Love is an ability, marriage is a practice. May these books give us a little more understanding and calmness in the face of love, marriage and other issues.
"Practicing in Love"
Author: Su Hei
Publisher: Hunan Literature and Art Publishing House
Published: 2015-02
Price: 42.00 RMB
ISBN：9787540470708
Su Hei is a famous heart therapist and writer in Hong Kong, and an influential emotional healer in the Chinese-speaking world. Master of Cultural Studies, Chinese University, Hong Kong, registered clinical hypnotherapist.
In "Practicing in Love", Su Hei describes 189 progressive practices of love:
Shake off negative emotions: contemplate and meditate in the midst of disapproval, denial, and judgment
Embrace the original family: transcend the absence of parents and rebuild a home for life
Fix life gaps: Get positive information from damage and learn love
Be your perfect self: live with loneliness, pain, and learn self-love
Be a better lover: let go of the attachment relationship and regain freedom
Have mature love: Become the sun of love and illuminate the lives of others
With healing, warm, bright illustrations, and plain black calm, transparent, wise words, sensibility and reason, this book leads you in the practice of reading, transcending the robbery of relationships, having pure love, living with loneliness and pain, learning self-love, letting go of attachment to relationships, regaining freedom, being a better lover, and having mature love.
People are longing for love, chasing love, asking for love, even questioning love, reading this book, and learning to practice in love.
The Five Languages of Love
Author: Gary Chapman
Publisher: Jiangxi People's Publishing House
Translator: Wang Yunliang Chen Xi
Publication year: 2018-4
Price: RMB 49.00
ISBN: 9787210078951
This book describes how to handle relationships with lovers, spouses, relatives and friends, children, co-workers, and even all relationships. Tell us that everyone has an emotional love box, and only when this love box is filled can relationships develop. However, different people's love boxes need to be filled in different languages. The author found that there are basically five languages of love: words of affirmation, praise, careful moments of companionship, acceptance of gifts as rewards, acts of service as giving, physical contact as intimacy, and many misunderstandings, estrangements, and quarrels between the sexes are caused by not understanding or ignoring each other's love words. Therefore, the book is worth reading for men and women in love, and it is even more worth reading for married couples.
When both spouses actively choose to use each other's main love language, they can develop each other's intimate relationship well and actively deal with conflicts and failures in marriage. The book lasted 50 weeks and was listed on Publishers Weekly bestseller lists, translated into 49 languages and distributed worldwide. Today, when the divorce rate is on the rise, this book has important significance.
"If love is a myth, then this book can make dreams come true; if love is a piece of honey, then this book will teach you how to prevent moisture and corrosion, so that love into marriage will never fade, always remain as new." 」 May we all master the language of love and have a marriage of "white head and old age, eternal bath in love".
The Art of Love
Author: [U.S.] Erich Fromm
Publisher: Shanghai Translation Publishing House
Translator: Liu Futang
Publication year: 2018-12
Price: RMB 29.00
ISBN: 9787532779901
Is love an art? The answer is yes. Therefore, it requires knowledge and effort.
--Erich Fromm
In The Art of Love, Fromm argues that love is not an emotion that has nothing to do with one's maturity and only needs to be invested in the body and mind. If one does not strive to develop one's full personality and thus attain a creative tendency, then every attempt to love will fail, and if one does not have the ability to love others, if one cannot truly love others humbly, courageously, sincerely, and disciplinedly, then one will never be satisfied in one's own love life.
Fromm went on to argue that love is an art and requires those who want to master the art to have knowledge and make an effort. Here, love is not just a narrow love between men and women, nor can it be obtained by honing and improving skills. Love is the manifestation of personality as a whole, and to develop the ability to love, it is necessary to strive to develop your own personality and move towards beneficial goals.
Erich Fromm was a german-American psychologist, psychoanalyst, and philosopher. With his simple and approachable writing, he has created a large number of academic works and popular works, among which the most influential ones are "The Art of Love", "Escape from Freedom", "Sound Society", "Psychoanalytic Crisis" and so on.
Happy Marriage
Author: (U.S.) John Gottman, Nane Silver
Publisher: Zhejiang People's Publishing House
Translator: Liu Xiaomin
Publication year: 2014-2
Price: RMB49.90
ISBN: 9787213058417
The author of this book, John Gottman, is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington, the director of the Seattle Institute of Interpersonal Relations, engaged in the study of family relations for 40 years, the top expert in the field of marriage relations and interpersonal relations, and was praised by the media as the "Pope of Marriage".
Happy Marriage is a very practical guide to marriage that any couple can benefit from. In the book, Dr. Gottman uses big data to restore the truth of the marriage relationship, and summarizes the 7 rules that save the marriage from breaking up, guiding the reader to create a long-term marriage with high emotional intelligence. In Gottman's love lab, through 40 years of research on marital relationships and the participation of nearly 700 couples, Dr. Gottman was able to predict whether a couple would divorce after observing and listening to a 5-minute conversation, and the prediction accuracy rate was as high as 91%!
"Happy Marriage" is a worldwide bestseller, topped the New York Times bestseller list, and has long been at the top of Amazon's list of similar books. As a master in the field of interpersonal relationships, John Gottman and his famous "love lab" became the classic case of the opening chapter of the super bestseller "Blink", and Gottman predicted that the outcome of the divorce would become a hot topic in the mainstream media.
"Native Family: How to Mend Your Own Character Flaws"
Author: Dr. Susan Foward Craig Barker
Publisher: Beijing Times Chinese Literature Bureau
Translator: Huang Shu Wang Ting
Publication year: 2018-5
Price: RMB 58.00
ISBN: 9787569918816
"The author of this book, Susan Foward, had a special influence on me. When I was studying at Peking University, I once borrowed a book in the library, "Emotional Blackmail", which made me very enjoyable, especially some things that have plagued me for a long time, and I understood it in an instant, which is quite simple and easy. Then I thought, why not write a book like this? Why do you have to write obscurely?
Maybe that's an important reason why my own book was written in my current style. ”
- Wu Zhihong
An unhealthy family system, like a chain of rear-end collisions on a highway, has its bad effects passed down from generation to generation!
This is a classic of family psychological healing. Through a wealth of real-world footage she has come into contact with in her work, Dr. Susan Foward analyzes how unhealthy birth families hurt their children and continue to affect their adult lives.
What is remarkable is that the author's main purpose is not to accuse such parents, but to impart specific countermeasures to enable those who have suffered or are still suffering from the harm of their parents to gain courage and strength, to be freed from the negative pattern of relationship with their parents, to restore self-confidence and strength, and to be free and happy.
Susan Foward is an internationally renowned psychotherapist, orator and author of "Attachment: How to Love and Be Loved Normally", "Attachment: Why We Love So Humblely", "How to Recognize Men's Lies", "Money Devil", "Emotional Blackmail" and so on. The book recommended in this article topped the New York Times bestseller list. Currently, her works have been translated into 15 languages and distributed worldwide.
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