Author: Insight Mengshu
Emma, the heroine of "Madame Bovary", comes from an ordinary peasant family, but yearns for romance and luxury beyond class.
In order to pursue the perfect love of her dreams, she betrayed her marriage twice and fell into the trap of usury under the temptation of a businessman.
Until the debt was pressed down, but he could not get the help of his lover, he could only commit suicide by poisoning in despair.
When the author Flaubert wrote this, he cried out in grief.
But the big mistake has been made, and fate cannot be reversed.
Only Madame Bovary sounded 6 alarm bells with the tragedy of her life, alerting countless future generations.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" >1 has a kind of bitter cry to marry someone who only loves you</h1>
When you get married, do you choose the person you love or the person who loves you?
The answer for many people is the former.
Because the person who loves first is often more humble in posture and pays without reservation.
But they forgot that if Xu's deep affection could not be exchanged for his heart, there must be some characteristics in the other party that made them intolerable.
In Madame Bovary, Charles Bovary is deeply in love with his wife.
He tolerated Emma's temper indefinitely, guarded his sick wife endlessly, and did not hesitate to stand by his wife when his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law clashed.
But the problem is that Emma, who is romantic by nature, wants to listen to love stories that are constantly renovated, and new and interesting observations every day.
She could not stand her husband's wooden conservatism, and his husband could not understand her exquisite mood.
The longer she stayed together, the more painful Emma became, and finally she was broken by a prodigal son and embarked on the road of no return for derailment.
Robin Williams said, "The most terrible thing in the world is not to die alone, but to grow old with the person who makes you lonely." ”
Because the three views are so different, all conversations become noisy; because of the habit of tit-for-tat confrontation, all getting along has become torment.
Marriage is a collection of two people, and only with the same frequency can they communicate.
Couples with inconsistent views will sooner or later live a life of ruin.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="22" >2 Marriage doesn't solve the problem because marriage itself is a problem</h1>
When Emma was a teenager, she secretly read many love novels, and every love was touching, and every ending was happy.
Pure Emma thought that as long as she got married, she could naturally have happiness.
But I didn't expect that the real married life was all suffocated.
The husband is stereotypical and unmotivated; the mother-in-law is picky everywhere and often contradicts.
The well-off family situation could not support her pursuit of a luxurious life.
Such a story is disappointing, but it is the most real reality.
The so-called marriage is essentially a cooperation, because it is difficult for one person to withstand the wind and rain of the next few decades, so it is necessary to find someone to share it with.
Lovely people are not saviors, and marriage is not a panacea.
Housework sharing, child-rearing, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law game, parental pension... Each of these can lead to endless troubles.
At the end of the day, marriage doesn't solve all problems because it's a problem in itself and it's the hardest part of life that no one can enjoy.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="33" >3 90% of unsatisfactory is actually stepping on happiness to find happiness</h1>
No matter how many complaints Emma complained, from the perspective of a bystander, her life was actually enviable enough.
Her husband is loyal and caring for her, and her daughter is very sensible and clever, and she hardly needs to bother raising her.
The father and father-in-law have family wealth, and the husband works diligently, ensuring that the small family can live a comfortable life.
Compared with the mother-in-law who guards against the infidelity of her father-in-law every day, compared to the innkeeper lady who has to make a living alone because she is widowed, and compared to Mrs. Omey, who is worn away by the heavy housework, Emma almost lives in the clouds.
But Emma ignored all this and only thought of the perfect love in her imagination.
So the more you compare, the more desperate you are.
There is a saying that goes well: "The so-called heart is just not as good as one's own will, clinging to the ideal of one's own painting, and as soon as there is a gap, it is troublesome." ”
90% of the unsatisfactory in life is actually stepping on happiness to find happiness.
People who know how to cherish, even if they walk on the muddy path, will be happy that the spring breeze is occasionally blowing.
People who do not know contentment, even if they are surrounded by flowers, they only feel tormented every day.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="44" >4 Not all love is worth fighting</h1> for
The world is like a white cloud and a dog, fickle.
Emma, who failed to marry as she wished before marriage, actually met an ideal lover after marriage, Rodolfo.
He was a nearby farmer, well-wealthed and well-informed, dressed like a nobleman in elaborate clothes and riding majestic horses.
He will also use the warmest love words to pour out his admiration and lingering love to Emma.
This sweetness, which had never been experienced before, washed away Emma's sanity like a tidal wave.
She knew that cheating would be scolded by thousands of people, but she greeted her like a moth to the fire, and she did not hesitate to give up her family and reputation plan to elope, just wanting to stay with Rodolphe.
Unexpectedly, Rodolfo only wanted to have a sexual encounter from beginning to end, and when he saw that the situation was not right, he immediately fled, leaving Emma alone to be sad.
A vigorous love turned into a farce in an instant.
Although this fate is sad, it is not surprising.
When we are young, we always think that love is the whole of life, and once we fall in love, we have to fight for ourselves.
At a certain age, I understand that there is too much helplessness in love in reality.
Sometimes it is an unladylike, moving confession, in fact, containing evil intentions.
Sometimes it is too late to see each other, even if it is heartwarming, helplessly has been burdened with family and responsibility.
Love can only blossom at the right time and meet the right person.
Wrong love, like a crazy vine on a tree, seems to decorate a temporary prosperity, and eventually the tree will fall and the vine will dry up, harming others and harming themselves.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="60" >5 If love can't land on the ground to dress and eat, sooner or later it will wither and run out</h1>
After her first infidelity ended in a tragic failure, Emma also thought about returning to her family.
But the husband is still bored, his career is not successful, and emma, who is disappointed, once again bets his enthusiasm outside the marriage.
She traveled to Paris every week to stay in luxurious restaurants with her lover and buy extravagant clothes.
Even if this cost far exceeds the meager salary of her lover, Emma firmly disagrees with the reduction of the level of consumption.
To this end, she did not hesitate to secretly take her husband's medical fee, sell her father-in-law's inheritance, and unknowingly borrowed usurious loans.
For only in that small space could Emma briefly fantasize that she had become a noblewoman, living a lavish life and perfect love.
But after the initial passion passed, the two gradually grew tired of monotonous dating.
Emma felt once again caught up in the tedium of marriage, and the lover felt that the pleasure of stealing love was simply not worth the loss compared to the future.
A lover in a bed, his mind began to go in the opposite direction.
Even if Emma does not die, sooner or later this love will wither.
Sanmao said: "If love cannot be implemented into dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, these real lives will not last long." ”
It is like fireworks on the banks of a river, although it can temporarily illuminate a small piece of night sky, but it cannot withstand long wind and rain.
True love needs to be finely sharpened in the ups and downs, and slowly precipitated in the red dust and fireworks.
Until the passion is slowly transformed into a deep bond with each other, it will become more and more fragrant in the years.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="75" >6 Women who do not live well must have a bad marriage</h1>
In the times and circles where Emma lived, she was actually a very good woman.
She is naturally beautiful and a dazzling jewel wherever she is.
Although he was born in a peasant family, he was sent to the monastery early by his father, who loved his daughter, to receive an education from the nobles.
When she grew up, Emma, with her elegant manners and quite talent, not only made her husband Charles fall in love at first sight, but even the Marquis, who had been the secretary of state, also admired her very much.
Such a woman should have the ability to run a family business and nourish herself with her talent.
Cute Ma, however, gave up her efforts completely after marriage, betting all her hopes for the future on her husband.
Seeing that her husband was unable to achieve it, she shifted her hopes to her lover.
But the lover's intention is to have fun, and is not willing to bear her life, when she finds that Emma is in debt crisis, she immediately abandons her, and the desperate Emma can only take poison to commit suicide.
Maybe to her death, she was cursing this bad marriage, but she forgot that no matter who she married, she had to live her own life and live on her own.
In the end, marriage can only be the icing on the cake, not the charcoal in the snow.
At any time, only when a woman does a good job of herself can she have the ability to run a good marriage.
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It has been said that in everyone's heart lives a Madame Bovary.
Although I longed for poetry and distance, I had to struggle in a chicken feather first.
But instead of complaining about life not being satisfactory every day, it is better to learn to accept it from now on.
If you get it, you cherish it with your heart; if you miss it, you put it down with a smile.
Hug your lover hard, and you can always feel the heart after a long time.
With your heart to achieve yourself, the future of every day is worth looking forward to.
There are all kinds of bitterness in this world, but as long as you want, you can always live your own sweetness.
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