Would I marry a woman with a physical disability?
In this fast-paced era, many people's expectations and ideas about marriage have become much more complicated. Mentioning "Would I marry a woman with a physical disability?" Many people may hesitate at this question. In the past, people may not hesitate to say "no", but today's way of thinking makes this question worth pondering.
The cost of living is rising, and if you don't have a stable income or skills, getting married is no longer an easy option. Even in the face of women with disabilities, many people will silently weigh in their hearts: "Is it worth it?" ”
Zhang Mo is such a 30-year-old ordinary man, in the township, with neither outstanding appearance nor stable employment. In the process of working hard, he has never been able to meet the right other half. Until recently, the family introduced a blind date, a 25-year-old girl, Qu Di. Zhang Mo was shocked by her beauty, her long black hair, delicate facial features, and big eyes like a starry sky, which was heartwarming.
However, as the conversation deepened, Zhang Mo learned about Qu Di's disability. As a result of the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck at birth, her brain was underdeveloped, resulting in an uncontrolled right hand and right foot. Since she was a child, Qu Di has never been in a relationship for this reason, and her parents decided to find a partner with average conditions for her.
Despite some hesitation in his heart, Zhang Mo still decided to see Qu Di. The first time they met, he was fascinated by Qudi's beauty. Although Qu Di has difficulty moving, her personality is gentle and kind, and she can work hard to do housework, and more importantly, Qu Di's parents said that they don't want a bride price to marry their daughter, and they will give Zhang Mo a dowry of 100,000 yuan, and they only hope that he can treat his daughter well.
So, out of yearning for marriage and family considerations, Zhang Mo finally chose to try to date Qu Di. After a short time together, Zhang Mo found that Qu Di was really a good woman, although she had some low self-esteem, she had a gentle personality, worked hard to take on housework, and could cook. After a month of running-in, the two got engaged and entered the palace of marriage happily and optimistically.
At first, Zhang Mo took great care of his wife and took care of Qu Di as much as possible. However, once the honeymoon period is over, chores such as housework and cooking return to Qu Di. Although Qu Di never complained, every time Zhang Mo came back from work, a hot meal was always waiting for him, but after a long time, the dissatisfaction in Zhang Mo's heart slowly grew.
He began to feel that his wife was too slow, and that many tasks were procrastinating, and even felt that Qu Di was "eating dry rice" at home. In his opinion, the responsibilities and burdens that come with marriage fall entirely on his own. And this mentality eventually made Zhang Mo's illusions about marriage gradually shattered.
As a result, Zhang Mo published his distress on the Internet, trying to arouse sympathy, but was greeted with ridicule from the whole network. It has been pointed out that this negative mindset is no longer accepted in today's society, especially when the person he complains about is a woman with a physical disability. Everyone thinks that Zhang Mo is really "both want and want", such selfishness and lack of knowing how to cherish it is really disappointing.
This story reminds me of a netizen who said, since you have become a husband and wife, don't worry about those small flaws. Life is not meant to be flawless, but needs to be constantly polished in the trivialities. Qu Di proves her cherishing marriage with her hard work and tenacity, but Zhang Mo seems to have been immersed in self-centered thinking, unable to understand the true meaning of marriage.
Some people say that a wife should marry a virtuous person. In the emotional world, no matter whether the other person has some kind of defect or not, sincere companionship is the most important thing. If a person only focuses on the superficial glamour and ignores the delicacy and complexity of living together with each other, then their future will only get narrower and narrower.
I also have friends who have married girls with physical disabilities. His wife is not very handy, but she is kind-hearted and gentle-minded, and the house is always kept in order, and the meals she cooks are a must. Her friends' love for her has not diminished in the slightest, and she has never been dissatisfied with his wife's physical condition. The difference is that he gives his salary to his wife and allows her to manage the family's expenses and live happily.
Therefore, what I want to say is that marriage is not blindly obtained, but more about giving and tolerating. In these challenging times, it is a blessing to be able to find someone who is willing to spend time with each other, regardless of the physical condition of the other person.
There are imperfections in everyone's life, and it is these imperfections that make us unique and authentic. Only by cherishing each other and accepting each other's incompleteness can this relationship become stronger and stronger in the test of time. I hope every man can understand that a person's value is not only in appearance, but also in her morality, character and attitude towards life. Even if you encounter difficulties and setbacks, with love in your heart, you can give birth to infinite possibilities.
On the road ahead, we must look at the people around us with our hearts, and hope that we can all find understanding and support in marriage, rather than simply complaining and blaming. I hope that everyone who cherishes love can find their true happiness in this diverse world.