In marriage, there are two kinds of women who look smart and who are actually stupid...
Strange and strange
2024.06.16
01, frontispiece
Marriage is like a problem, and every woman has a different way to solve it. If it's just one person fighting, this question is wrong anyway.
Women have a very cautious attitude towards marriage. I long to be able to manage my marriage together and live happily through the joint efforts of two people.
However, in marriage, it is easy for a woman to fall deeper and deeper and end up taking her feelings too seriously.
Love is extremely counterproductive, and in marriage, using too much force will backfire.
Some marriages will allow women to meet a better version of themselves. And some marriages are constantly consuming women, making her gradually become dull until there is no color.
In marriage, there are two kinds of women who look smart but are actually stupid, and hope you are not.
02. Let the man devote himself to his career and don't let him take care of his family affairs
Marriage needs two people to run it together, so that it can develop steadily and sweetly over a long period of time.
However, many women have made themselves a "good wife and mother". I don't let my husband interfere in anything at home, and I feel that when my husband comes to do things at home, he is not competent enough.
In order to fulfill a man's dreams and careers, a woman is willing to become the woman behind him, silently take on everything, and carry all the trivialities in marriage.
When a woman no longer lets a man take care of the affairs of the house, does not care about the children, does not do housework, does not be filial to her parents, etc., she will gradually find that the marriage is out of balance.
For marriage, if a man cannot participate in it, he will not understand the ups and downs that a woman goes through. Men who have never managed their own marriages will not feel how sorry it is to destroy them.
Women, once you spoil a man too much because of love and don't let him give something in the family, it will cause you to become more and more tired, and the home will become more and more warm, but the husband's heart will be farther and farther away from you.
Su Qin said: "If you don't try to be good to a person, that person will love you desperately." ”
If you want a man to love this family and cherish each other's feelings, you have to let him pay.
Increase the "sunk cost", the more a man pays, the heavier the position of him and the family will be in his heart, and the stronger the relationship between the husband and wife will be.
Women, stop making excuses for not letting men pay for the family. Don't wait until men have become very indifferent to realize that marriage is never something that can be managed by one person's hard work.
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03. Invest all your investments in your husband and rely on your husband
In this world, everything can change, including the feelings of two people.
If a woman wants to manage her marriage well, she can't love too much. The premise of managing love is to never forget to manage yourself.
There is a woman in "Wu Wen Xidong" called Liu Shufen.
She likes Xu Bochang and spends all her savings on him for him to go to college. Because Xu Bochang promised her that he would marry her when he came back, and the two of them would live for a lifetime.
Because of this promise, Liu Shufen put all her thoughts on loving this man.
The delicious meals are left to him, and he eats steamed buns and pickles by himself. By all means, keep this man by your side. married, but tormented each other.
Xu Bochang changed his mind and treated her with a very indifferent attitude. But she'd rather become like a madman than let go. Because, she was so devoted that she never thought about what other choices she had in life besides loving him.
In some marriages, women regard men as their own heaven, support her wholeheartedly, and do not hesitate to give up their dreams and lives, and do not hesitate to consume all their youth and savings.
However, giving too much makes men not know how to cherish it. Moreover, the "fulfillment" marriage makes the man more and more excellent, but the woman is still standing still, and it is difficult for the two people to last long.
Chen Li said: "Don't catch any waves, don't take any boats, you have your own sea." ”
Stupid women, gradually build men into careers, good connections and images. thinks that if you give everything, you can get his sincerity, and he will become her dependence.
However, in the end, it turned out that it was the wrong investment.
A truly intelligent woman puts her mind on herself, strives to improve herself, and makes herself shine. is evenly matched with men, so that he doesn't dare to slack off her easily, and he doesn't dare to underestimate her easily.
04. Summary
Women, at all times, don't forget that marriage is run by two people.
Romain Rolland said: "In marriage, everyone has to pay the price, and at the same time have to take something back, this is the law of supply and demand. ”
Both husband and wife should have their own careers, both to pursue their dreams and to take care of their families. Working together and working together will produce more tacit understanding and become "comrades-in-arms" with stronger feelings.
It is not easy for a man to take over the tedious affairs of the family and know how to run a family.
Don't put all your hopes on men, women themselves can achieve brilliant results in their work. Invest more in yourself and have a state of parity with men to make your married life more comfortable.
Entering into marriage is not the same as giving up on oneself. If you want to improve the happiness index of your marriage, you must first improve yourself.
