October 15 is Qiao Renliang's 34th birthday.
Many friends spontaneously went to Qiao Renliang's cemetery to celebrate his birthday.
This is already the sixth birthday of Qiao Renliang's absence.
Some people lamented his young life, and some people spared him, but refused to let go of his parents.
It is not a good thing that a person is more famous "after death" than "before death".
On September 16, 2016, it rained a lot in Shanghai.
Qiao Renliang's parents were preparing dinner at home when the phone rang.
Qiao Renliang, who thought that qiao renliang, who had promised to go home for dinner, temporarily changed his mind, picked up the phone and said: Kimi has an accident, you come quickly.
After saying that, Joe's father quickly ran downstairs and rode out on the battery car.
It takes 20 minutes from home to Joe Renliang's apartment.
When Joe's father arrived, the ambulance had already arrived, leaving a death certificate.
Joe's dad was paralyzed.
Until that day, they didn't know that Qiao Renliang had major depression.
After Qiao Renliang's debut, he lived in Beijing, and he always reported good news but not worries, and his parents did not notice it.
Qiao Mama went to Beijing to see him, and his house had cats and dogs and two rabbits, two monkeys, and crabs, like a zoo.
He likes to be lively.
Later, when Qiao Dad looked at Qiao Renliang's information on the Internet, he learned that during that time, he smashed the crew's car and was suspected of being threatened by the director.
In Joe's father's impression, Qiao Renliang had always been gentle, which was not quite like what he would do.
Qiao Dad is a seafarer and is often not at home, and Qiao Mom is alone at home with Qiao Renliang.
Qiao Mama's health has been bad, there is asthma, after Qiao Renliang was born, Qiao Mama "took care of herself" and simply quit her job.
Qiao Renliang's family
Qiao Renliang was very sensible when he was a child, and in the words of Qiao Dad, he was "clever" and was very good at seeing people's faces.
Qiao Dad's work as a seafarer earns quite a lot, and he bought a house in the old town of Shanghai, and his life is also very rich.
Imported milk is drunk casually, drumming, jumping high, painting, learning what you want.
Qiao Dad always thought that growing up in this environment, Qiao Renliang was very happy.
But then Qiao Renliang said: Since I was born, my life is not perfect, my father has been away for many years, and my mother has raised me alone.
In 2007, the first generation of talent shows emerged.
In the recruitment of Oriental Satellite TV's "Come On Good Boy", the draft was selected at the doorstep, and Qiao Renliang, who was super jumping, signed up.
The 20-year-old Qiao Renliang fought all the way and finally won the second place in the country, and became the "Four Youngsters of the Fallen City" with Fu Xinbo, Jing Bairan and Li Yifeng.
In 2008, Qiao Renliang released his first EP "Start Today", which dominated the music radio charts for several weeks.
Qiao Renliang has always loved rock and roll.
However, the singer's path did not go well, and everyone attacked Qiao Renliang's singing rock as pseudo-rock.
He was still quite distressed.
The career of the players who came out at the same time as him has an eyebrow, and he is also anxious.
Under the company's arrangement, Qiao Renliang temporarily put down the music and began to act in TV series.
In 2012, an idol drama "My Affordable Man" brought Qiao Renliang into the public eye.
Qiao Renliang played a sunny and handsome "turtle" in it, which was very popular.
After that, Qiao Renliang played many similar roles.
Looking at his lively and cheerful appearance, you would not think that he destroyed his body again and again off camera.
If filming in Shanghai, he would live in his own villa.
Qiao's mother would go over from time to time to cook for Qiao Renliang, he ate very little, and when he finished eating, he would go back to the house, and he also pulled the bedroom curtains tightly during the day.
He told his mother that he was reading the lines so that it was easy to get into the state.
Joe's mother saw a lot of scars on his arm and asked him how he got them.
Qiao Renliang said that it was an accident caused by filming, and Qiao's mother did not suspect it.
Later, Joe's mother learned that the scars were self-injurious.
"I'm confused, I really blame myself all the time."
In 2015, Qiao Renliang participated in a variety show called "Let's Fall in Love", which increased the amount of exposure.
In the show, Qiao Renliang exposed an unknown side: the original rock boy who has always been a rock boy actually likes pink the most.
He opened his suitcase, which was full of pink objects.
Public opinion exploded, some said he was feminine, some said he was disgusting, and some people joked about his sexuality.
Qiao Dad is still working at sea, Qiao Mom is still a housewife, they don't know what is surfing the Internet, they don't know the overwhelming insults on Qiao Renliang on the Internet.
When he first entered the show business circle, Qiao Dad thought that it was so difficult for the show business circle to make his son suffer a little setback, "the heavens will descend to the Si people".
In the first half of 2016, Qiao Dad was working in a port in Brazil, and Qiao Renliang chatted with Qiao Dad on social software.
It was one of the few in-depth exchanges between father and son.
On that day, Qiao Renliang was filming on the mountain, the signal was not good, and the father and son would talk one sentence at a time until the evening.
That day Joe's father learned that his son had not been able to sleep for a long time.
Joe's dad said: You are going to die like this.
Qiao Dad advised Qiao Renliang to rest for a while and go to see the world to relax and relax.
Qiao Renliang said: I can't stop.
At that time, Qiao Renliang's career and mood fell to the bottom, first smashing a commercial car in the crew, and then with a film's liquidated damages, the speculation and slander of the outside world made him breathless.
The call with my father was a cry for help.
On that day, Qiao Dad had decided to retire after running this time and return to Qiao Renliang to help him take care of his work.
On September 16, 2016, Qiao Renliang was working in Shanghai, and he called his mother to say that he would go home for dinner in the evening.
Joe's mother was very happy, and went to the market in the afternoon to buy a lot of vegetables.
Qiao Renliang did not cook very well, and Qiao Renliang often comforted her: this is the taste of her mother.
Qiao Renliang also said that he would bring his colleagues from the crew to the house for dinner, and Qiao's mother was more careful.
In the evening, Joe's father and mother received the call.
Before seeing his son's death notice, Joe's father and mother did not know that depression existed.
Qiao Mama hugged Qiao Renliang and cried until she fainted, and after waking up, she was sleepless for several days and nights.
They had set up the chapel, and at the funeral they could no longer make a sound.
On that day, Joe's father walked through the funeral home holding his son's urn, and the box was attached to Joe's body, just like 29 years ago, he was holding a swaddled baby.
He was small, and then he finally grew up and became smaller again.
"It's hard to raise such a big one, and now I'm back in the little box."
It took them a year to choose a cemetery for their son.
There are mountains and water, and there is a large lawn, like a park, and when the sun rises, the soft daylight shines on his "new home".
Qiao Renliang should be sunny and cheerful, they always think so.
After Qiao Renliang's death, the TV at home was turned on 24 hours a day.
Joe's mother watched the TV series, Joe's father watched the ball game, sometimes the two people didn't watch it, just opened.
It took a long time for the old couple to recover from the pain of losing their son.
In order to keep some thoughts, Joe's father and mother decided to run their own skin care brand for their son.
That's where they started making short videos.
They shoot short videos to share their lives and get attention.
This time, Joe's father and mother became the target of the attack.
First he criticized Joe's mother's appearance, and then he pointed out their lifestyle.
The comments are overwhelming: scared to death! Why come out scary?
At first, Joe's mother would delete these bad comments, but later she couldn't delete them.
Joe's mother began to look in the mirror: Am I really so ugly?
Joe's dad said: Not ugly.
The old two live cooking, the comments said: sons are dead, still eat so well?
The malice of the world has never disappeared.
The malice towards Qiao Renliang was transferred to his parents
Helplessly, the old couple recorded a video to apologize: Auntie did not mean to scare you, Auntie has a pituitary tumor, there is no way to remove it before it is out of shape.
The Shanghai woman said sad words in a tone of voice.
She said she did this in the hope that someone would always remember Qiao Renliang.
After Qiao Renliang left, there was a pink calendar in the house.
With each page turned, they got closer to Qiao Renliang.
Five years later, there are still many people who remember Qiao Renliang.
They released pink balloons into the sky at Qiao Renliang's cemetery.
The balloon reads: If there is a next life, don't leave Mom and Dad easily.
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