"In that era when there were no mobile phones and computers, how did you get here?"
If you want to recommend a healing drama that is suitable for reliving in cold weather, many people will probably think of "Please Answer 1988". The play tells the story of five families in an ordinary alley in Shuangmendong in the late 1980s, when there were no mobile phones and no computers, but it was full of pure love, precious family affection and intimate neighborly feelings.
I like to watch the neighborhood stories between the five families in Shuangmendong the most, the adults will get together to drink shochu and talk about gossip, the children will watch novels and watch the videotape together, no matter who has a problem at home, the neighbors are all you help me, I help you in the state, big things and small things are discussed and solved together. It is a single family and a complete big family with two doors, and the so-called "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors" is vividly reflected in this drama.
It is said that the more what is missing, the more envious of what, pure romantic love, blood thicker than water affection has always existed for eternity and long-term, but the intimate and seamless neighborly love seems to be gradually drifting away, especially in the urban life of high-rise buildings to establish and maintain this relationship, it is really difficult.
From "Neighbor" to "Next Door"
The relationship between neighbors is a lot because of "children", and the same is true in this drama. There are nine children in the five families in the alley, Paula, Deshan, Yuhui, Aze, Zhenghuan, Zhengfeng, Baby Fish, Shanyu and Pearl, the children are each other's best friends, and the parents are also more than affectionate.
Whenever Aze plays, it is the most important day for the people of Shuangmendong, everyone gathers around the TV, stands by the phone, is happy for him to worry about him, after winning the Go championship, Zheng Huan's mother will make a big table of good dishes to entertain neighbors and congratulate Aze; baby fish's parents can't take care of him because of work, so most of the time he solves the meal at the neighbor's house, everyone never gets tired, when the doll fish runs away from home, the people in the whole alley will worry and will go to him together; as the "group pet" of the double door cave, When the parents were preparing Christmas gifts for Pearl, they gathered together for two meetings, and they wanted to give Pearl the most perfect snowman gift, Aze's father was sick and hospitalized, and several other families in Shuangmendong also worked tirelessly to take turns to take care of it...
Back to reality, when everyone has not yet lived in a high-rise building, and every family lives next to each other, the neighborhood relationship is similar to that in the play. In a hurry to go out, when the child has no one to take care of, you can rest assured that you can hand it over to the neighbor; the door of the home is always open, and you can go to the neighbor's house to borrow some soy sauce when cooking; the cherry tree in front of the house is ripe to give the neighbor a point; you can see a blurry back at the intersection and pull the throat to stop each other; every time you go to the meal, you can always hear the shouting of "XXX, go home to eat". Everyone will gather around and play mahjong, talk about the parents, whose children have entered what schools, and what awards they have won.
Now, especially in the generation of big cities wandering, within one square meter, one wall, two worlds.
Everyone has no feeling for the concept of "neighbor", and instead of "the next door", the title has two more words but less human touch. Many migrant workers who share a house in a big city return home, the first thing is to close the door, rarely take the initiative to greet the tenants, there is nothing to maintain between the neighbors, they do not know each other's name, where to work, and the only conversation every month is to pay the utility bill.
The truth is that the merchants who often order takeout and the rider brothers who deliver them know them better than their neighbors.
It is difficult to break the strange state between people, strangers encountered in the elevator hall and stairwell will be subconsciously vigilant, some concerns, do not know where the other party comes from, how the character is, it seems that there is no need to know. Young people who work hard in the city prefer to be alone, not tired of socializing, there are endless trifles at work, there are all kinds of troubles in life, who still has the energy to add unnecessary neighborhood socialization to themselves, and maybe next month he will move out of this building, not too much to usher in a new face, think about it, there is really no need to know.
The bigger the city, the lonelier it is.
From the smell of rice to the disturbing murmur
When it comes to the meal, every household will float out the aroma of the meal, and the conditions of the Zhenghuan family are the best of the five families, and every time they eat, they are very hearty: kimchi tofu soup, seaweed bibimbap, fried sauce noodles, ramen, fried pork intestines, fried rice cakes... The relative conditions of the other households are much worse, often kimchi and miscellaneous vegetables with rice, no wonder Deoksan loves to go to Zhenghuan's house to rub rice. The first episode of "Please Answer 1988" is when neighbors deliver dishes to each other, and before each other gives each other a dish, there may be a dish at home, and after the change of dishes, it becomes a full table.
In the days of the bungalow, the aroma of the neighbor's meal was the most enticing presence. The neighbors can guess what dishes they eat at each meal, based on the taste. The most familiar is the sound of onion, ginger, garlic and star anise exploding in the oil pot, the sound of the oil is the sound of the shovel and the tinkling of the iron pot, the smell of choking pepper mixed with the meat aroma of the red sauce, the sweet and sour taste that stimulates the taste buds, the sweet and sour taste of the mutton soup... While the neighbor's house is cooking, the children of the family will lie by the window to smell the smell, if they smell the favorite dish, they will jump to the neighbor's house to rub it, and they will carry the dumplings that their mother has just wrapped in their hands.
What used to come from the window was the enticing smell of the neighbor's house, but now the reinforced concrete is constantly separated by all kinds of noise.
Living in big cities rarely smells food anymore, because everyone is used to ordering takeout, cooking on the fire is rare, and the impact of taste buds gradually becomes a sound bombardment. There is a particularly magical phenomenon that no matter where you move, you can always hear the sound of decoration upstairs and downstairs, as if where you live, the decoration team is where. At eight o'clock in the morning, the sound of the electric drill appeared on time, one after another, drilling the wall is also every nerve in your brain, and after a while it is the sound of a hammer banging, and within half an hour, the whole head is buzzing. I always love to meet the tenants next door who are lovers, they especially love to break out conflicts at two o'clock in the morning, can clearly hear the sound of glass breaking on the ground, quarrels, beatings continuously, if in the past neighbors will definitely come forward to persuade the fight, and now they will only hold the mobile phone, ready to dial 110 at any time. The children next door always love to cry and cry, from morning to night, far and near, and the afterglow is around the beam.
China's traditional "group" life is slowly evolving into a very private personal life, and the material life has improved a lot, but the human touch has faded too much. There is no sharing, no help, the higher the building is built, the farther the people's hearts are, and the once simple neighborhood has become a scarce commodity in the steel jungle of modern society.
Do you still live alone next to each other, do you have any enviable neighborhood feelings?
And living in a high-rise building, do you feel that the relationship between the neighbors is okay?
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