Introduction: See every role in the family, the family atmosphere of equality, respect, ease, and harmony.
Weekend with his son to watch "The Incredibles 2", the son is very like, after coming back to watch on the iPad, this superman persona, or very popular with children, from a psychological point of view, children will imagine themselves as Superman, which will enhance their sense of power.
Dr. Cohen also mentioned in the book "Game Power" that letting children play powerful roles, such as Superman, Princess, and Good Student, will make children feel their inner strength.
Haha, I didn't expect it, it turns out that children like Superman, heroes and these roles, and there is an important psychological significance.
When I got home, I found an opportunity to watch "The Incredibles 1", although the two movies presented in the movie, although it is superman's movie plot, but as a mommy who pays attention to family education, I also see a lot of problems in ordinary families in this movie, such as:
Mother's self in marriage,
Balance the needs of children and the needs of society,
Communication between adolescent children,
Dad is involved in parenting,
Baby's sense of power.
Wait, there are other characters presenting human good and evil, self-worth, really very rich, I will not spoil more, let's take a look at this superhuman family, how they face and solve these problems.
First, the mother's ego in the marriage relationship.
The elastic superwoman mother who takes off the super energy is just an ordinary full-time mother, relying on her husband to do an ordinary insurance company job to support the family, and is suspicious of her husband's actions.
Mr. Super Neng received an unexpected job, his income doubled, his status rose, and he suddenly could not find his whereabouts, which made his mother cry in pain, no different from ordinary women.
However, in order to rescue Mr. Super Energy in distress, under the drum (ci) encouragement (ji) of designer friend Mo Yina, he returned to the jianghu, but at the moment of seeing his husband, he saw Mr. Super Energy and a young girl embracing deeply.
What happened next?
Haha, even if it is a stretch superwoman, don't lose yourself in marriage, whether you are a full-time mother, have your own life, your hobbies, and even your own career, not giving up on yourself is the fundamental.
In the second part, there is a big reversal, the mother is selected as the spokesperson to work outside the home, and the father takes care of the three children at home.
As moms, we deserve to be seen.
Second, balance the needs of children and the needs of society
The eldest son, Ba Xiaofei, the special function is to run fast, he especially hopes to participate in the school sports meeting, but the mother in order not to expose the identity, has not agreed, for this reason Ba Xiaofei is very angry, often use his superpowers in the school to make trouble for the teacher, for this reason the mother is often called to the principal's office.
After a series of time events, the whole family worked together to defeat the evil forces, and mom and dad also saw the power of the child, and saw that the child was also worthy of respect.
The whole family watched The scene of Ba Xiaofei's game together, while shouting, cheering, while shouting not to run too fast, running a second can be, so that the audience next to it is very confused, but, participating, is the common growth of the whole family is not it?
Every child's needs deserve to be seen.
Third, communication between adolescent children
Daughter Ba Xiaoqian, adolescent, with a strange hairstyle, the date saw the scene of his wearing super clothes, was erased by people, but also erased the memory of Ba Xiaoqian, and the appointment of the two people dating.
Ba Xiaoqian hated her father so much, and her father, for this reason, was very upset, desperately creating opportunities for Ba Xiaoqian to contact the boy, and the result was self-defeating, so that Ba Xiaoqian was ugly in front of the boy, and her father was actually very sad.
In order to take care of the three children, dad did not sleep well for several days, very tired, but also very frustrated, he sat powerlessly next to Ba Xiaoqian, told him that he actually wanted to do something for her, but did not know that doing so would hurt the child's heart, he actually wanted to be a good father.
As a result, the truth was revealed, but the daughter understood the father's heart, the father slept for several days in one breath, and the daughter took on the work of taking care of the family, and the adolescent daughter was also worth seeing.
Later, the daughter changed her strange hairstyle and led her two younger brothers to rescue her parents and all her Superman friends. The power of the child is really worth seeing.
Fourth, Dad is involved in parenting
Mom, as an excellent representative of Superman, goes out to work, and Dad has no choice but to take care of three children at home, so that his wife has no worries, and the result can be imagined, there is a sentence to describe: I want to crush my child's heart.
But the father still won his daughter's heart through his own efforts, helped the eldest son solve math problems, and also discovered the 17 superpowers of the younger son Ba Xiaojie.
In a family, dad also needs to be seen, many dads do not participate in parenting, not because they have no motivation, but in this family, moms and the elderly are too capable, dad does not need to do anything, but can not find their own parenting position.
If you do something, you will be accused of not doing anything; if you say something, you will be complained about, and you will not say anything at all; and what is more, since there is no place for me at home, I will not go home at all.
We need to see Dad's energy, give Dad more opportunities, more encouragement, And Dad also needs to grow and be seen.
Fifth, the baby's sense of strength
The youngest child in the family, Ba Xiaojie, is actually the one with the most superpowers, and in the big operation to save his parents, it is Ba Xiaojie who takes off the glasses to control his mother, which makes the situation fundamentally improve.
Not to mention the 17 superpowers of a little one. After watching the movie, my son also invented two parent-child games based on the super power plot of the baby, sharing it with everyone, you can play with the child.
First game: The eye can be launched
The mother holds the baby, lets the child pretend to be a launch grab, shoot at the father, dubbing in the mouth, suddenly, the father pretends to be shot, the focus is on the father's interpretation, aaaah ~, with the body movement twisting and turning.
The child will definitely laugh.
This game can enhance the child's inner sense of strength and self-confidence, let the father participate, create a warm family environment, and cultivate the parent-child relationship.
The second game: attract the little baby with cookies
The child pretended to be Ba Xiaojie disappeared, the mother pretended to take out a cookie to attract the child, the child heard that there was a cookie, and quickly ran out. Then swap roles with your child, a game that relieves your child's nervousness about not being able to eat a snack.
Finally, in every family, everyone has different roles and divisions, everyone deserves to be respected and seen, and only a balanced, harmonious, and relaxed growing family atmosphere will be conducive to the growth of everyone, including mom and dad and every child.
Everyone just needs to grow, and everyone deserves to be seen, right?
Author: Zhao Xinella, playing out the "mother power" family education tutor, only shares the most grounded mommy growth dry goods, the most easy to achieve parent-child parenting practice.
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