Text: Jing Ma
Recently, it is the season when durian is on the market in large quantities, although the price is a little cheaper, but durian is an imported fruit after all, and it is also the king of fruits, and the price is still much more expensive than ordinary fruits.
For example, Jing's mother is in Guangxi, and now many people say that durians in Guangxi are very cheap, in fact, those who say 100 yuan for 3 are very small, and under normal circumstances, one for about 100 yuan is medium in size. #头条创作挑战赛#
Best friend Dandan's son has just entered the fifth grade of primary school, and Dandan chatted in the group last night and said that he went to buy vegetables when he picked up his son from school last night, and saw durians in the market, and those durians looked good in appearance, and they could smell the fragrance of durian, which said 98 yuan a piece. When my son saw durian, he couldn't walk, and said to his mother, Mom, Mom, I want to eat durian!
Dandan said to his son: Mom only brought the money to buy vegetables out today, only 50 yuan, let's buy vegetables and go home first, and then come out to buy later, this uncle must still be here. And the durian seller said: If the stall is not closed so quickly, at least until eight or nine o'clock in the evening, there is still a big car.
After returning home, Dandan asked his son to do his homework, but his son said to Dandan: Mom, if you don't buy durian, I don't want to go to school tomorrow, you promise me to buy durian.
Dandan had a headache, and said in the girlfriend group: Now the company has cut salaries, everyone only gets a basic salary, she only has a basic salary of 3,000 yuan per month, and she has to pay for family expenses, her husband's salary has to pay off the mortgage, her own has to buy vegetables, and her children occasionally buy some stationery and the like, and her son also said that if he doesn't buy durian, he won't go to school, what can I do?
Indeed, some girlfriends said that Dandan's son is too ignorant, how can he say that he won't go to school if he doesn't buy durian? But I don't think there is a problem with the children, mainly because there is a problem with Dandan's way of dealing with it.
First of all, when the child wants to eat durian, the mother is telling the child that the money for buying vegetables is not enough now, so wait a while to buy it, the mother has promised the child that he will come back to buy it, and now he wants to fool the past and not buy it, and the child knows that the mother has to send himself to school every day, so it is most effective to threaten the mother with school.
As a smart child, of course, he knows what kind of methods to use to achieve his goals, he just wants to achieve his goals, and whether the method he uses is appropriate or not is not within the scope of his consideration.
Later, I suggested Dandan, you can buy a palm durian, the palm durian is relatively small, about 40 yuan or 50 yuan can be bought, after all, you promised the child to do what you promised.
Then you have to tell the child: Mom knows that you have a lot of vision and know that durian is delicious, but Mom can only buy you a smaller one to eat, because Mom has recently cut her salary in the company, and our expenses will be controlled......
Dandan told the child according to what I said, but the child said to the mother very considerately: Mom doesn't matter, let's go buy the youngest, I will only eat this time this year......
In fact, many mothers will encounter the problems encountered by Dandan, the economy is not good now, and it is difficult for many mothers to make money, but when they encounter snacks or fruits that children like to eat, many mothers feel that they are too expensive and reluctant to buy, and even some mothers will blame their children: You are so old and ignorant, how much money does your mother make a month, you are so greedy, embarrassed, hurry home......
This is actually destroying the child's self-esteem.
What should mothers do when they see expensive fruits, such as durians, cherries, etc., and want to eat them? In fact, it depends on the mother's own financial situation
The first type: if there is no problem with the economic situation, then buy it for the child
I have a friend who has two children in his family, and the money for buying fruit reaches 300 yuan every day, so their children are raised by wealth, and basically others can't fool him The girls who were raised by the rich will have higher requirements for themselves, and it is difficult to be deceived by scumbags.
Second: the economic conditions are average
You can buy less, it is very normal for children to want to eat when they see delicious food, as parents should understand this mood of children, so you can buy a little less and let children try it.
At the same time, I also told the child that our family's economy is a little tight now, and my mother will buy you less to try it, and next time when our family's economy eases up, my mother will buy more for you, at this time the child will get the understanding of his parents, and at the same time he will eat the fruit he misses, and he will naturally know how to be grateful.
The third type: the economy is relatively poor
If you don't have money for the time being, you can tell your child: Recently, our family's expenses have exceeded the plan, I'm really sorry, and when my mother makes money, I will buy it for you as soon as possible.
This is actually to affirm the child's needs, but it is also necessary to tell the child the reality of the situation, and believe that the child can also understand the mother.
Topic: Have you ever come across something that your child wants to eat that you think is expensive and don't want to buy, and what will you do about it?
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