If we are not successful in our careers as women, then we can manage our feelings well
The book "How to Get the Happiness You Want" is Yang Bingyang's masterpiece in 2017, as an emotional bestseller that has been sold for millions, it provides a good emotional private lesson for many young women who need help in their emotions.
In life, not every woman has the opportunity to succeed in her career. But if you know how to manage your own emotions and marriage, every woman can also become a little woman with a happy family, someone hurting, someone loving. And this book is also written from the perspective of being able to bring more young women emotional happiness.
Before mentioning this book, I always really liked one of the ideas in the book. It is appropriate to pay attention to their own PU and MV. And when the two change, make appropriate adjustments.
So, what is a PU?
It is an abbreviation for Paternity Uncertainty, which means parent-child uncertainty. In layman's terms, it is the sense of security that women give men. For example, the girl's dress is not exposed, will there be a lot of shoulder-to-shoulder photos with the boys, and will not talk domineeringly, drink until the night does not return home, etc., if there is, then our PU is too high, need to be appropriately lowered.
What is the MV?
The English language of the MV is Mate Value, which is the market value of marriage. It is mainly seen from eight aspects, age, looks, height, cups, weight, education, personality and family environment. If your MV is higher, then, the more popular you are. If it is not high, then we can adjust from where we can change.
In life, many single, married young women, emotions are more or less not smooth sailing, if we can clearly recognize ourselves in this regard and make appropriate adjustments. I believe that we will have a great deal to gain emotionally.
So, how do you adjust it? The content of this book can give us some help.
The book is divided into four parts: Off-List, Love, Talk, and Marriage. Each section has some emotional problem-solving tips. For example, in the off-list process, blind dates are experienced by many young girls. The book gives a lot of tips on how girls should dress, communicate, and how to grasp each link in the blind date. Including in love, marriage, there are many problem solving skills encountered in getting along and communicating.
When I was a child, I inadvertently read a sentence: "Husband and wife can divorce, lovers can break up, and only friends who know and cherish each other are the best corners of the heart." Because of the influence of my original family, this sentence made me have a negative view of love and marriage for many years to come.
I was first introduced to this book in 2018 by a friend who gave it to me when he learned that I had problems with my work. But I've never opened this book.
Until last year, after the second child was pregnant, because of three text messages in the middle of the night on the husband's mobile phone. I realized that in the more than ten years of marriage, my attitude towards marriage had led to some problems that made me have to face up to how to change the status quo.
It is precisely because of this book that it gave me the direction to change. In this year's time, through all aspects of learning, I have made great progress in getting along with my husband.
Emotions, for women, are many forms of self-love.
If, we don't have the talent and qualifications to succeed in our careers. Then, we can temporarily calm down, manage our love and marriage, and we can also get happiness. May every woman be happy.