First-grade children take a 100-point test, parents can show off online for several days, happy, happy, feel that their children are genius children.
But wait until the next test 95 points, parents are anxious, how can the child regress, how can a genius child regress? The make-up classes and tutorial classes were all set up, and they were both accusations and preaching.
There are many such parents, blind confidence and blind inferiority in one, on the surface is extremely concerned about the child's learning, in fact, there is no goal for the child's learning, nor do they have any own thinking, blind people touch the elephant without a global view.
If parents do not have a global view of their children's growth and learning, they can only stare at the score, be happy for the score, and be led by the nose by the score.
The score of one exam can only test the child's understanding and mastery of knowledge in the recent period, which has no impact on his future college entrance examination, and will have no impact on his later life.
Study should have an overall view, grasp the big and let go of the small, as long as there is no problem with the overall general direction, look down on the test results of each time.
What kind of person the child wants to become in the future, or what kind of person the parents want to cultivate the child into, this is when the child is young, it is necessary to combine the child's strengths or the parents' subtle guidance to do a general direction of the goal, can not be generalized to say that the child will take a 985 or 211 university in the future.
There are many parents who say to their children, study well, although it is hard to make up classes and study hard, but it is good to be admitted to a good university, and the result is that a good university is admitted, and the child is completely free of himself and confused.
Although this goal may change with the child's growth and interests, as well as the parents' understanding of education, or the process of social development, it may be adjusted, but as long as the child can achieve it with a little effort, it is a good goal.
The goal is there, in order to achieve the goal, there must be substantive action, their children themselves know best, can not simply send to the tutoring class, the days to come only look at the child's test results, so it is blind.
Adults should have their own minds, and for their children's education, they should realize that tutoring classes like these are external and do not solve real problems.
The most important thing for children's learning is: good learning habits, self-discipline to control themselves, the internal driving force of independent learning, the habit of playing less mobile phones and reading more, a healthy and sound personality, and a tenacious will to insist on not giving up.
If parents only know how to send their children to the cram school, they stare all day whether they have scored 100 points or 95 points, just like Tian Yulan in "Little Shed", that is, the tighter the staring, the more mistakes there are.
The level of cognition of education by each parent largely determines the child's learning outcome.