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With the development of the times and the abundance of material conditions, as parents, we have not only ensured the food and clothing of our children in raising children, but also focused on "psychological growth" and "cognitive development".
But the sad thing is that not all parents have such awareness.
Even some parents in the process of bringing the baby, some "god operations" appeared, which made people surprised and felt incredible.
01. The girl was taken to the supermarket by her mother "naked", but passers-by kindly reminded her but was scolded
While surfing the web, I stumbled upon a post.
To be honest, when I saw it at the time, I couldn't help but be dumbfounded, and ten thousand incomprehensions surged in my heart.
The content of this post is actually very simple, but the information presented is embarrassing and infuriating.
When a netizen was shopping in the supermarket, he saw a mother with a little girl about 5 years old also hanging out.
It's just puzzling that the mother is well-dressed and very delicate, but on the other hand, the little girl who follows her is "naked" and has no cloth on her body.
This scene attracted the sideways attention of the surrounding crowd, and many people were busy avoiding embarrassment when they walked past the mother and daughter.
Some people even suspected that the adult next to the little girl was not her biological mother, and almost chose to call the police.
Of course, there are also sensible well-wishers who come forward to remind and persuade them, thinking that taking their children out like this is easy to have a bad impact on their children.
Who would have thought that this mother would not enter the oil and salt, not only did she not think so, but also faced the kind reminders of passers-by, and directly replied:
She's still so young, it's nothing, besides, I can dress her however she likes, you can be so wide.
The sound of a voice frightened away the well-wishers around him, and also explained the true meaning of what is called "summer insects are unspeakable".
To be honest, in the past, because there were more brothers and sisters in every family, coupled with poverty, most children may not even have a piece of their own clothes.
Just like Yue Yunpeng said in his cross talk joke, a pair of pants at home is worn every day.
So at that time, I could still see children who were not very old, playing wildly by the river and on the road without clothes.
But now, like this, it no longer exists.
On the one hand, the living conditions of every family have improved, and on the other hand, parents also know that although their children are young, they also have shame and self-esteem.
It is unimaginable and embarrassing to have such a grandiose appearance of children without clothes in public occasions.
What's more, this kind of behavior will not only cause surprised eyes from people around you, but may also bring a series of hidden dangers and impacts to the child's growth.
02. What are the effects of not paying attention to dressing children in public?
Although the situation of this mother and daughter is an isolated case.
But at present, there are not a few people who dress their children too "maverick".
If you take your child in public without paying attention to dressing appropriately, then there may be 3 effects accompanying it.
(1) There are potential safety hazards
There are good people and bad people in this world.
As parents, we can't rule out the possibility that bad people may cause harm to children just because of the existence of good people.
To put it bluntly, many things are "lucky deviations".
For example, in the past few years, there have often been some incidents of "bullying" children on the Internet, and I have always disagreed with them, feeling that these things are far away from us.
Until two years ago, a leader of my daughter-in-law's unit, his daughter was taken away by a man in the same community and violent, and by the time everyone found the child, she was powerless.
At that time, this incident was very noisy, and it also sounded the alarm for many of our parents.
Therefore, in the matter of the child's dress, it seems to be a trivial matter, but if it is not decent enough, it will arouse the criminal desire of the bad guy and bury a certain potential danger for the child.
If this kind of thing becomes the fuse for the child to be hurt, once the situation happens, it will really be useless to regret and blame yourself.
(2) It is easy to cause psychological shadows to children
It has been said that from the day a child is born, he or she has a sense of shame and self-esteem.
Although this is an exaggeration, it also tells us bluntly that when raising children, we must respect their needs in their growth and development.
Although many times, children are ignorant of certain things.
But the strange eyes, pointing and sneering and complaining of others can be felt in the child's body and heart.
Over time, children will become inferior and cowardly, and a series of psychological problems will appear.
What's more, in many cases, if you dress inappropriately, it is easy to cause the child's gender identity to be blurred, and this situation will even affect the child's life.
(3) Affect children's socialization
Although it is said that "judging people by their appearance" is biased.
However, the establishment of social relationships between people is initially judged by the appearance and dress of the other party.
Once you dress your child too maverick, it will make your child become an "outlier" in the eyes of other partners. Inevitably being ridiculed and teased.
Therefore, dressing appropriately is not only a form of politeness, but also the foundation of social establishment.
03. Raising children requires both "raising" and "nurturing"
In the past, parents may have raised their children, and the focus would be on "food and clothing".
After all, there are many people in the family, and parents go out early and return late, and they are busy, so it is difficult to cover all aspects of their children's affairs.
But nowadays, many of us parents understand that raising children and satisfying food and clothing is only the most basic responsibility, in addition to this, it is more important to protect the mental health of children.
If you dress neatly, without caring about the child's face and dignity, let it live alone under the discussion and strange eyes of everyone.
So where can you see half of the responsibility for such upbringing?
Therefore, in my opinion, the so-called nurturing is not only to "raise" but also to "nurture".
In the process of children's growth, parents are the main source of their character and sound psychology, we not only want to provide children with the most basic living security, but also through their own words and deeds, life bits and pieces, to transmit the correct three views and family education to children.
Only in this way can children grow up healthy and happy when they are physically and mentally guaranteed.
We can't imagine why the mother would do such a thing, but as a bystander, we can still feel the anxiety in the little girl.
So, don't try to blindfold your child and ignore their psychologically developed characteristics, it can be the greatest kindness of parenthood.
It is also for children, the best love.