With the faster pace of life, higher work efficiency, and the obsession of the whole society with a single standard of success, the pressure and psychological pressure of modern people's life are increasing.
Under such high pressure, some negative emotions are inevitable. Then, in the face of these accumulated negative energies, it seems that it is not a wise move to easily turn over such accumulation. Therefore, be sure to be prepared before you are ready to clean up negative energy.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > don't easily turn over negative energy</h1>
Writer Su Hei shares:
Negative energy emotions generally come from negative memories. For example, the grievances and unwillingness that linger in the heart after being attacked and slandered, the grievances that do not have the opportunity to rehabilitate yourself after being wronged, the difficulty of self-control that cannot be satisfied when desires churn, the emotions or secret depressions that have been hidden for a long time, the unresolved complex relationships and knots inherited from the previous generation... These can all be the source of negative energy.
These energies can be seen as a force, and if it is a force, there will be inertia. Easily open the exit and let this accumulated power pour out, and at the same time you have no corresponding way to deal with it, then you are likely to be caught in the dark vortex and out of control.
If such a situation occurs, negative thoughts in the mind may cause secondary damage to your body and mind, and make you immersed in such emotions for a long time. So, just like when you want to do some sports such as swimming, proper preparation and warm-up is a wise choice.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > be mentally prepared to change your mind</h1>
Shifting your mind refers to looking at the problem from a different perspective and thinking about the problem when you encounter something or a situation. Being prepared to change your mind can improve your empathy to a certain extent, or you can learn to understand others from the perspective of others, and look at problems from different angles and dimensions.
For example, at work, the attitude of the leader or colleague is not good. According to our habitual thinking, some people will be very angry, feel unfair, disrespectful, and confront leaders and colleagues, which will affect their work efficiency.
If you change the perspective, focus on the work itself, and strip away the attitudes of leaders and colleagues and their own emotional reactions. From a different perspective, it may be that leaders and colleagues are in a bad mood today, or that they encounter bad things at home, and they bring emotions to work.
"Over" is not in oneself but in the person himself who vents his emotions. On the one hand, sympathy and understanding of venting emotions of people can not deal with their own emotions well, on the other hand, their negative attitudes, and their own emotional reactions to do a stripping, do not use the mistakes of others to punish themselves.
This can also help us better accept some situations that we previously thought were not accepted by our own hearts. After gradually expanding the capacity of your heart, the situations you have encountered before that will stimulate you to have very large emotional fluctuations will be less and less, and your heart will become more and more calm.
Of course, everything will have a process of formation, it takes time to reach such a state, because the previous negative emotional reaction has formed a habit, it is not easy to form a new habit, so it is necessary to persevere and persevere.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > be physically prepared</h1>
Body and mind will affect each other. Sometimes negative emotions are not necessarily influenced by the outside world, but also have the possibility of being influenced by the body. Therefore, a better understanding of your body and laying a good foundation for your body can play a very positive role in regulating negative emotions.
In Su Hei's book "Loving Yourself for a Lifetime", she shares that some of the changing emotions and negative emotions are closely related to the structure of the body. "Many women tell me that they sometimes feel that their emotions come from nowhere, they are sad for no reason, their tempers are worse, and they will be fine again in a few days."
Such a situation is estimated that every girl will feel empathy, and from time to time the mood of inexplicable depression. In fact, these emotions that do not know where to come from, may be just the physiological reaction of the ovulation period, if you do not understand your own body, blaming these bad negative emotions on external influences, you will make yourself constantly unclear about the nature of the problem, and then over-interpret the external personnel, in vain to increase the inner unhappiness.
Over time, due to their own neglect, or in some cases, they have to be suppressed, these negative emotions are suppressed to the depths of the heart, and there is no chance to be seen and discharged. Over time, the repressed emotions will accumulate more and more, from psychological repression and accumulation to physical lesions, so that the body and mind interact with each other and affect each other.
The human body is the storage place of emotions, the body is sensitive, only by treating the body well, the mind is sensitive enough to discover, to see the laws of the body, will better take care of their own psychology, can find themselves, better love themselves. Only by loving yourself well and overflowing with love can you better nourish the people around you and have a better life.
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