Teacher Lin Qingxuan once wrote:
We are all "affectionate beings", and in this life, we can't get around a love word.
And love has never been exclusive to young people.
Even if one day, everyone opens, middle-aged time.
Single or not.
We all hope that there are people around us who are worthy of love, and that we have someone to care for.
Psychologist Maslow also believes that everyone has the need to be loved.
If this need cannot be met, then it is easy for everyone to fall into a situation of lack of love.
If a middle-aged woman feels "lack of love", what kind of performance will she have?
01
Emotional vulnerability
George Bernard Shaw once wrote:
"Middle-aged women are no longer young, but their need for love has never diminished."
We are all human beings with feelings.
Therefore, we all have the need for "love and belonging".
Middle-aged women who lack love will become more emotionally sensitive.
They will be touched by small things, have greater mood swings, and easily feel lonely and lonely.
Here's an example.
Ms. Li has been divorced for many years.
In her middle life, she encountered the dual pressures of work and family.
She felt that there was no one around her to rely on.
In the dead of night, Ms. Li felt a deep sense of loneliness, as if the whole world had abandoned her.
In fact, she longs for love and is already in a state of lack of love.
02
Social avoidance
There is such a case.
After Ms. Wang's divorce, she has been living alone.
Although she used to have many friends.
But as time went on, she found that it became more and more difficult for her to fit into her circle of friends.
Because everyone else, they are all in pairs.
And she has lived alone for many years, so she is worried that she will not be able to resonate with others.
Because she was afraid of being left out in the cold, she gradually reduced her social activities.
Maslow noted:
When women feel that they lack love, they will protect themselves by avoiding social interactions.
In fact, such a woman wants to be recognized and loved.
So, when you meet such a middle-aged woman, will you bring her a protection?
If you do, don't let her down.
03
Doubts about the self
Zhang Ailing once said:
"People who lack love are easy to deny themselves."
Even a middle-aged woman.
Everyone has enough precipitation in life, and there is enough rationality and wisdom.
However, if there is really a lack of love.
Then middle-aged women will also question themselves and even deny themselves.
For example, Ms. Zhang is a middle-aged person.
In her marriage, she experienced a long period of neglect and neglect.
This experience made her doubt her sense of worth and think that she was not attractive.
The more her husband snubs herself, the easier it is for Ms. Zhang to deny herself, and even blame herself for it.
Over time, it reached the point where it was impossible to extricate itself.
In fact, Ms. Zhang is lacking in love, and her husband's neglect made her have a negative view of herself.
Middle-aged women need to see their own value in affirmation.
If the marriage is unhappy, then everyone will deny their own dedication and value because of the lack of love.
People reach middle age.
Many things can be handled rationally.
It's just that when facing feelings, everyone still can't really be rational.
Especially middle-aged women, who fall into the predicament of lack of love, it is easy for everyone to overreact. For example, feelings become fragile, social avoidance, and even doubt themselves.
If there is such a woman around you, please give her more attention and protection.
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