The latest hammer god of internal entertainment, have you heard of it?
If you haven't heard of it, don't miss it!
Cause, Gao Yalin, the actor of Xia Donghai in "Family with Children", was blown up and collapsed:
▲ His girlfriend came out and said that he was engaged in a junior, and Gao Yalin defended that a junior was a special profession
As a result, Xu Zijun, who was said to be a junior, came out with a small composition and shouted Gao Yalin to apologize, saying that he was a victim:
▲ said that Gao is an elder, not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship
said it was good, but in one sentence, Thor's hammer hammered itself to death:
▲ Breathtaking
Netizens complained accurately:
▲ Contradictory
It's funny, she's not the only one who has reversed Thor's hammer recently!
Station B's million-up main flower Shaobei was exposed, and on the surface, he relied on a single person to play the widow king terrier to attract fans, but in fact, he relied on his 7-year underground girlfriend to do team support:
▲ The evidence sent by the underground girlfriend that he has paid for the boy for many years without salary and return
He recently talked to his rich girlfriend, so he was torn up by his underground girlfriend.
It is said that there is still a bit of room for the matter itself, but the boy performed a hammer hammer for everyone in one sentence:
▲ Laughing made a fortune
Boys may think that this sentence shows that I am a "good man with affection".
But in fact, this sentence directly confirmed that he "delayed others for 7 years", the nature of love, the length of love, and the other party's dedication were all hammered at once - the main one is sincere!
Of course, this kind of fun is quite enjoyable to watch, and most people also think that they will definitely not be so stupid.
But as far as Jenny is concerned, there are many things we do in life to "hammer ourselves":
For example, if you have a quarrel with a client and your boss is held accountable, you explain, "I scolded us because the client scolded us so badly."
The key point you want to express is "the customer is not right first", and the main point that the boss gets is "you actually scolded the customer", and the money will be deducted directly.
For example, your mom blames you for not calling home recently, and you justify "it's because you work too much overtime and want to take a break on the weekend."
The point you want to express is "I'm so tired", and the point your mom gets is "you feel tired to call home" and "you'd rather lie down than call home", and explode on the spot, saying that you are two hours on the other.
obviously wants to defend the result and becomes "hammer hammer himself", the deep reason is that he doesn't know how to grasp the psychology of the other party, and he doesn't know how to express himself.
In the same scene, how will the master break it?
The positive textbook Su Concubine Su Peisheng is tied with Zhen Huan for the two major emotional intelligence ceilings of "The Legend of Zhen Huan".
His "golden justification" is completely opposite to the way ordinary people think, but the effect is excellent!
When the emperor favored Yu Ying'er, Xiao Xiazi offended Yu Ying'er and was asked by Yu to peel walnuts by hand, not only peeling his hands full of blood, but also almost missing to wake up the emperor:
▲ The emperor was very dissatisfied when he woke up
And Xiao Xiazi was wronged, and when the emperor said "It's late", he defended himself, and as a result, he liked to slap his mouth:
▲In any case, the attitude can't be bad!
And Concubine Su almost said three words, so that the emperor was angry, Xiao Xiazi was exempted from punishment, and even dug a big hole for Yu Ying'er - the situation was completely reversed!
What did he say?
In the first sentence, scolding Xiao Xiazi:
▲ Very skillful
The attitude of admitting mistakes is the first important, if you don't admit your mistakes, the other party can't listen to what you say next, and only by saying this sentence can you appease the emperor.
The second sentence is the opposite:
▲ Finished and lost
Concubine Su's attitude was blaming Xiao Xiazi, but when she pointed out the fact that it was beneficial to Xiao Xiazi, the emperor would be tolerant.
Ordinary people's riot operations are the opposite, the attitude is not admitting mistakes, the facts are unfavorable to themselves, and the effect is to pit themselves.
And what many people don't understand is that Concubine Su even sued:
▲ Affect the errand
The master himself tortured the minions a lot, and the emperor didn't bother to care.
But Concubine Su's sentence changed the focus from letting Xiao Xiazi peel walnuts with his bare hands (the emperor didn't care) to delaying the emperor (the emperor cared), and the implication was that Yu Ying'er dared to delay the emperor in order to take revenge on his subordinates.
And the effect was immediate, and Xiao Xiazi's punishment was immediately exempted:
▲ I had to slap my mouth just now
The emperor was obviously dissatisfied with Yu Ying'er:
▲Look at this expression
In contrast, ordinary people ≈ hammer themselves, Concubine Su in three sentences, good attitude + dumping the pot + complaint in one go, what is high, this is high!
However, although it looks amazing, can ordinary people learn and use this trick? Is it really easy to use in life?
The answer is yes, please look at the real case of VCR -
01
Shake the pot ceiling
Cool text operation
This real case was urgently asked by a classmate in the training camp and Jenny, and she was about to explode when she asked:
The introducer had helped the girl's family, and the boy's hardware was good, so he agreed to meet.
But when they met, the boy was not only 45 minutes late, but also had a very bad attitude, and he also crackled and said that he had been in 10 relationships before and after, and he didn't want to get married recently, and he had no plans to get married.
The girl was very aggrieved, but she didn't want to offend the introducer, so she only said "it doesn't fit her eyes" and "her hobbies don't match" and she refused.
As a result, the introducer Yin Yang "Why don't you say it earlier if you ask for so much", the other party's parents will directly come to the door to force marriage, but the man is beautiful and invisible.
Equally, the object did not refuse, the pot was on the back, the introducer was offended, and three lost!
And Jenny I gave a few paragraphs, and after the girl replied, not only was the introducer speechless and apologized, but the boy's parents withdrew on the spot, and as far as the latest news goes, the man has been scolded by his parents for several days.
What did I say?
First of all, the first paragraph, hit the bubble:
"Thank you very much for introducing such a good partner to me, you were also very enthusiastic about helping our family before, and I have always been grateful in my heart, I am very embarrassed to refuse this, you estimate that it is not easy to be a middleman, I am sorry for the trouble caused you."
The boy's hardware is good, and most of the introducers don't know, there is a high probability that the introducer is kind, and you don't want to tear your face, so this paragraph must have, it seems that you know how to be civilized and polite, and also strive for the introducer to stand on your side.
Then it's time to peel the skin!
To put it bluntly, this man is sure that the girl is thin-skinned, and he doesn't dare to talk about his sassy operation for fear of quarreling, so he is unscrupulous.
Let's hit a surprise, you think I don't dare to say it, I say it, but what I said makes people can't find any fault.
It's easy to talk about his operation, like accusations, so you have to clarify the purpose first:
"I don't think it's good to make everyone uncomfortable, but I can't let you be affected, so I'm going to talk to you.
In fact, I rejected the boy because the boy was 45 minutes late when he met, and then when chatting, he said that he had more than 10 girlfriends. When I talked about getting married, he didn't have much interest.
I didn't say this before, because I don't want you and your uncle and aunt to be uncomfortable, and you must be because you don't know about this situation, so you think you can fight for it, but I didn't handle it well, I'm sorry."
In this way, although you have said all the evil things of the boy, your purpose is to "not involve the introducer" and "not let his parents be in a hurry", and be more considerate and bear the burden of humiliation! Who's to say anything about you?
Moreover, you cleverly pointed out that the man's sassy operation actually made his parents worry and involved the introducer, he definitely didn't have good fruit to eat, and you sued in one go!
Finally, we can also "click" on the benefits that the introducer can get:
"How to tell his parents, you have to work hard to figure out the words, you know them, you must speak better than me. They know the problem, and they may not worry so much.
The boy is in good condition, and I believe that he will be able to find a better partner in the future, and I wish him all the best."
This is to remind the introducer that even if this paragraph fails, she tells the boy's parents the reason, and the boy's parents will thank her, and she can still get the favor she wants.
As a result, the pot was completely thrown out, and the introducer was not offended and received thanks, the man was repaired, and three losses became three kills!
So, if messing with people who can't communicate is like kicking cotton, messing with people who can communicate is like kicking reinforced concrete - that's so much!
In fact, many people think that communication is to fill in the blanks, in fact, the essence of not communicating is to be confused, such as here, it can be said because it is predicted that most of the introducers and the man's parents are not aware, so it is useful to say this, and the following example is even more so:
02
Fish farming
Ignorance was pitted
In the second real case, after the training camp group members asked for help in the group, everyone also discussed it for a long time, but they had no clue:
The male colleague takes good care of her and buys breakfast, but he treats the female colleague better.
At the recent funeral of a female colleague's family, I asked the lord to help with the male colleague, and the female colleague asked her to buy clothes, wash clothes, and pick up and drop, and she did all of them, and the male colleague only went with her when she was shopping for clothes.
But on the day of the funeral, the female colleague said that she didn't have to ask the lord to go, but she didn't say why, and then she only thanked the male colleague when she thanked her, and the lord was inexplicable.
Although the male colleague usually takes care of the questioner, he also asks the lord in front of people to belittle jokes, and it is a little ambiguous, and the questioner is very puzzled: What is going on, are these two still together?
Will everyone be able to solve the case?
Different from the confusion of asking the master, Jenny I, who have been exposed to rich cases, immediately corresponded to the real case, and judged that the boy not only treated the owner and female colleagues as fish, but also played "fish to raise fish".
N years ago, I played a game in a group, at that time there was a short black fat group in the group who was not very good, and he took good care of the girls, and often shush the cold and asked for warm games, and the girls loved to play with him, and he seemed very popular.
Subsequently, a Bai Fumei came to the group, and the short black and fat didn't play much with other girls, and the question was "I want to play games with Bai Fumei", which gave a strong emotional value of "giving up the world for you".
Bai Fumei itself is relatively strong and praised, short and black fat has always been a little low as a cow and a horse, and after a period of time, he really got Bai Fumei, who has a lot of good conditions.
Later, everyone found out in a private chat that in fact, many of the things that Humpy Black Fat helped Bai Fumei do were done by other girls in the group.
For example, if you help Bai Fumei make documents by yourself, you actually ask Xiaobaihua to do it for yourself, and then forward it to Bai Fumei.
To sum up, Humpy Black Fat was better for girls at the beginning, one was to create a situation where he was very popular, so that girls who "love to win" took the bait, and it was hard to say that it was to raise the price of X.
The little favors he gave to other girls in the early stage were not in vain, and in the later stage, he asked them to help them spit it out, so that he could get other fish by himself.
In this way, "raising fish with fish", I almost didn't pay a penny, and captured Bai Fumei at 0 cost, and I heard the abacus in outer space.
After I finished telling this story, I exclaimed that her female colleague was indeed Bai Fumei, and her male colleague was indeed average, and the female colleague was indeed the same as Bai Fumei in my story, a bit of a little princess personality - it completely corresponds!
After corresponding, the male colleague who asked the lord said something to the female colleague in private, and he knew it with his toes:
"I'm the main one who does the work."
"To ask the Lord is to give me a hand"
"I asked the Lord to complain if she didn't want to do it, and I persuaded her that she didn't want to do it now, so don't call her."
- That's why female colleagues don't ask the Lord, and they don't thank the Lord! Silky!
Substituted for a male colleague, everything is done by the Lord, and the favors are all his own, and he also seems to have a female licking dog, coaxing his own value, and he is beautiful.
Substituted for the master, not only did the work thankless, but also because the male colleagues were ambiguous, they were secretly competed by female colleagues, and they were also invisibly blocked from marriage, which was simply a loss.
The Questioner was ignorant, and thought it was a question of "the other party can't speak".
When I said this, she was in a cold sweat, and she found that she had been eaten by others, and she was still a common man who was looked down on by herself, disgusting!
Including, the female colleague also told the questioner that the girlfriend of the male colleague doubted whether there was something between the boss and the male colleague, which indicated that the questioner might even be rumored to be a junior, the cosmic explosion crater.
I haven't seen a lot of cases, and I haven't summarized them, so it's hard to see through this routine.
As a result, I was ignorant and cheated, and I thought that my family was good, but I couldn't speak, and I was sold and paid back to the people.
Many "communication" problems in life are actually similar, they seem to be a matter of a few words, but in fact, your emotions are reminding you that "something is wrong".
It's just that, with many people's knowledge reserves, they can't see clearly, can't find the point, can't deal with it, only get stuck in emotions, and worry that they are too sensitive.
Look at more cases and analysis, "sit down", a lot of things in the fog will be clear at once, and you will know how to deal with it, so you will naturally be efficient without internal friction.
The above real-life cases are all from my Fat Dajanny Communication Training Camp.
You may only have the impression of me as an aesthetic blogger, but in fact, because being a blogger can get in close contact with a lot of people and things, I have accumulated at least four-figure real cases over the years.
Combined with my research on communication, I have come up with a large number of routine templates (such as "fish farming fish" mentioned in this issue) and coping methods (such as the "golden justification" mentioned in this issue).
As for the feedback from four-digit free + paid users, it is generally believed that God is accurate + super useful + immediate:
Accurate enough to even suggest that I change my career to fortune-telling (scroll down to view)
In fact, this is not metaphysics but science, when you see enough and study deeply enough, you can get some "underlying logic" that others can't get - how many things are going on and how to deal with them at a glance.
And my advantages, readers who have read the article should also know that they can explain what they know, break it and explain it clearly, and establish a system to let you understand it step by step, writing aesthetics, writing about people, and writing about communication.
That's why, my "Communication Skills Bootcamp" is not only in its 11th year (constantly accumulating new cases and iterating the curriculum framework), but also saying that it is "very useful, worthwhile, and has made great progress":
Whether the effect is good or not, it doesn't depend on my copywriting to write wildly, the following are all the real feedback from the students of the previous training camp, with "reborn level changes":
All aspects have been improved and reborn
The mindset gets better
Relationship icebreaking
Master the underlying logic
Looking at the previous cases, you should also find that my communication training camp is different from many of the communication courses you are exposed to:
One is very complete and deep, which is about equal to the emotional intelligence course + upward social class + emotional value course + workplace course + marriage and love course + human nature course + cognitive course on the market, which directly allows you to do it in one step.
In addition, there are a large number of real cases, with a strong emphasis on practicality and down-to-earth, and there are many easy-to-use exclusive tools.
In order to ensure that everyone can really understand and use it, Jenny will participate in group chats with great intensity, help analyze and support tricks, and help you correct misunderstandings, dredge up mental stuckness, and express problems, which is equivalent to asking you for a personal trainer:
▲ Intuitively feel the density of my speech
▲ My participation
Like the two cases in the article, they are a few of the N cases I analyzed for the students in the first issue, from the specific situation, what personality and character each person has, how to say it specifically, and what is wrong with the expression of the classmates, it is equivalent to continuous practice and correction.
All kinds of problems in your life, such as marriage and love, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, workplace, and study, can be comprehensively and in-depth analyzed and suggested in Q&A classes or community discussions:
How can you push it off painlessly if your boss sends too much work? How to get a promotion and a salary increase? How to shake the pot?
Do you want to persuade your best friend to meet a scumbag? How to persuade? When it comes to girlfriends in the end, do you still want to deal with them?
My husband complains and doesn't pay, how can I make him pay more? How can mother-in-law be witty to block it? How can you encourage your child to socialize when he has few friends?
There are all kinds of situations, and here is a precise analysis:
Did the boss dig a pit for you to take the blame? Does a colleague not speak, or is he deliberately trying to get you in trouble?
Friends who can talk, do you fall in love or plan to ask you to borrow money? Say you love your boyfriend, is there an excuse to break up?
Mother-in-law is good to you, is she a good person or is she planning you to let you pay off your debts? My husband has a bad tone, is he in a bad mood or is there a situation?
Even if social fears are not used to participating in discussions, it is beneficial to watch such practical case studies:
All kinds of praise
Participating in group chats is not mandatory (but highly recommended), it's okay if you don't have time to participate, the essence of group chats is sorted out every day, choose to read in fragments when you have time, and you won't miss any valuable content:
▲ Arrangement format
Of course, in addition to the community, the course itself is also very good:
Each scene, from scene analysis to human nature, in-depth analysis:
▲ so that you can prescribe the right medicine
Each response, from solving the mentality stuck point to the verbal skills arming, comprehensively covers:
▲ so that you can not only speak, but also say without internal friction
Holistic thinking, there are exclusive models for you to get through:
▲Accounting thinking, very easy to use
All the content, there is an audio + mind map board, you can listen to lectures when commuting, and you can also read the mind map to quickly grasp the key points if you have something to do, 1 hour a day, 24 days out of the bones.
▲Choose flexibly according to your own time
In order to ensure the effect, we also have pre-class and post-class test questions, pre-class level self-test, and after-class digestion of what we have learned:
▲Example
The exercises after class are also marked with a very high degree of precision, from mentality to wording, so that you can upgrade comprehensively:
▲There is almost no such granular correction on the market
And this mode of learning and practice, the previous students also gave real feedback, which is very helpful, to identify their weaknesses and improve accurately:
The students received positive feedback
On average, in fact, each lesson is equal to a permanently effective course + audio + mind map + homework correction + community support, as long as 699/24=29/day, one meal a day EQ Buddha jumps over the wall, all-weather military advisor support, but if you step on a pit less, at least save thousands of losses. In fact, students also generally reported that they made a lot of money:
There are a lot of good reviews in each issue
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