Watching the poor people in the United States with babies, as a Chinese mentality has repeatedly collapsed.
One
After 4 days in US imperialism, I got off the bus and immediately found my confinement sister-in-law, milk powder and host family, the white red-necked family baby who I met on a project.
Travel through downtown Atlanta, 2.5h through the mountains to their home, and the town where they are located.
It's a small town, but it's everything, because the United States is a highway country connected by countless such satellite cities.
Within 30min drive, clothing, food, housing, transportation, eating, drinking, entertainment, medical education, and 1:1 SOP replication like a big pie are available.
There is a small town where there is a highway exit, and the couple is younger than me, in '95 and '92, and they have two children.
My 7-year-old daughter and 3-year-old son bought an independent Big House by themselves in the countryside of a 10-minute drive from a small town.
Two
There is no community, no doorman, no field, just 4 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, 1 kitchen, 1 guest in the mountains, plus a rugged swimming pool.
From not changing the water, to the summer directly put the potion, and it became very clear, the male is called J, the female is called M, M said that the water change is too expensive and luxurious, make do with it.
Looking around their living room, a dirty sofa area that wasn't so spacious, then the TV, then the two kids had their own separate bedrooms, and then the couple's bedroom didn't want to show me.
J says it's too dirty and messy to show to guests.
M said that every day he was busy with the baby to make money, and he didn't have time to clean his room, and the children were relatively clean, and they were responsible for cleaning their own room.
I went in and took a look, and by Chinese standards, that's it, but 7-year-olds and 3-year-olds can do that, it's very good.
The elder sister is in the attic with a separate bathroom, and the younger brother is next door to the couple, with his own bookshelf and two-tiered bed, and the window is looking out on the mountains.
M is a cryptocurrency online micro-business, J drives a mining machine, receives orders and collects money to fulfill contracts, and is considered a self-employed person, and M is sometimes responsible for pulling live.
Three
The Americans in the South are really like our Northeast Tiezi, and I really like this kind of simplicity, which is too similar to the Northeast people.
Directly speaking, we are a pair of poor Americans, and we are lucky that M still has a side job when I have a baby, and the hourly salary of driving an excavator is 200 dollars, and 10h a week is a good business.
But it's not a drought or flood to ensure income, so they have to rely on themselves, so they can't afford insurance, and they don't often go to restaurants.
They all do all the family repairs themselves, as well as the education of their children, and these two young people are fully hostile and critical to the Democratic government.
My own children teach by themselves, and Homeschool has a solution in the United States, so I buy it and promote it myself.
Most of the time it's playing, and the children are very happy, that is, they play stupidly outdoors, although they are poor but happy.
Four
The point where I really broke down was when I saw them outdoors, M and J had most of the house area for the outdoors, and the house was not big.
But outdoors in addition to having a fenced yard and pool for eating barbecue and sunbathing, and having 4 dogs.
There's plenty of outdoor space at the door, and they bought trampolines, built swings, and then built a boys' toy plaza with more than 100 small toys of all kinds.
J probably had toys from his childhood, and more importantly, because their dad drove an excavator, they had learned simple excavator operations.
Just show me it up, boys and girls.
Swinging with them, playing on the trampoline, I really want to cry.
The first-class effect of the United States is not only the dollar, but the land of the United States, which is too livable in all aspects.
God's Promised Land, this is the American story that white immigrants have passed down from generation to generation.
In the case of an average American family with a pre-tax income of less than $50,000 a year, the view is very clear.
They are so poor, so miserable, but the bottom line is very high, because they can still eat corn and grow it themselves.
I barely have much savings, because the house, the excavator, and the car are all loans.
Five
The most important inspiration, and even more shocking than the last time I visited a Chinese family in Australia, was that.
As parents, they don't care so much about how their children are growing up at the moment, it's just random.
In the eyes of us Chinese, it is simply impossible.
They don't have time to take care of it so delicately, so they set the rules and don't care much.
The first rule is that you are not allowed to look at electronic screens, not even mobile phones and iPads.
The second rule is that you can't run out of the door, play casually within the line of sight at the door, don't accompany you, and let nature accompany you.
The third rule, do your own thing, get dressed,, eat, clean the room, you have to do it yourself, your parents are very poor and therefore very busy, so you'd better take care of yourself.
I think these three rules are very good.
M said that her biggest offer to her son and daughter was to be able to eat and be full before the age of 18, and after the age of 18, she could drive an excavator and become self-employed.
Oh my God, I really like this kind of "relaxation".
Six
When I wrote this word, my mouth was sour, my heart was sour, as a post-90s Chinese mainland father who passed five levels and cut six generals, and fought the college entrance examination parents' bridge.
In order to make the child relaxed, I should do my best, and in the end, the end result is almost predictable, that is.
The process of doing your best to relax is a whole scene that does not relax.
Relaxation is said to be rotten by elite KOLs in Chinese mainland, but real parenting is actually getting along, eating and living together, and learning and exchanging witnesses with each other.
Children witness the mistakes and growth of their parents, and parents witness the rebellion, ordinariness and growth of their children.
Then say goodbye.
How much money do you have, you are qualified to talk about class jumping, and you have done it yourself, that is, to make your child qualified to fall into class.
Share your world, your food, your stories, your values, your environment, your thinking.
Then let the child walk with you and live in every moment, not in the distant and relaxed future.
Others, blind jb too.
I said to myself, my future self, the first vigilance.
For the sake of relaxation, not relaxation, to become an inconsistent beam-jumping clown.
If that's the case, it's a pity.