If you were out of luck in your life, would you make a change?
Tang Xiaoyan was violated at the age of 17 and became an old bustard at the age of 34. Even though life was already so bad, she didn't give up.
When she was 49 years old, she counterattacked and became the wife of a famous director praised by everyone.
How did she do it?
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Tang Xiaoyan's original name was Tang Caifeng, born in a poor family in Heilongjiang, her father had a bad temper, drank too much alcohol and beat her and her mother.
When she was five years old, she often helped her mother with farm work, and at a young age, she endured what she should not have endured, and her immature hands were covered with calluses.
Tang Caifeng has been sensible and obedient since she was a child, she hopes to change her fate through studying, but when she was in the third grade of primary school, her family could not afford her tuition, so she could only drop out of school to help her mother work at home.
But she still did not give up the opportunity to change her fate, and when she was 14 years old, she went out to work to provide for her own schooling.
She works part-time every day to make ends meet, and in her spare time, she buys books to study with children of the same age.
She was admitted to a middle school by her own efforts, and she went to school during the day to study, and worked part-time on Saturdays and Sundays to earn her tuition and food expenses.
Her life seems to be uneventful, but the unexpected came.
When Tang Caifeng was 17 years old, on her way home from school at night, a man dragged her to the ground and violated Tang Caifeng, no matter how she called for help, no one could help her. This incident left a big shadow in Tang Caifeng's heart, so much so that it was difficult to calm down when working and studying.
Just as this matter was gradually diluted by time, she was violated again. When she was 23 years old, she was walking on the road when she was stopped by a man with a knife. The gangster put the knife to her neck and ordered her to undress, and she naturally knew what that meant. But in order to save her life, she did so.
After this experience, she completely gave up the idea of studying, and she wanted to leave this land, this place that left her scarred.
She came to work in other places, and she did all the lowest jobs, selling pirated CDs and doing odd jobs. Although life is very hard, she never gives up on herself.
In this way, the hard life persisted for a few years, and at the age of 28, she got married.
She met a man who worked with him in Beijing, and the two got married and gave birth to a son, but when the son was two or three years old, his husband went out. made Tang Caifeng and her husband's marriage come to an end.
She understands that men can never be relied on, and they still have to rely on themselves.
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For the sake of her life and that of her son, she opened a barbecue restaurant with tens of thousands of assets distributed by the divorce, although the business was not very good, it was enough to maintain the daily expenses of the mother and son.
One day, a friend of hers called her: "Why don't you go to Zhuhai to open a barbecue restaurant, business is good in big cities." ”
As soon as she said that she could make money, Tang Caifeng's heart was moved, but when she arrived at the place, where was this barbecue restaurant, it was obviously a massage shop.
But she has come and come, and in order to make money, she can only do it hard.
Here, Tang Caifeng learned to smoke and dress up. Occasionally, there were dishonest guests, and Tang Caifeng was not used to them, so he directly picked up the wine bottle on the table and smashed it on the man's head.
However, Tang Caifeng will not only not be punished, but will become a role model for the sisters in the massage parlor. Only if someone has a bad idea, they will do it directly, in this kind of obscure store, they dare not call the police, and they only pay some medical expenses.
Tang Caifeng said: "If you meet people in the store, you have to be more mixed than them." ”
She also opened her own massage parlor and hired some young girls to be the proprietress of the house.
But she has been in this industry for a long time, and she has seen too many people here, some of whom already have a wife, but secretly come here to steal, and when his wife calls, everyone in the massage parlor is silent, and they are full of lies on the phone. Tang Caifeng began to hate the days here, and she also hated her current self.
Just when she was feeling lost, she passed by a flyover and met a fortune teller. She couldn't help but be curious, but the fortune teller said that her name was not good, she was destined to be lonely, and if she changed it to "Little Goose", maybe there would be a glimmer of life.
Rather believe it than believe it, Tang Caifeng changed his name to "Tang Xiaoyan".
Who knows, Tang Caifeng, who changed her name, really ushered in a turning point in her life.
03
Not long after Tang Xiaoyan changed his name, he met a director named Xu Tong, who was filming a documentary about the people at the bottom of society.
And Xu Tong was also attracted by the aura on Tang Xiaoyan's body. So I asked him to follow her to photograph some of her daily life.
Tang Xiaoyan didn't care, so he agreed to Xu Tong.
Not long after the two knew each other, Tang Xiaoyan's massage shop changed again.
During an inspection, Tang Xiaoyan's massage parlor was found to be problematic, and the girl in the massage parlor was also taken away by the police and detained for 14 days.
Tang Xiaoyan couldn't bear to watch his employees being locked up for so long, so he asked his friends for help, so he could borrow some money and bail out the girls in the store.
But when this kind of thing happens, no one wants to take this mess on themselves. In desperation, Tang Xiaoyan had no choice but to dial Xu Tong's phone.
When Xu Tong heard that something was happening here, he immediately rushed to visit Tang Xiaoyan, and sold a car under his name and scraped together 70,000 yuan to Tang Xiaoyan.
Tang Xiaoyan came to the police station with the money, and only then did she get through this difficulty. Experiencing this incident made Tang Xiaoyan's heart feel a little warmer.
And Xu Tong's documentary also became popular with the help of Tang Xiaoyan. They filmed many works such as "Old Tang Tou" and "Parallel Goods" before and after.
Tang Xiaoyan has lived in poverty since she was a child, and her life experience is very relevant to the theme she wants to record, and it is easy for people to resonate. The prototype of "Old Tang Tou" is also Tang Xiaoyan's father.
Under the long-term cooperation between the two, their feelings for each other are also taking root.
When the two went out together, Xu Tong confessed to Tang Xiaoyan, saying that if there was no Tang Xiaoyan, he would not have become such an excellent director now.
After the two were together, Xu Tong never raised himself in front of Tang Xiaoyan, but regarded Tang Xiaoyan as a partner. Tang Xiaoyan has also changed in love, from the original person who was full of dirty words and was extremely rude to a gentle lady.
Tang Xiaoyan was in Xu Tong's social circle, and it was the first time she heard others praise herself, which made her have a new view of life, and it seems that changing her name really made her rewrite her destiny.
If he hadn't met Xu Tong, he might still be in the massage parlor as a bustard, and his life would still be a mess.
But now it's different, she sees the hope of life, which is brought to her by Xu Tong in front of her.
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People's fate is in their own hands, and it is Tang Xiaoyan's character of not admitting defeat that makes her completely change herself.
Even if your previous life wasn't as good as you could have been, so what? Do you have to bow to fate?
Tang Xiaoyan's choice is not like this, she is bold to be herself, even if her previous life made her bruised, she still chose to face it.
When we encounter difficulties, we should not give up and cross this mountain, and the opposite side of the mountain is a more beautiful scenery.
Sources of information:
Douyin Encyclopedia - Tang Xiaoyan
Southern People Weekly——2023-04-22 Tang Xiaoyan and Xu Tong's "Worldly" Universe