saw him, but she felt vague, and she felt uncertain about him. She remembered the conservative side of his personality. Even if he fully understands her, will he still be able to love her as he once did?
Even after marrying Zhu Hongcai, man Zhen's deep inner hurt could not offset half a point.
"She doesn't interact with anyone and wants to hide herself in a black hole. She herself always had a sense of impurity. ”
The tragedy of Man Zhen is the sadness of the entire public opinion environment. What is even more frightening is that this kind of public opinion pushes women into the abyss, and women have become accomplices of public opinion.
Man Zhen and Mrs. Gu are oppressed by feudal thought, but they impose this oppression on their kind, and they are unconscious.
If Man Zhen had lived in this era, her fate might have been completely different. Although the current public opinion environment is still biased against women, it is not so ignorant.
An evil person like Zhu Hongcai should be punished by the law, and Man Zhen does not have to live like a sinner.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 use women as tools</h1>
Man Lu's fate is even more tragic than Man Zhen's, and she is not respected as a person from beginning to end. Before getting married, I became a cash cow in the family.
After getting married, he became Zhu Hongcai's plaything. Her short life was spent in desolation and unwillingness. She was charged with the crime of "dancing girl" and was spurned by thousands of people.
Shen Shijun's father, Shen Xiaotong, and uncle Feng Jusun had intersected with Man Lu, and while enjoying this kind of red wine, they stepped on Man Lu under their feet.
It can be said that they brought out the selfishness and viciousness of the men of the old society to the fullest.
Feng Jusun said:
"Once I heard someone say that Li Lu (Man Lu's name in the dance hall) married someone and came out again, and she no longer became a dancer, which was simply a private prostitute. I said, I'd like to go and see if she's on a shelf. ”
Shen Xiaotong also felt very happy when he heard about Li Lu's recent situation, and he sighed and said, "I didn't expect this person to fall so quickly!" ”
The tone and gesture of their conversation about Manlu was full of superiority, as if Manlu was like a cheap commodity.
Man Lu once told Man Zhen that if he had been like a martyr, the family would not have survived. For her, similar foul language, she had heard countless times.
But what can she do, for the sake of the family's livelihood, she can only survive. In such a social environment, it is impossible for Manlu to live a normal life.
The oppression of patriarchal thought pushed Manlu step by step into the abyss.
Man Zhen once said:
"I don't think there's anything unseemly about my sister, she's not wrong, it's this unreasonable society that forces her to do this." To say immoral, I don't know who the clients and prostitutes are more immoral. ”
Sadly, such a prostitute gets cheap and builds a chastity arch for himself.
Isn't Zhu Hongcai also one of the prostitutes? He wants to possess Manlu as a person, but he is not willing to formally marry Manlu or give her the treatment of his wife.
In other words, Zhu Hongcai did not regard Man Lu as an adult at all, but a tool, which was used for fun when he was happy, and thrown aside when he was unhappy. He once said that Manlu was a rotten filth and didn't want a face.
What is even more frightening is that in the face of Zhu Hongcai's various behaviors, Mrs. Gu did not blame him, but asked Man Lu not to mess with him, to forgive him more, even if he wanted to marry his aunt, there was a first-come, first-served.
You see, in the family, men are never wrong, and only women are the only ones who tolerate it. Because Man Lu had been beaten before, she could not have children, and Mrs. Gu still thought that this was Man Lu's fault.
Mrs. Gu was the biggest accomplice of the patriarchal society, and her thoughts represented the thoughts of most people in that era.
Dancers are dirty, husbands are unfaithful is a woman's fault, and inability to have children is a woman's original sin. Under such ideological oppression, Man Lu had no way to retreat.
She can only find a sense of value in that sparse marriage. After all, she failed to do so, and her husband's viciousness and the stubbornness of the disease completely killed this life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 makes women's happiness a trade</h1>
Trichi should be the luckiest of the three women. She has not suffered from poverty, does not need to drift for life, and is born without worry.
However, behind this miss qianjin, there is too much pressure. This pressure comes from the family, but also from the whole society.
Mrs. Shi is very worried about Cuizhi's marriage, but in fact it is only controlled in the name of love. There is no love between Cui Zhi and Shi Jun at all, but the family is constantly matching.
Why? Because the door is right, no one will lose. At this time, Cui Zhi was just used as a tool for the family to seek benefits.
She fell in love with Shuhui, but the gap between the two was too great, and Mrs. Shi sentenced him to death at the beginning. Later, Cui Zhi and Yi Peng got engaged, but Cui Zhi could not let go of Shu Hui, so she proposed to withdraw from the marriage.
With this resignation, Cui Zhi has become a problem figure in the eyes of others. It's not like women who are now old and unmarried, always face all kinds of criticism.
Under the pressure of public opinion, Cui Zhi and Shi Jun reunited again and chose to settle down. On the night of the wedding, Trichi collapsed:
"Shi Jun, what to do, you don't like me either." How many times have I thought about it, if I hadn't made a fuss once before--people would have said, how come I always quit marriage, what did I say? It's too late now, you say it's too late? ”
This marriage is not at all what Cui Zhi wants, but it is an original sin for women not to marry.
For Miss Qianjin like Cui Zhi, she can't withstand such public opinion pressure, and she can only compromise and choose a person she doesn't love but others feel like a match.
Sadly, decades later, this public opinion environment has not changed.
Older, unmarried women are always labeled with all sorts of labels. Very few people can really compete with public opinion, and many more have chosen the standards that the world believes to be correct.
For society as a whole, the fate of individuals is very small. However, the value orientation of the general environment unconsciously affects the fate of everyone.
In the era of "Half Life", the idea of male power prevailed, and women could only become victims. Man Zhen, Man Lu, and Cui Zhi are all microcosm of that era, and their fate is driven by the entire public opinion environment.
They should have had a more brilliant life, but the humiliation of sluts and the guilt of the victims all became the straw that weighed on them. In such a social environment, it is ultimately impossible for people to compete with it.
In the face of the torrent of life, we are all pushed forward. Wave after wave of tides, the fate of many people changed. Now we advocate women's power because the oppression of women in patriarchal society is too deep. If the cancer of these feudal ideas is not eradicated, the fate of women can never be in their own hands.
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