Recently, the rumors of the divorce of Das and Wang Xiaofei have been boiling over, and many netizens are looking forward to the follow-up development.
As the mother-in-law of the eldest s, Zhang Lan seems to be more selfish, and has been praising her son in the live broadcast that he is very good. But I didn't think about it at all, and the couple didn't want to be talked about too much.
In contrast, Big S's mother, Huang Chunmei, is reasonable, and has always said that "husband and wife are quarrelsome, and will persuade Big S to be peaceful, and where there are couples who do not quarrel."
Xu's mother obviously attaches great importance to the marriage between the two and has been trying to say peace in the middle, hoping that Big S can calm down and consider the children.
Ben is a single mother but pulled up 3 children, but also two daughters to win the red, Xu mother's life is really tough.
01, Xu's mother, who married at the age of 19
Xu's mother, whose real name is Huang Chunmei, was born in the countryside of Changhua in 1954, and her family has been poor since childhood, and she dropped out of school to work as a farmer before finishing primary school, and has not been valued by her family.
At that time, everyone agreed that girls didn't have to read a lot of books, just marry a good family.
When Huang Chunmei became an adult, she left her hometown to work in Taipei, and there was a silver building next door to the place where she worked, and she often went to chat.
At that time, Huang Chunmei's eyebrows were the object of pursuit of many small brothers in the vicinity, and naturally attracted the son of the Yinlou family: Xu Jian.
Originally, Huang Chunmei was not interested in Xu Jian and thought he was "too feminine".
But once, he saw Xu Jian fighting with others and had been drying several bottles in a row, and she was instantly impressed and felt that this man was too handsome.
In this way, 19-year-old Huang Chunmei got rid of her original family and married Xu Jian, the brother of yinlou, and became the future Mother Xu.
I thought that my life after marriage would be very happy. Unexpectedly, real life is just the opposite.
The Xu family has a large population, and Xu's mother not only has to wash and cook, but also serves more than a dozen people, old and young, than working several jobs.
What is even more sad is not to serve the family, but the "son preference" of the family.
In the early 1970s, everyone's thinking was still relatively conservative, and the idea of "son preference" was also deeply rooted. Xu Jian's parents were not spared.
In Xu Jian's generation, there were a total of 8 children in the family, the first seven were girls, and only Xu Jian was a boy. This shows how serious the husband and wife's idea of "not having a boy and vowing not to give up" is.
As the only boy in the family, Xu Jian has been a collection of thousands of pets since he was a child. The sisters and sisters all let him, and there was good food and fun, all of which were given priority to him.
Xu Jian grew up in this kind of star-like environment, and slowly formed a relatively "soft" personality.
Big S once said in the show: "My father is very afraid of women, very dislike to be with women, because he grew up surrounded by women, and then we were born, the family is still a woman, so he is very painful, always able to hide and hide, try to avoid being with us." 」 ”
However, Xu Jian's character flaws laid the groundwork for the breakdown of Huang Chunmei and his marriage.
02, three daughters in a row were abandoned
A year after Huang Chunmei and Xu Jian were married, they gave birth to their eldest daughter, named Xu Xixian.
Unlike the size of the s, the appearance of the eldest daughter is very ordinary, belonging to a very common public face.
Perhaps it was such an ordinary appearance that did not make Xu Xixian bear the fate of her two younger sisters.
Now she is married and has children, living a stable and comfortable life.
On the other hand, the two younger sisters, the eldest s recently fell into a divorce storm, and the younger s were exposed to domestic violence, and they were not satisfied.
When the in-laws saw that Huang Chunmei gave birth to a daughter for the first time, she naturally refused to "give up and give up."
Since then, Huang Chunmei has been pregnant every two years, but she has given birth to daughters twice.
6 years to give birth to 3 daughters, in the face of such a result, of course, the in-laws will not be satisfied, they let Huang Chunmei continue to have sons.
But Huang Chunmei is not a vegetarian, she is an independent woman with a mind and personality, and she does not want to be the "fertility machine" of the Xu family.
She directly tore her face with her in-laws and said: If you want to be born, let Xu Jian go outside to give birth.
03, Xu's mother took her daughter to live alone
At that time, Xu Jian was already the father of three daughters, but he had no consciousness of being a father at all. He often drank alcohol, and the housework was handled by Huang Chunmei alone.
In the face of conflicts between parents and daughters-in-law, they never mediate, but only live in their own world.
However, Huang Chunmei's angry words, Xu Jian's mind came alive.
Not long after, Xu Jian mixed with a woman surnamed Zhuang who sold betel nuts, and the two lived together.
Infidelity in marriage cannot be tolerated by anyone. After Huang Chunmei knew about it, she resolutely filed for divorce.
The in-laws knew that the son was at fault first and did not want the two to divorce, but they could not put down the shelf.
Her mother-in-law said to her, "If you want a divorce, take three children with you"! The mother-in-law originally wanted to scare and frighten Huang Chunmei and make her retreat.
Unexpectedly, Huang Chunmei was unusually firm, saying that "even if you are a restaurant girl, you have to support three daughters"! Subsequently, she left the Xu family with her three daughters.
04. Pay off 3 million gambling debts for Xu Jian
Since then, the mother and daughter have relied on each other for their lives.
In order to support her three daughters, Huang Chunmei found a job as a real estate agent, not afraid of hardship or tiredness, and vowed to support her three daughters as adults.
People with faith can achieve whatever they do, and Mother Xu is this kind of person.
Huang Chunmei, who has no experience at all, with her high emotional intelligence and her own three-inch tongue, has mixed well in the industry.
Due to busy work and no excessive time to communicate with her three daughters, Huang Chunmei implemented "free range" for them.
As long as it is the choice of three people, she supports it.
The eldest daughter likes to be an otaku and write articles, so she can create at home with peace of mind.
Big and small S wanted to debut as a star, so she quit her job and concentrated on being an agent for her two daughters.
Later, the two daughters were very competitive and became popular actresses.
However, at this time, the mother and daughter four learned that Xu Jian owed 3 million yuan in debt because of gambling.
Huang Chunmei repeatedly proposed to divorce him, but he refused to agree.
Because the two have not yet divorced, his debt is Huang Chunmei's debt, so he is not worried at all.
In the end, Huang Chunmei promised him that she and her daughters would help him pay off his debts, and Xu Jian was willing to sign the divorce agreement.
As a man, as a father, it is indeed a sadness to live like this.
05, has been teaching her daughter to live with love
Since Xu's mother left home with her daughters, Xu Jian was idle and finally caught up in gambling.
After the gambling debt was paid off, his life was still difficult, like a child who had not grown up.
Several daughters did not want to care about him, or Huang Chunmei enlightened the children to put aside their resentment and give Xu Jian 100,000 yuan a month in living expenses until Xu Jian died.
After the daughters grew up, they also maintained a good relationship with their grandmother, all thanks to the maintenance of Huang Chunmei.
From just entering the Xu family, to now not being the daughter-in-law of the Xu family, she has always been an indispensable link.
Since the birth of the three daughters, Huang Chunmei has been their strong backing.
Pull them to grow up, teach them the principles of doing things, as long as she is there, the daughters will never be afraid.
To this day, in the storm of her daughter's divorce, she has repeatedly said that she wants to persuade her daughter to be calm and peaceful, but she has never talked about the shortcomings of her son-in-law.
At the beginning, the big and small s have become popular and have become the only biological sisters in the entertainment industry stars. People wonder why both sisters can become household names.
When I saw Huang Chunmei, everything had an answer.
A mother who is honest and brave and has a very good view can indeed make her daughters so good.
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