There was a video with a high number of likes circulating on the Internet.
A father watched his child study too hard and wanted to tell him to rest for a while.
When I got closer, I found that the child was gone.
Spread out the books and read carefully, there was a pile of clothes arranged in human shape, and as for the child who "worked hard" to study, he didn't know where to hide.
There is a saying: "In China, 80% of students are pretending to be trying." ”
If you look closely, there are many children around us who are actually "fake learning" and "fake hard work": they seem to be studying and learning seriously, but they are actually "fishing in troubled waters" and "pretending to work hard".
Time is fair, and the results don't lie.
Children who "fake hard work" learn in the end, and they can't play enough, and they can't learn well, and they end up getting nothing.
01 pretending to work hard, the grades will not cooperate with the starring
On the surface, hard work is actually a subtle and stubborn disease, which silently deprives children of precious time and vigorous energy. Children are physically and mentally exhausted, and the results of their efforts are often unsatisfactory.
Therefore, as a parent, if you want your child to do less useless work, you must keep your child away from these kinds of "fake work".
01 "Bell-hitting" learning
Characteristics of "bell-hitting" learning:
It looks like it's learning, but it's not really focused – it's very inefficient.
Some children like to do this kind of thing: when they are in class, they write down all the content of the teacher's lecture and the content played on the PPT in a notebook, and then transcribe the content of these hastily written down in a beautiful notebook when they go home.
It seems that it took a long time to study, but I didn't focus on studying at all, and in the end, I spent the time, and the effect was not at all.
This kind of "superficial learning" will not only make children's grades decline, but also make children have the psychology of "I have worked hard, but I still can't learn well", which will discourage children's enthusiasm for learning.
Relevant studies have shown that children's attention level is closely related to the development of the frontal lobe in the brain.
The prefrontal cortex is part of the frontal lobe of our brain and is responsible for a range of important functions, including executive function, memory, attention, and emotion regulation.
02 "Passable and passable" learning
The "get by" here means that children only like to do questions or simple questions that they can do, and once they encounter something slightly difficult or they can't do it, they just say I can't, and habitually avoid it.
This kind of child is indeed working hard in his comfort zone, and he has done the topics he knows over and over again, and the simple questions are brushed page after page, and he seems to be very diligent.
In fact, it is of little help to their ability to improve and their knowledge.
They lack confidence in learning, are afraid of making mistakes because they can't, and are afraid of a series of accusations and other problems that come with making mistakes.
03 "Low-quality diligent" learning
In the documentary "The Betrayal of Learning", a young girl named Ye Yuan is depicted who is particularly diligent in her studies.
She wakes up at dawn every day until 2 o'clock in the evening, always immersed in the sea of books. The schedule is packed with goals and plans, and even the time spent eating and going to the toilet is strictly controlled to maximize every minute and every second.
However, despite her efforts, she came in 315th place in her first big exam in high school, not standing out among 395 students. What is the reason for this?
It turned out that although Ye Yuan invested a lot of time in studying, she failed to master the correct method.
She only knows rote memorization, and she only swallows dates when she does questions, and she seems to have mastered many knowledge points, but in fact she is full of loopholes and her learning is not solid.
In addition, due to the lack of sleep caused by long hours of studying, her mental state deteriorated, and her efficiency in class was greatly reduced. She blindly pursues the pace and quantity of learning, but ignores the quality and depth of learning, and this low-quality diligence is actually an illusion.
02 "True Learning" Rescue Guide
The real effort is not to spend more time than anyone else, but to find the right way, leave distracting thoughts, and really put your energy and brain power into it.
Parents can help their children try the following methods.
01Use the Feynman method to deepen your understanding of knowledge
In the book "Feynman Learning Method - This is how I was admitted to Tsinghua University", it is said: "There is no review of learning, just swallowing dates." ”
One of the reasons why a top student said that he was able to counterattack and be admitted to Peking University was that his mother often used the "Feynman Learning Method" to let her tell her mother what she had learned to help her master the knowledge more thoroughly.
This Feynman method of learning can be reduced to four words: Concept, Teach, Review, and Simplify.
The simple understanding is: when a child learns a new knowledge point, if he wants to use concise language to explain it to others, then he needs to first figure out what this new knowledge point is about? What does it mean in practice?
And when these are completely clarified, the child can tell this knowledge point to others, and then review the knowledge point again, and completely consolidate it into the child's knowledge system.
02 Selected topics and focus on secondary reflection
Don't be greedy for more worksheets, choose what you think is suitable for your child, let your child do less every day, and you can proofread the answers when you finish it, but not copy the answers.
If you can't explain it to your child, ask your child to do it himself, read the answer, close it and do it again until he can get the question right.
03Timely positive feedback stimulates learning consciousness
Learning, for most children, is indeed a very boring thing.
Therefore, it is necessary to stimulate children's interest in learning from within.
For example, try letting your child see what they're learning every little while they're learning.
As brain scientists have concluded, "Sustained positive feedback is what inspires powerful action." ”
Let children experience the sense of accomplishment of "pay and gain" in time, and they will be willing to continue to work hard.