"People in the city want to go out, people outside the city want to come in," a sentence from Mr. Qian Zhongshu punctured the unspeakable secrets of countless men and women. Today, many men and women are practicing the third possibility: one foot out of the wall and the other inside the wall. "Split leg" is also.
Recently, the Japanese sweet sister Sasaki Who is well known for starring in "Angel Love" was unfortunately recruited, and her husband Watanabe Ken was exposed to cheating in marriage, which is even more shocking that his cheating objects cover a wide range, from AV actresses to female sumo wrestlers, and even male artists, which can be described as unisex, young and old. Japanese media broke the news that as early as the period of exchange between the two people, Watanabe Jian could not stand the "temperament".
However, Xi Sauce does not seem to have "wielded a knife" in the face of her husband's long-term infidelity, and remains silent, according to people around her, she has no intention of divorce or separation.
In contrast, ma Yili, an actress who also suffered from "marital infidelity", appeared more atmospheric and calm, first a sentence of "and do and cherish" soared throughout the internet, establishing a tolerant and generous image of Chinese women, and then the two broke up, a sentence "This love has regrets... Rejoice in each other", "swinging on the internet.
Regarding the post-marital status, Chinese and Japanese actresses are also very different. Most Japanese actresses will choose the retirement life of "marrying a chicken with a chicken" after marriage, giving up their painstakingly managed acting careers. For example, "First Love of the Millennium" Yamaguchi Momoe, "Sunshine Lika" Suzuki Nanami, "Pop Diva" Kudo Shizuka; compared to the Japanese actress's "deferential Kenliang", the Chinese actress is more like "Desperate Sanlang", shouldering two burdens - can enter the kitchen, can go out of the hall.
These "differences" reflect the differences in women's values in Chinese and Japanese cultures. In the classic "Chrysanthemum and the Knife", there is a description that traditional Japanese culture requires women to behave in every move in accordance with etiquette, resulting in their cowardly and sensitive personalities; on the other hand, Chinese women, "calm and generous and sociable", can easily cope with different environments.
Under the influence of different cultures, it gave birth to "good women" such as Sasaki Yoshi and Miyazaki Aoi, who can endure even if they encounter betrayal and domestic violence; or give birth to Ma Yili and Zhang Yuqi, who are free women of the new era who "Ren Er a thousand words, I am carrying a knife alone".
In fact, it is their personalities that influence marriage and determine destiny.
The film "Marriage Story" has this line, "Whether you win or lose... In the end, it is still necessary for the husband and wife to face it together. ”
If love is a romantic encounter, marriage is a combination of reason. The philosopher Russell was even more to the point, saying that the essence of marriage is to reproduce.
The previous hit American drama "Deadly Woman" is also practicing the theme of "defending human traditions", even if the three housewives have been betrayed and deceived, they are still willing to believe in "humanistic kindness".
Unfortunately, "deference and virtuousness" will not make the partner more loyal, nor will it help the hopeless marriage "dead wood and spring". Reality tells every woman that marriage is a balance that two people share, and only by grasping their own position and being faithful to themselves can the balance be maintained.
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