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Yesterday, one of Happy Dad's graduate students came here on a business trip and had a meal together in the evening.
At the dinner table, in addition to the memories of going to school before, they talked about their respective families and babies.
This classmate's children are almost as happy, they are all boys, and they don't have too strong self-motivation to learn, whether it is writing homework or studying, they need their parents to keep an eye on them all the time.
Especially the homework, it is even more procrastinating, don't look at the only third grade, every day to finish the homework at least around eleven o'clock in the evening. This classmate and his wife take turns every night, and in his words, if one person persists all night, he will either anger himself or "beat the child to death".
Although it is a bit exaggerated, it does say that the focus of many parents' anxiety now, homework.
Anxious parents, calm baby
I don't know how your child's homework is, but happy dad knows something, that is, the situation of the vast majority of children is not optimistic.
Although under the influence of the current concept of education, there have been many parents who have admitted their ordinariness and recognized their children's ordinary, but admitting is one thing.
Yes, achievement is a matter of opportunity, and homework is a matter of attitude.
For mom and dad, it is acceptable for their children to become ordinary people because of opportunities, but they cannot accept that they will lead to the Waterloo of their future lives because of their immediate slackness. Although the two are not necessarily related.
When I was happy to go to kindergarten, Happy Dad was still optimistic about it, elementary school, just a little homework, even if the level of happiness is poor, others write it in half an hour, we should be able to do it in an hour, right? Or add another half an hour?
The ideal is plump, but the reality is skinny.
Not to mention an hour and a half, you can't finish writing it if you double it.
Happy has not been on the young connection, nor has he practiced the words, resulting in his posture of holding the pen is not very formal, although we have been correcting, but the habit of using fingers to exert force is still difficult to change. The writing method of using the fingers to drive the elbow to move is difficult to accurately control the pen in the hand, and the writing is messy with high and low. Often a homework needs to be erased and changed several times, and time slips away inadvertently;
Happy doesn't have a good concentration, even when writing homework, it is "listening to six ways and seeing all directions", listening to what we are doing next to us, what grandparents are talking in the living room, what sounds downstairs, etc. What we are looking at, what we are looking at, what interesting things are on the table, etc., almost all the things around us are taken care of, but we can't focus on homework;
Happy doesn't have a smart learning brain. It stands to reason that today's children are very smart and quick to accept new things, but when faced with math problems, they behave completely differently than they usually do. A simple question of whether to multiply or to eliminate, I still looked at us with innocent eyes and a blank face after saying it a few times.
Chatting with other parents, their children's situation is similar, no matter what the reason, the final result is that the homework is procrastinated, and one can't watch it and doesn't know what to do, and the homework that can be completed in ten minutes is unsatisfactory in a few hours.
Although the performance of happiness has improved now, it is still slow compared to other children, writing slowly and responding slowly, which can be said to be backward step by step.
Let's be honest, it's not easy to finish your homework on time
Some parents may feel that this is purely the child's own problem.
Take those things in primary school, what's so difficult, plus now the whole country is double reduced, even if the teacher asks the child to consolidate the knowledge in the class, there will definitely not be much homework that needs to be written, in this case, the amount of homework is naturally small and pitiful, and the time to write is not finished, it must be the child's own problem.
Is that so?
Yes and no.
It is because the speed of writing homework is indeed related to the children themselves, such as the speed of writing, the concentration of homework, etc., are all factors that restrict the speed of their homework.
No, it's because the seemingly simple thing of writing homework is actually not simple for children at all.
For example, it requires children to have strong planning skills, although the amount of homework is not large, but how to distinguish the homework and use different times to complete the homework of different difficulties, this is a skill, but also a homework or learning ability. For the same children, a scientific plan can at least double their homework efficiency;
Children are required to have strong recall skills, and homework is essentially a repetition of what they have learned during the day, so children who can recall what they have learned during the day in time will be more likely to enter the state.
Children are required to have good habits of writing homework, and there are actually many habits here, such as packing up the learning utensils needed before writing homework, cleaning up the desktop, not having anything to attract their concentration, going to the toilet in advance, drinking good water, not doing anything else while writing homework, and it is best to recall what they have learned before writing homework, and it will be smoother to write and so on.
For children, homework is a systematic project, involving many inconspicuous aspects, and it is these so-called inconspicuous aspects that really affect the quality and speed of their homework.
There are really few children who can have the above abilities at the same time, so finishing their homework on time is really not as simple as everyone thinks.
I can't rush to do my homework
Having said all this, parents must have a certain understanding of their children's homework.
In terms of mentality, we should accept the understanding that "those children who can complete their homework on time are already Puwa's ceiling", abandon those unrealistic illusions, and appropriately adjust their expectations according to the actual situation of the child.
This is reconciliation with the child, but also with oneself.
In terms of behavior, children should be targeted to help them improve according to their shortcomings in homework.
For example, take your child to memorize homework together, and classify the homework according to different forms, set a time for each homework, and take a short break if you don't finish a homework;
For example, before writing homework, recall what you have learned during the day with your child, let your child recall the main knowledge by himself, and give them some guidance if necessary, so as to pave the way for the next homework;
For example, remind children to prepare the books and stationery they need for homework, help children clean up other things on the desk that are not related to homework, help children adjust the brightness of desk lamps, close doors and windows, and avoid the influence of external sounds;
For example, try not to interrupt your children frequently when they are doing their homework, whether it is drinking water and eating fruits, or pointing out their mistakes, you should do it between breaks, and try to let your children focus on the homework itself when they are writing homework.
It may not have a noticeable effect for a while, but if you stick with it, it will make a difference. And children are different from children, even if they complete the same homework, the process will not be the same, and the performance will be good and bad, which is normal.
At last
In fact, many things in a child's growth are the same as writing homework.
Mom and Dad think that it is easy to accomplish it, but for children, if there is no scientific method, it is really difficult to achieve or reach the level of excellent children of the same age.
Only when you really understand, adjust your expectations, and give your children enough help can you let your children really grow up. #头条创作挑战赛#