#头条创作挑战赛#
The long-term solution of marriage lies in living together in harmony.
Think of the love between husband and wife, like a garden that needs to be cultivated by both parties, and it is eager for the care and unremitting watering of both parties.
Behind this intimate connection, there are subtle but crucial boundaries.
No matter how deep the emotion is, there are some things that should never be overtaken by one party and take the place of the other.
Because, once this line is crossed, it is tantamount to laying a forked path for the marriage with your own hands, and perhaps, that will be the starting point to the end.
Housework, don't take care of everything
Yang has an impeccable helper who quietly dedicates herself to the family every day, taking care of the housework and ensuring that everything is in order.
However, as time passed, Yang felt that such days were becoming more and more dull and lacked novelty.
The wife seems to devote herself to the family affairs and rarely has time to discuss the excitement of the outside world.
Whenever Yang tries to share work trivia, friends or hobbies, he often responds with a short "oh" or "um", sometimes without even noticing that she is listening.
When he returned home one day, seeing that his wife was still busy with housework, Ah Yang felt strange in his heart.
From his point of view, his wife is like a precise machine in the house, housework is her only command, and the resonance of the heart seems to be impossible to find.
This marriage, therefore, seems dull and boring, and loses the spark of vitality.
In order to break this deadlock, Ah Yang mustered up the courage to reveal his heart to his wife.
He longs for his wife to moderately reduce the burden of housework, make room to explore other dimensions of life, and regain the joy of loss.
Ah Yang emphasized that the most precious thing between husband and wife is the deep connection between hearts and minds.
These words touched the heartstrings of his wife and prompted her to begin self-reflection.
She tried to make adjustments, learned to let go, and invited Ah Yang to share the family chores with her.
The two cook and clean together, and housework is no longer a burden, but a bridge to enhance feelings.
This change not only makes the daily work easier and more enjoyable, but also adds a strong touch to their relationship.
Housework is just a corner of married life, and true happiness lies in sharing every moment of life with your lover and creating those warm and beautiful memories.
In the journey of marriage, partners should stand shoulder to shoulder on the road of growth.
Housework should not be a burden for either party alone.
In the long run, if one party takes on all the household chores, the other may become dependent and unwilling to share the responsibilities, thus forming a habitual avoidance.
Even if the wife takes the initiative to take on the burden of household chores, the story tells us that there is a hidden crisis behind this. A marriage that lacks emotional communication is like a soil that lacks nutrients, which can easily lead to an imbalance in the balance of the relationship.
Housework should be the responsibility of husband and wife.
It is not only the distribution of daily chores, but also a kind of life mood, a bridge to enhance mutual understanding and cooperation.
When both parties are involved in family affairs, this synergy becomes an opportunity to deepen the emotional bond.
Let housework no longer be a one-sided performance, but a stage of life performed by both husband and wife. Here, there is no one-man show, only a pas de deux dancing in harmony.
Quarrel, don't always turn over old accounts
In the lives of Li Mei and her husband, trivial disputes seem to have become the norm.
Whenever a dispute arises, Li Mei always recalls the past with difficulty in recalling.
One night, in the kitchen, Li Mei was busy cooking dinner, while her husband was immersed in the TV show in the living room.
While preparing the ingredients, Li Mei suddenly found that the soy sauce was running out, so she asked her husband to leave the TV for a while and go to a nearby store to buy soy sauce.
However, her husband's attention was all attracted by the screen, and although he promised perfunctorily, his body did not move.
Time passed quietly, and Li Mei noticed that her husband was still in place, and a nameless fire suddenly ignited in her heart.
"Are you listening to me?" She asked, her voice mixed with dissatisfaction, "I'm asking you to buy soy sauce!" ”
At this time, the husband suddenly realized the negligence just now, and there was a trace of irritation in his tone, explaining that he had not clearly heard Li Mei's request.
This explanation, like adding fuel to the fire, instantly ignited Li Mei's anger.
She accused her husband of being addicted to television and turning a blind eye to family affairs.
The same was true last time, when she asked for help with housework, but her husband pretended not to hear it.
In the face of blame, the husband was not to be outdone, angrily threw down the remote control, and retorted sharply:
"You chew on the grievances of the past, when is it a head?
It's just an occasional oversight, so why make such a fuss? ”
When Li Mei heard this, she was even more angry:
"Even?
Excuse me, when did you ask for help that you didn't have such an attitude?
You have always been so, indifferent to family trivialities. ”
She went on to trace every dissatisfaction and disappointment since they met.
The husband's anger intensified.
The volume of the two sides is rising, the emotions are agitated, and they do not give in to each other.
Over time, the emotional rift is difficult to heal, and the marriage gradually drifts apart and eventually collapses.
The Way of Saying:
"Dwelling on the past will only make people miss the scenery in front of them."
Those who frequently dig through old accounts are like prisoners in a labyrinth, lost in the past, unable to find the door to reality.
This phenomenon is particularly prevalent among couples.
Those who settle old accounts often worsen the situation and do not help solve any problems.
The haze memories of the past, like rancid eggs, are constantly thrown at each other through the hands of turning over old accounts.
They emit an intolerable stench while silently eroding the emotional bedrock of couples.
In the dispute, turning over old accounts is nothing more than adding to the meaningless quarrel, and it is the best policy to use communication as a bridge and seek a solution.
Spend money, don't be arbitrary
In the marriage story of Li Ming and Zhang Ting, Zhang Ting, as the financial manager of the family, won Li Ming's appreciation at first.
Her shrewd financial skills keep her family's finances in order, and Li Ming enjoys carefree financial freedom.
Over time, however, Ms. Zhang's financial management became overly controlling, requiring strict approval for everything from household expenses to Ms. Li's personal expenses.
Li Ming felt constrained, and was often rejected even for simple social activities or personal hobbies.
Zhang Ting's single-mindedness in economic decision-making is particularly prominent, she does not hesitate to pay for her mother's family, but ignores Li Ming's basic needs.
Faced with this imbalance, Li Ming tried to communicate, expressing his desire for financial autonomy and hoping to have the free disposal of funds within his share.
Unfortunately, Zhang Ting reacted coldly to this, insisting that women take it for granted that they were in charge of money, ignoring the feelings and dignity of their partners.
Frustrated, Li Ming chose to divorce, and then started a legal battle for the division of property.
This case is a profound reflection of the importance of equality and respect in marriage.
While women play a key role in managing family finances, cooperation and consensus are the keys to maintaining a harmonious relationship.
A healthy partnership requires both partners to be on the same page on financial transparency and to work together to create a budget that ensures that both parties' needs are met.
Therefore, the harmonious picture of marriage needs to be drawn together with equality as the base and respect as the color.
This means understanding each other's expectations, respecting each other's rights, and ensuring a sense of participation and fairness in the decision-making process, so that a truly balanced and respectful partner life can be achieved.
The secret to maintaining a relationship as a couple is to respect each other's separate spaces while setting healthy boundaries to coexist.
Housework should not become a personal burden, but a shared responsibility between two people, and only by working together can we weave a warm and harmonious family life.
In disputes, the most intelligent way to deal with them is not to look back on the past, which is the deepest respect for each other's emotions and the embodiment of wisdom.
Important decisions between couples should be made together, and financial transparency is the cornerstone of trust, ensuring that money management is a factor that enhances, rather than detracts, from relationships.
May our marriage be like an evergreen tree, flourishing, and through unremitting joint efforts, let the flowers of happiness bloom brilliantly.