Too many people love too fiercely at the beginning, and can't stand the increasingly flat love!
Married to her husband for more than 1 year, in love for more than 8 years, college classmates, the student number is connected back and forth, and the exams are often copied from each other.
I fell in love with him, regardless of appearance, not related to family, just because of a small detail, he would often stop and look at me when talking to others, which was the opposite of the rough and bold in the north, and I was a living rough woman.
There was no strong confession of holding a rose in his hand, no sweet words, only a piece of meat was added to the food that I ate with every day. (Think about how poor I used to be)
Two people are independent individuals before they are together, although they are attracted because of love, but they will also be noisy because of their personalities, because their eating habits are not the same, his temper is very grumpy, and he does not care, even if it is for your own good, but basically gets better soon.
There was never a mention of a breakup, a fight never stayed overnight, and a good time never turned over old accounts.
Slowly running in is a transition, if you can't get through it, then, it may be really inappropriate.
Moreover, change is subtle, and there is a willingness to change for the other party.
In the past, my husband liked to play games more, so I also went to practice myself, playing Dragon Valley, playing LOL, playing sword spirit, and teaming up to brush copies, only to find out why he ignored you when he played the game.
I prefer to watch Korean dramas, so he took the time to watch it with me and gave me all the OST Down.
Because there is no strong demand for the other party to do something for themselves, the other party takes the initiative to do it, but will be very happy.
Know each other's bottom line and be measured
Even if it is a husband and wife, you also want to be when he is an independent individual, although the man who loves you does not need space, because the mind is full of you, but after all, there are many men, who are in a free state, you are tightly tied to him, you may rebound, keep your measure, focus your attention on the things you are interested in, not so noble, maybe it is a novel, maybe a TV series, maybe a travel.
Flashback love, don't advance your costs and energy
From the beginning of being with my husband, I spend according to my own situation.
I didn't send roses because I felt that I couldn't spend my parents' money and do this kind of face-saving thing.
When I go to school, give me an extra piece of meat;
When I first worked, I rented a general house, but it was safe and warm;
After saving enough money to buy a house and a car, the two began to travel, starting from China, usually eating fruits, snacks, etc., and no longer considering the price and cost
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Step by step accumulation, with their own hands, spending their own earned money, feel solid and satisfied.
Maybe I'm not a vigorous person, but my concept of love is to be able to travel around and dream together, and to live a calm life together.
I curled up on the couch watching my Korean drama, you sat next to me and teamed up with your teammates, we were busy, and we naturally kissed and slept together, independent and related to each other.
Love does not need to be deliberately emphasized, nor does it need to be questioned and confirmed, as long as a glance, a kiss, a hug, I know, that is all the proof!
The most trustworthy thing is those things, not the words that have been said, aren't they?