There is an eight-year-old boy in the family, and it is easy to get 10 yuan out, and there is no need to kneel.
In fact, about the start of pocket money, our family is relatively late, but we have communicated with our children about the use of family money before. From the beginning when he began to know money by himself and knew that there was money for the New Year.
In order to make the child more conceptual about money, and also to cultivate his consumption concept, we began to give him pocket money.
From the initial monthly to the current weekly, given to him monthly, the period is relatively long, it is inconvenient for the child to keep accounts, and the waiting time is also long, and the child needs to wait too long in case he buys large items.
So I changed my monthly pocket money to a weekly one, and I would give him ten yuan of pocket money every Friday.
At first, he got his pocket money, and on weekends he was the time for "big shopping", so he and I went to the supermarket to buy some snacks and spent all the pocket money at once. From Monday to Thursday, when he suddenly wanted to eat a snack or buy a bag card, he found that his pocket money was gone, so he began to control himself to buy fewer snacks.
So now he runs a snack shop once a week, basically spending four or five yuan, and saving the rest of the money.
Sometimes he doesn't buy snacks for a week, and he doesn't buy anything else, and he saves ten dollars. He said the money in his small purse was to be used for important moments.
There were also many interesting stories that happened during this period.
For example, in the past, he always threw erasers and printers with a casual stroke, and his father told him several times because of his waste.
Once the baby's father wanted to reason again, and his son said, "How much is this, I will pay for it." Then take out your wallet and ask for payment."
I began to calculate for him the erasers, pencils, deliberately broken rulers, etc., and when he saw that the stationery he used was not cheap, he quickly said, "Mama, I don't have to deliberately damage the stationery in the future, can I not compensate this time."
In the end, he still symbolically compensated two yuan, and later treated stationery, which he has always cherished.
In the past six months when he had pocket money, he learned to save money and also learned to "settle accounts". When buying something, I will also compare the price and calculate my own funds.
He also uses his pocket money to buy me holiday gifts, often invites me to a cup of milk tea, buys my favorite cards...
Now even if he sees the change thrown by the baby's father in the entrance at home, he won't move, he knows that it is not his change, and only every time we give him the pocket money he will put it in his small purse.
Parents should stop their children from stealing money from the family in time, but they should pay attention to the ways and means.
found that the child took 10 yuan, so he decided that the child was stealing and directly punished him for kneeling, which can only backfire for a long time. The more you try to limit a particular motivation, the more likely it is to be counterproductive.
Because too strongly magnifying the fact that the child takes the money will increase the temptation of the matter.
For example, before class, we have a cookie on the table, and before class, we keep telling ourselves, "You can't eat this cookie until the end of the class." But you'll find that throughout the course, your focus will often run to the cookies, and you may want to sneak a bite during the lesson.
Restrictions tend to motivate us to be more motivated.
In the case of children taking money, we should solve the problem in a different way, rather than focusing on punishment.
Understand why children want to steal money and what they want to buy with the 10 yuan, 8-year-old children generally buy snacks, cards, small toys, stationery and other things at this time.
Is it that parents are too restrictive to their children, and their children want to eat snacks, or are parents restricting playing cards, and children want to buy cards, or do they envy their classmates' stationery and want to buy them?
If the child's wishes can be properly satisfied, the child will not think of taking the family's money.
If he can have his own pocket money, then he can use his own pocket money to accomplish these things, and he will not take the family's money.
After all, for children who have no other way to get money, they can only take it at home.
There may be a variety of factors that may result from a child taking money from the family, but intimidation and punishment are the most difficult to solve the problem.
What parents should do is to give their children a certain degree of tolerance and understanding, understand the real situation, and communicate well.
We need to know that "the way parents educate determines their children's future behavior."