On the way to school, my son achieved many achievements and won many honors. It has been praised by many teachers and won the envy of many parents. As parents, we are very pleased to witness our son's step-by-step growth and progress.
Many parents often ask how I raised my son? I hope I can share an experience with you.
Regarding his son's growth experience, it is not something that can be said in three words.
Therefore, through the carrier of the "Parenting Classic", I would like to summarize some of my son's experience in learning or his own experience in these years and share it with everyone.
Parenting Experience Dry Goods Sharing (2): Cultivate concentration
Concentration is the degree of concentration at doing something, it is a continuous and persistent state. Some of the ability to focus is innate, but more often it needs to be cultivated.
1. Cultivation of interest
If you are interested in anything, you may concentrate on doing it. For children, the toys they are interested in will play very attentively, they love to play games, and they will definitely devote themselves to the game.
Learning is the same, interested in the subject, love to learn, the energy and concentration invested will be greater, the efficiency will be high. Subjects that are not interested in may not be learned, unable to devote themselves wholeheartedly, and the learning efficiency will decrease.
Therefore, cultivating interest is the key, even for seemingly boring learning, try to make it a pleasure.
Cultivation of my son's interest in various subjects:
(1) English: My son likes RAP songs, and he will hum most of Jay Chou's songs. At the high school level, knowing that there was a certain gap between his English level and the children in the provincial city, he tried his best to listen to English songs.
When I run in the playground at night, the phone plays English RAP songs. In order to strengthen his listening level, the son constantly improved the playback speed of the song.
During the exercise, I not only enjoyed my favorite rhythm, but also learned some strange words and phrases, which improved my Sense of English language and listening level.
(2) Mathematics: In the primary school stage, I like to do interesting mathematical problems such as "cows eat grass, chickens and rabbits in the same cage", which improves the interest in learning mathematics, exercises the ability to solve problems, obtains a sense of achievement from it, and stimulates the motivation to continue to study hard.
(3) Physical and chemical students: Teaching textbooks such as "We Love Science" in the primary school stage allow children to initially come into contact with natural science and common sense of life, and bring children into the sacred field of science step by step from shallow to deep.
But all the teaching materials issued by the school are knowledge, and children should be encouraged to read. Slowly, he developed a certain interest in these disciplines.
Parents moderately praise and encourage:
When children achieve good results or make progress in a certain aspect, parents must give praise and recognition. Even if it is not perfect, give encouragement to strengthen your child's self-confidence. This will make him more interested in learning, so that he can concentrate on learning.
Parents must not skimp on their own praise, but also grasp the moderate praise.
2. Good environment
The environment is a key factor in a child's ability to concentrate on learning or doing things. This environment includes both the physical environment and the human environment.
At home, parents need to provide an independent learning space for their children, and children should be as free from external factors such as television sets and adult chats, so that he can learn and think better.
In addition, when the child is learning or doing a thing, parents should not easily disturb him, do not let him distract himself, and interrupt his thinking about the problem. It is necessary to ensure the continuity of his thinking, so that he can be focused and efficient.
We often encourage our son to do something else after he has done one thing, not to give up halfway through what he does, and to try to do it with a beginning and an end.
Over time, the son will be able to stay focused on one thing instead of doing one thing half-heartedly. Even when he was playing with toys as a child, he was undistracted.
When it was time to go to school, he continued this state of concentration in studying and writing homework.
3. Do a good job of preparation and listen to the lecture with questions
Effective use of class time is the best way to improve grades. Some children are inefficient in class, love to listen to lectures, lack of concentration, the teacher has worked hard to teach a lesson, and there are not many things he can really absorb.
There was a factor in which he didn't prepare. Without prep, he didn't know where he wouldn't, and he couldn't go to class with questions.
Throughout the class, he will not concentrate enough, and even slip away. After a class, I felt confused and didn't know what I had learned.
When my son was young, he developed the habit of preparing, basically watching the main courses during the holidays. After the start of the school, generally on the first day, I will simply preview the content of the second day, and when I encounter knowledge points that I am not very sure of, I will listen carefully to the lecture the next day, or discuss with the teacher after class.
4. Establish small goals and make time planning
Set small goals.
Learning is also a task, there must be a goal when there is a task, and to achieve the goal, it is necessary to plan well. With a plan, you can be targeted and focused on doing it.
For example, today I have to memorize 10 words, memorize an ancient text, and do 5 Orsay questions. The ultimate goal is to be able to recite and solve problems.
Plan your time.
According to their actual ability, each task should be reasonably controlled in time. At the point in time, force yourself to complete the task.
Only in this way can we mobilize all our energy and concentrate on doing it. You can't procrastinate, and you can only memorize 10 words a night, resulting in other tasks that cannot be completed.
In junior high school, the number of subjects began to increase. In order to allocate time reasonably, every holiday, the son has to make a study plan. Make a time schedule and list each day's learning tasks on it. Every day he was able to focus and efficiently complete the day's tasks according to plan.
At first, we also supervised the completion of his plan, and gradually developed a habit, and we became more and more trusting of our son.
In the third year of high school, in order to cope with the large number of questions in the high examination paper, it is necessary to exercise to improve the speed of answering questions.
During the revision phase, my son had to take an hour every night to brush a set of rolls. The largest number of questions in the comprehensive examination paper, he must be strictly controlled to complete within one and a half hours, that is, the usual training time is one hour less than the formal examination time.
The comprehensive examination paper must be completed in one and a half hours, and it must be highly concentrated to be possible. But this is how my son strengthens his training, improves his concentration, and improves the speed of brushing questions. In the end, the college entrance examination comprehensively answered a high score of 290.
5. The test of learning effect
Learning is not simply done for the sake of completing assignments. If you start writing, whether it is right or wrong, everything will be fine after writing. Yourself or your parents should check whether you are doing it right or not.
How do you know how well you learn what you're doing, such as memorizing texts and English words, or political history topics, and whether they really form memories?
In addition to the child's own brain recalling one by one, parents also have to test it by asking questions to see if the required recitation is really remembered. In this way, by testing the child's learning effect within the specified time, the child is encouraged to maintain concentration during the learning process.
6. Energetic is beneficial to the improvement of concentration.
Blindly learning will make children feel tired or tired. It is necessary to combine work and leisure in order to have sufficient energy and concentration to devote to the next round of learning.
The companionship of interest.
On his son's way to school, Rubik's Cube and table tennis are his always-maintained hobbies. Especially in the three years of high school, with the company of Rubik's Cube, he did not feel that studying was boring.
Playing table tennis or badminton with classmates in spare time can also be physically and mentally relaxed, which is conducive to improving the concentration of lectures in class.
Get enough sleep.
Getting enough sleep is also a major factor in keeping your child learning focused and productive.
During my son's school days, he had to take a nap at noon every day, study late at night, and sleep fiercely for two hours on weekends to recharge himself.
Sleep is sufficient, full of energy, learning concentration and learning efficiency will naturally improve. The so-called sharpening knife does not mistakenly cut wood.
To this day, we still have a lot of feelings, and our son's successful admission to a prestigious school is inseparable from the focused attitude of learning when he was a child.
Stay tuned for the next topic: "Learning Experience of Parenting (3): Cultivating the Ability to Be Independent and Diligent in Research".