Tangerine: In the recent school season, everyone must be running around for their children's "school choice", right?
When it comes to "school choice", we all want our children to get into a "prestigious school" that everyone envies—such a school may have a great reputation, or it may have an enviable admission rate...
But it is not easy to enter such a school, and it is inevitable to break through many "difficulties".
Today, let's change our tastes and look at the matter of "school choice" from another perspective. Trust me, you'll find that you'll find that school choice is a lot less anxious.
The protagonist of today's story @蓝叶春葳蕤 has two babies at home, and on the road to school selection, flower friends have always avoided "famous schools" a little - from childhood to adulthood, they have never let the baby participate in any school choice exams, nor have they chosen any head schools.
When choosing a school for primary school and junior high school, flower friends only look at two points:
1. Is the school close to home?
2. Is the school spirit and study style very positive?
According to this school choice idea, her brother studied more smoothly all the way to school. Even if the primary school and junior high school did not study for a day in the "famous school", the child was still successfully promoted to the third key high school in the province after the high school entrance examination.
Let's take a look at how children who have not entered prestigious schools have become successful step by step~
Thanks to @蓝叶春葳蕤 for sharing.
Take your brother and sister on a trip
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Yusheng entered the school at the doorstep
In our concept of education, I have always felt that family education must be dominant when children are young, especially in the educational stage from preschool to primary school.
Therefore, the elementary school is safe to enroll in the nearest school, and the public school near the home is enrolled.
Because school education is oriented to a large group of people, it is inevitable that there will be some unsatisfactory points.
Even if you try your best to choose a school, you can't choose a teacher. Even if you choose a school + class, in the end, you can't guarantee that every teacher's concepts and ideas are consistent with yours.
I understand teachers very well because I used to be a teacher as well. Standing in a class, the teacher will be facing dozens of students, and some teachers may teach several classes in their hands, and the ratio may be further expanded to 1:100.
Primary school classroom, source network
Therefore, it is destined that it is difficult for the teachers in the school to teach according to their aptitude, and what she can take care of is always the "big army" - that is, about 80% of the students, especially the children who have one end and the other, it is difficult to take care of them.
Therefore, the children who belong to this end really have to work hard at home.
When we entered primary school, we were actually faced with a "class choice" choice, where our children could go to the best class in the grade, but we chose to give up.
Because I have always felt that "character education" in preschool is prioritized over "academic education", there is almost no bridging between kindergarten and primary school.
Children exercising happily outdoors, photo source: Wellington College Tianjin
At that time, the other children were always ahead of us in their academic progress, and the best class also meant that there were all "meritorious" children in it, and this kind of rhythm and pressure was really not suitable for us.
Later facts also proved that our abandonment was right, because my brother, who was enrolled in the school with zero foundation, had a hard time following at the beginning of the ordinary class.
But fortunately, we are fortunate to meet a good teacher who is patient, who does not deny the child, but has been guiding the child step by step in a fair and patient manner at school.
At home, we focus our children's education on sports, reading, and character education.
Reading is a must every day, when my brother was in elementary school, he went to the school library every day to read books, and every day when he came home, he would tell me what books he had read that day.
When I was a child, my brother and sister studied together
Sports are also part of our program and are executed every day – elementary school plays baseball one day every Saturday; table tennis twice a week; Swim every day every summer vacation... When you don't have enough time, you cut out some of your studies.
My brother is swimming
With the blessing of both school and home education, children have never been "afraid" to learn. At that time, even if he had a cold and was not feeling well, he would insist on going to school - I think that was enough.
In the matter of learning, my brother's "head" is at least quite good.
Later, we went to other cities for work, and my brother followed us to a new city to study, and entered a local private primary school.
This private primary school is not a "famous school", but it is very attentive to the children, and the school spirit and study style are very positive.
This time I transferred to another school, and the child "broke out" in an all-round way. Maybe it's the teacher's guidance, maybe there is the encouragement of the surrounding classmates, the previously tepid baby began to slowly show his stamina, chasing 100 points in all subjects, the child was originally "not afraid of learning", and then slowly became "willing to learn" and "love to learn".
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Small promotion at the beginning of the straight up
不在"名校"里待着也挺好
When we were in junior high school, we planned for our children to go to a better school outside. My teammates and I have already learned some information about junior high school in advance, and we are ready to sprint for the junior high school in May.
As a result, around March, my child's homeroom teacher contacted me and said that my child was in the top three of the grade, and the school hoped that we could go directly to the junior high school of the main school. In order to retain the children, the school also promised to free tuition and miscellaneous fees for three years, and let us study in experimental classes.
I was very hesitant at the time because the junior high school in the main department was not famous, and I had to ask my children to live on campus. The junior high school child is in adolescence again, and I am worried that I will not be by his side and will not be able to communicate every day, and the child will have problems.
I'm also worried about my child's sleep after living in school - will the baby not be able to adapt to living in the dormitory? Will you not sleep well when you meet a student who is snoring?
Later, I took out the matter of whether to go straight to the school to discuss with the child, and at the same time told him my concerns and the preparations we were working on, but I didn't expect the child to be happy to go straight to the school himself - he felt that the conditions given by the school were an affirmation of him and an "honor".
My brother who is also studying hard at home.
I analyzed the pros and cons with my child and told him: You are in the top few in this school now, but if you put this ranking in the whole city, it may not be necessarily. Would you like to go to a better school in the third year of junior high school?
At that time, the child was very determined that he wanted to go straight up, because he was already familiar with this environment, and if he had been studying in the experimental class, he would be very confident in the future.
In the end, we were willing to respect the children's ideas, and finally gave up our school choice and went straight to the junior high school of the main school.
After all, after all, the child has been working hard, and this is what he is willing to do.
Our minimum expectation for "school choice" is that we don't want our children to go to the right school in junior high school.
Although the junior high school in the main department is not a head school, it is a school that pays attention to education, and the style of study and school spirit are in the same vein as that of elementary school.
My brother has been in junior high school for 3 years, and because we live on campus, we have a lot less time to see each other than before. But when I pick him up every week, the first thing I say when we meet him is: What do you want to eat?
Our family's trip on holidays is also rain or shine, as long as he is there, the warmth and care of home is always with us.
Take your brother and sister on a trip
I never called or texted my teacher about my brother's condition at school. Because the teachers are really busy, especially the class teacher. I have to teach, manage the class, and be busy with my own titles, etc., and, after all, the teacher also has a family...
However, every time I pick up my child, I will communicate with the class teacher separately about the child's study and life during this time. I will also go to the teachers of weak subjects to communicate with the children's learning situation, and ask how I can help the children and cooperate with the teachers as a parent.
When sending the child, I will also communicate with the class teacher about the child's improvement focus this week, and ask the teacher to help supervise it.
If the child has any problems at school, the teacher will take the initiative to call and communicate with the parents.
Every time the teacher called me to go to school to solve the problem, I was receptive, tolerant, and communicated with my brother with a pleasant face, and our previous feelings were not diluted.
Fortunately, the child has been studying relatively smoothly in such an environment, and because of the dormitory life, he has successfully made several good brothers, gained precious friendships, and continued this friendship to his high school studies...
A little note of encouragement written by a classmate to his brother
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"Study style and school spirit" are more important than "famous schools".
The days passed calmly, and after the high school entrance examination, my brother graduated from school with very good grades and successfully entered a key high school.
Looking back on this journey, we have always been glad that primary and junior high schools did not step into the "famous schools" early, which wiped out the children's enthusiasm and stamina for learning.
I don't want my children to be hit hard at prestigious schools, because when children are young, we have seen too many of these children fleeing from "prestigious schools".
When my brother was in elementary school, our primary school would accept some transfer students who abandoned the "famous school" every year, and these children, without exception, all chose to transfer after being hit by the so-called "famous school".
At that time, the child was only in elementary school, and more than ten years of education career, and even life had just begun.
Our family's educational philosophy has always believed that a healthy child - physical health, mental health, is more important than anything else.
I made a supper for my brother and attached a small note to cheer me on
I was afraid that my children would suffer the same blow, so from the very beginning, the "prestigious school" has not been in the top position of our family's school choice, and we also think that there is no need to pursue the "prestigious school".
What's more, our children are not considered academic masters, and my brother is even a little dyslexic; What's more, since we were children, we have been suffering from the loss of "zero-based enrollment"...
If you want to rank the factors of choosing a school, I think "suitable" is higher than "prestigious school".
Just like a pair of shoes, no matter how beautiful the shoes are, even if they are made of gold and studded with diamonds, they will not fit your feet. Or even if you barely put it in, it is uncomfortable to walk with blood blisters on your feet.
For example, when we were in elementary school, if we went to a "prestigious school" at the beginning, the pressure of homework and academics would be doubled, and the time spent in school would be doubled.
But children have a fixed time every day, so how can we continue to read and exercise that we insist on?
In our family's education concept, we never want our child to spend 100% of his energy on learning, and we don't want him to fill his life with dead study.
My brother is pinching pottery
Learning is only a part of life, although children are now studying, and the main task of life is to learn, but it is not the whole of this stage.
In addition to studying, we also have to live - to pursue friendship, family affection, but also to experience, enjoy, and have fun in life...
Even if the child grows up in the future, learning is only a part of life, and he will still face how to get along with people, how to manage his life and family... These are things that are outside of school learning, and these are the things that make up our whole life.
In addition to learning, there are vast worlds for children to discover and explore.
And our kind of education thinking is no longer suitable for most of the "famous school" education route.
Then there is management, I think the school spirit and study style of the school are far more important than whether it is a "famous school" or not.
The schools we study in elementary and junior high schools are all schools with a positive school spirit and a positive learning style. This kind of school is relatively speaking, the teacher's attentive attitude and the school attaches more importance to the children's learning.
A good learning style at least means that the classmates around the child have a positive learning state, and once the learning atmosphere is formed, the children must have unlimited potential.
I have always recognized that our education is forward-looking education, and it is very consuming for children to be too immersed in repeated "rolls" in a certain school period.
Towards the end of junior high school, the children piled up books and formed a mountain
Therefore, although he was not a famous school all the way to elementary school and junior high school, all the teachers who had contact with his brother praised him and said that he had a lot of "stamina".
After graduating from the high school entrance examination, my brother was also successfully admitted to the third-ranked key high school. In addition, several good brothers in the same dormitory of my brother's junior high school were successfully admitted to this school and became classmates of the same level.
As long as primary school and junior high school go steadily, in fact, there is really no need to worry about whether the school your child is studying is the "head", or whether you want to fight for the "head school"...
As long as you work hard in the soil suitable for your child and wait for the flowers to bloom, your child's growth and success will be a matter of course.
哥哥和妹妹一起在玩儿雪