< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > workplace, the most promising people are this kind of person</h1>
I have a colleague Xiao A, who usually likes to read the gossip of celebrities and CEOs, like ma yun, Liu Qiangdong, Ma Huateng and other big guys, she is almost like a family treasure.
But Xiao A is not concerned about the success of the big guys, on the contrary, she always likes to spit on the young history of the big guys.
For example, she said that Ma Yun, if someone had not helped him invest money at the beginning of the business, he would not have been able to do today even if he was lucky.
After the establishment of Alibaba, if it were not for the "Eighteen Arhats" to help Ma Yun take care of affairs, coupled with catching up with the Internet outlet and national policy dividends, Ma Yun would just be a small boss.
Colleagues began to talk to her, but later she always belittled others like this, and we would all look at each other and smile and be silent.
Always talk about others behind their backs, not practice themselves
Even, some colleagues summed up her various complaints, if other people's careers are successful, it is that others' luck is good, and it has nothing to do with their own ability; if they fail, then this person will be criticized by him from beginning to end.
The most unbearable thing is that Xiao A not only likes to demean successful people, but also has more than enough for the colleagues around her, and over time, the colleagues around her are far away from her.
In the workplace, there are not many people like Little A, who do not work hard themselves, but like to talk about others.
In their eyes, the efforts of others they can not see, see who is with the help of whom, which people have achieved success, this success is caused by luck.
They only look at the problem on the surface, do not think about the essence of things at all, and will not learn from excellent people.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > people who like to deny others are inherently unconfident</h1>
In Carnegie's book The Weakness of Human Nature, there is a passage that says: "Man always likes to belittle people who are stronger than himself, and it is human nature, just like he naturally likes good-looking people."
Liking beautiful things is a person's nature, and there is nothing wrong with it, but if you treat degrading others as a kind of human nature, if you do not restrain it, you will often put yourself in a dilemma. So, what kind of psychological state is it in the heart of those who always like to deny and belittle others?
Belittling others doesn't make you tall, it just looks despicable
First, if you are not confident, you will build indirect self-confidence by denying others
This kind of person degrades people who are better than themselves, and they will give themselves the illusion that what they can't do, even if someone who is stronger than themselves does it, is a failure, so I can't do it.
In fact, this kind of person is essentially an unconfident person, and even a little inferior, they always see the shortcomings of others, and then through the continuous depreciation and denial of others, let themselves feel strong.
Second, it's easier to comment on others than to work on your own, and people always tend to do simpler things
This type of person has a commonality, that is, when they see others fail, they will not summarize the experience of failure, and then work hard to complete the work.
They will only use their lips to tell others that if it were me, I would do what I would do first, then how to do it, and finally how to get the job done.
But they will not practice, because they know very well that "saying" is always simpler than "doing", not to mention that if people always talk and do not practice, their strength will be much stronger than others.
Always denying others often means that you are not strong
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > successful people always know how to check for defects and learn from better people</h1>
In fact, those who succeed are using their experience of failure to build up the fortress of success little by little.
The most they do is constantly reflect on themselves, and then find the problem and solve the problem.
Moreover, those who succeed will habitually learn from those who are better than themselves.
Buffett once said: "If you want to be the best person, you must learn from the best people." ”
Didi's founder, Cheng Wei, was only 35 years old and successfully climbed to the fifth place in Hurun's post-80s rich list.
Didi founder Cheng Wei learned a lot at Alibaba
Cheng Wei once said" "I am very grateful to Ali", because during the 8 years of ali's work, it played a crucial role in the later founding of Didi.
Cheng Wei first joined Ali to do is the sales of Internet products, every day to carry out a large number of customer visits, "Ali is worthy of the talent concentration of places", Cheng Wei always issued such an exclamation.
Even if he is engaged in sales work, Cheng Wei also maintains an empty cup mentality at any time, learns good sales concepts from the people around him, and then combines his own situation to sort out a set of sales theories suitable for himself, that is, the sales manager of these six years has accumulated solid basic skills for Cheng Wei and laid a good foundation for the future construction of buildings.
At Alibaba, Cheng Wei became the youngest regional manager of Alibaba's B2B department, and in the same year, he was promoted to deputy general manager of Alipay's B2C business unit.
Cheng Wei's rapid success is due to the fact that he often sees other people's luminous points and collects them to become the largest luminous body.
Everyone has their own strengths, and what we have to do is not to deny the shortcomings of others, but to affirm the advantages of others.
Successful people must be larger than parts of the whole
Only by being good at affirming the merits of others can we gain something from it, make progress for ourselves, and finally lead to success.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > don't want to be a loser, start by affirming others and self-improvement</h1>
People who fail will always make all kinds of excuses for themselves, but successful people can face their shortcomings.
In order not to be a loser, we must try our best to make ourselves the kind of person who "constantly strives for perfection."
1, develop the habit of praising others, so that we can get more help
Habitual praise for others can close the distance between us, the sense of distance is small, and it will be more convenient to communicate.
In the workplace, proper compliments to colleagues will make the other party feel happy, will make your work easier to carry out, even if you encounter difficulties, the other party will actively help you solve the problem.
However, when praising each other, we should pay attention to ways and methods.
For example, for a girl who is not pretty, you come up and say, "You look so pretty!" Such obvious flattery, hypocrisy and rashness, it is easy to be blindsided.
But you can say, "You're so temperamental," or "You're so well dressed."
Praise others for bringing people closer together
This will not only make the other person feel that you are praising her, but also open the door for you to communicate.
However, remember that praise is not the same as patting on the back, and the compliments we say must be sincere, otherwise it is easy for the other party to feel that you are very pompous or insincere, and it will not help you to communicate at all.
2. Learn to think introspectively and check for deficiencies and fill in the gaps
Introspective thinking allows us to have a correct understanding of ourselves
Socrates once said, "There is no point in living without introspective thinking." ”
Therefore, introspective thinking plays a big role in our work and life.
So, what is introspective thinking?
It is a daily, phased mental activity of self-reflection, aimed at improving the self, with long-term and coherent nature.
In the workplace, every success or failure has its inevitability behind it, and introspective thinking is what allows us to find this inevitability.
Then, when doing things in the future, we will use the inevitability of success more, and do not use the inevitability of failure, so as to increase the probability of our success in doing things.
Then there is the fact that every day set aside some time for daily reflection, to review what the day did, what was done right, what was done wrong, where it was right, where it was wrong. Then correct it so that similar mistakes will not be made in the future.
In this way, insist on introspective thinking, check the shortcomings and fill in the gaps, and we will quickly improve our ability.
3. Build self-confidence through self-improvement
People who continue to grow will be more confident
People who are anxious to deny others, they are themselves a kind of person who lacks self-confidence, and they want to affirm themselves by denying others.
But what they don't know is that when they deny others, they are actually denying themselves.
Because others do not do well, he denies others, but he himself does not even have the courage to do it, what right does he have to deny others?
So, what we have to do is not to deny others, but to affirm ourselves first.
You can't always say discouraged things to yourself, and successful people often think, "I can do it!" I can! ”
The premise of having self-confidence is what we do like and cultivate our own irreplaceability.
Through learning, we can learn how successful people deal with problems, and we can also learn the different perspectives of others to see problems, which makes us more moldable.
Finally, I hope that we should look at the success and failure of others with a normal heart, do not comment or deny others, and be better than anything else.