People tend to get angry when they are strongly stimulated by unsatisfactory things. Anger, it will damage people's normal psychological state, causing a variety of adverse emotional reactions, people have seven emotions and six desires, anger in life almost everyone is difficult to avoid. If there is no mutual understanding and open-mindedness, the things that make you angry in life will be picked up, such as on the bus, others inadvertently step on your feet, often arouse your anger, evaluation failure will be scolded, and even a big fight; criticized by the leadership, is reasonable, if not treated correctly, it will inevitably be angry; not their own fault, but unfair treatment, will also make you lose your color.
Anger is a reaction to dissatisfaction, it will rise up a nameless fire, if for one reason or another, indulge your feelings, at every turn, there are many harms and no benefits. Anger will not only burn others but also burn yourself, affecting your physical and mental health. Many people are shot on the spot in the midst of anger, inducing high blood pressure, heart disease, and putting lives at risk. On the other hand, it also damages the relationship between others and their families, and is a moth that cultivates the flower of friendship. It can be seen that learning to control anger is very important.
1 Recognize the dangers of anger. When you're about to get angry, calm down and think about the physical, psychological, and interpersonal harm of anger. And keeping these consequences in mind, the probability of anger can be greatly reduced.
2 Relieves the trigger for irritability. The cause of anger varies from thing to case, such as failure, jealousy, revenge, humiliation, loss of love, some people often say: doing a good thing is not good, this is the dissatisfaction of the speech, that is, in a certain psychological effect of anger, to be good at finding the cause of these problems, and then take measures to solve the problem.
3 Learn the art of stopping anger. The "Mind Understanding Anger Method" can be used to transfer and control the emotions of anger. Such as the law of will control. Transfer stimulation method, avoidance stimulation method, self-release method, etc. When the irritable mood is about to arise, it is necessary to relax the psychological self in time, encourage yourself not to be anxious, and calm down the impulsive and impatient mood.
4 Cold treatment. Any normal person who is insulted will be angry. The question is what to do after the anger. You should actively express yourself, no matter what the situation you are facing, do not passively vent your anger. For those who offend you, if immediate contact is not needed, stay away and provide an opportunity for both parties to think and change their behavior. If contact is indispensable, we should also try to get along calmly as much as possible to avoid unnecessary harm to each other and aggravate contradictions.
5 Vent appropriately. Anger cannot be suppressed for a long time, otherwise it will also endanger physical and mental health. When the mood is calm, you can find trusted relatives and close friends and pour out your anger. You can also choose other cathartic methods, such as sleeping in the bed, or venting with crying, and some people use the pen in their hands to vent their anger, which can play a good role and effect on stopping inappropriate anger.
Therefore, it is very necessary to maintain a good psychological state, improve the starting point and quality of life, and master some of the art of anger control.