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In the vast ocean of the entertainment industry, music producers are like sailors who are deep diving, they use their unique ears to capture the sounds of the world, and then weave these sounds into moving music with their skillful hands.
However, behind the scenes, it is often accompanied by emotional turbulent waves, sometimes willing, sometimes bruised. I'll take you to explore the love world of Huang Xiaomao, a master of campus folk songs, and see how he struggles to navigate the thorny land of love.
A marriage to Shi Ke, how deeply entangled the love hurts
In the 1990s, with the rise of campus folk songs, "walking" music became a dream pursued by countless young people. At that time, Huang Xiaomao, who was in his heyday, single-handedly manipulated the lifeline of popular idol singers, and his ability to create lyrics was so good that he was once known as the "living ancestor of the word world".
This talented young man naturally has no shortage of female companions. Just when his career was in full swing, Huang Xiaomao met Shi Ke, one of the "five golden flowers" of Chinese opera. The beauty in front of her is not only beautiful and talented, but what is even more commendable is that the two are like-minded and have an intoxicating obsession with music.
As a result, a rare marriage began.
At the beginning, the newlywed life was full of spring breeze, birds and flowers. Two like-minded souls have found each other and walked hand in hand on the path of art and life. However, under the precipitation of the years, the contradictions gradually surfaced.
As a music producer, Huang Xiaomao has been running between work and activities for many years, often leaving early and returning late, constantly busy, and spending a lot of time and energy on his music career. As a first-line star, Shi Ke has a more intensive itinerary, and he may go to a different place to film or sing at any time. In this way, the life trajectory of a loving couple is getting farther and farther, and even if they try their best to recover, it is difficult to achieve a long-term relationship.
A marriage relationship is like a flower that needs to be watered, and a steady stream of love and attention is fundamental. But when both parties focus on their careers, love will inevitably wither and wither. Gradually, the emotional gap became deeper and deeper, and finally at a certain inadvertent moment, the two chose to part ways.
Many years later, when asked about the real reason for the divorce, Huang Xiaomao said frankly: "We were young at the time, and our understanding of feelings was too thin, and we all thought that once our career was successful, everything would be fine in love." Who would like to reverse the priorities and first leave the most important family behind. "
Shi Ke is more straightforward: "The professional relationship has made us physically and mentally exhausted, and we finally have no desire to talk when we get home, so we live silently, and slowly fall into a dead circle and confrontation."
If we had understood that marriage was a temporary matter and an eternal plan, perhaps fate would have been rewritten, and the bright notes would not have deduced such a melancholy parting song.
married Li Jing for the second time, and the king returned to fight for love again
For Huang Xiaomao, his marriage to Shi Ke was like an abyss, almost swallowing him completely. The rift in his marriage cut through the most vulnerable part of his heart, making this once the proud son of heaven who once dominated the music scene emotionally unstoppable, and almost gave up to regain love.
The years are easy to get old, but the heart is not cold. Huang Xiaomao, who has been tossing and turning for most of his life, tossed and turned several times on the two stages of career and relationship, but finally failed to abandon the last bit of desire for warmth in his heart.
Just when he thought he would be alone for the rest of his life, fate gave him another chance. The name of this opportunity is Li Jing.
is also a member of the music industry, Li Jing was a household name and a smash hit at the time as a well-known host. When the two met at a party, they were instantly attracted by each other's unique temperament. A pair of heroes and heroes pressed the replay button under the lead of fate.
is different from the sudden and fanatical love with Shi Ke, Huang Xiaomao's feelings for Li Jing are more precipitated and restrained. The bitter lessons of his last marriage gave him great inspiration, and he began to reflect on the core of marriage: trust, tolerance, and mutual support.
With these prerequisites, the foundation of love absorbs nutrients, grows zigzag in the bright sun, and finally blooms into beautiful flowers.
At the beginning of their marriage, both husband and wife worked hard in their respective careers, and gradually understood each other's life rhythm. Different from the estrangement and suspicion in the previous marriage, this time they used infinite understanding and respect to leave room for each other to develop.
In this way, love and career go hand in hand in their hearts, always taking care of each other and echoing each other, and occasional disputes can always be quickly bridged. Until the advent of their daughter Huang Muer, the couple's life has added a touch of color, and their relationship has been further sublimated.
Looking back on the past, Li Jing often feels a lot of emotion: "When you meet someone who understands you, supports you, and cares about you, you will also grow step by step." Although the road of marriage is bumpy, as long as we support each other, we will definitely be able to go to the end. "
From another point of view, it is Li Jing's unique personality and life experience that make this marriage forever fresh. As a girl born in an ordinary working family, Li Jing has known how to cherish everything that is hard-won since she was a child, and the same is true for her feelings.
She understands that marriage does not tolerate any anticlimactic obstacles. In the face of Huang Xiaomao's incomprehensible little habits, she never cares, but chooses tolerance and understanding. At the same time, she will also express her views directly on some issues, and the two will cooperate tacitly in the right position.
Love is not a journey of achieving positive results, but a test of continuous mutual learning. Huang Xiaomao and Li Jing have not only become more and more compatible through years of getting along, but also have become more and more harmonious, and they have truly become close to each other.
In the bits and pieces of life, the love of husband and wife for each other is undoubtedly revealed. Even if it is a trivial matter, Huang Xiaomao will be diligent and take care of his wife and daughter; And Li Jing also did her best to keep this home clean and orderly, and build a warm harbor for the men and daughters of this family.
Looking at the current society, such intimate marriages are rare and worthy of respect.
1. A good marriage is a double reed, which needs to be played by two people
It is often said that "a good horse deserves a good saddle", and it is very apt here. In the first marriage between Huang Xiaomao and Shi Ke, the two parties fell in love but went their separate ways, and finally became a misplaced relationship; And this paragraph with Li Jing is more like the right person meeting the right time and place, and the two have created a happy chapter with sincere dedication and mutual cherishment.
It can be seen that the quality of marriage does not depend on one of them alone, but is the result of the mutual efforts of both parties. Only in this way can the piano be united, and the ship of marriage can sail away.
2. Marriage needs to be constantly operated and learned, and love also needs to be tempered
The road of marriage is never a smooth one, but a path full of thorns. Huang Xiaomao is the best proof of this. The breakup with Shi Ke made him realize how fragile simple love is for marriage; And getting along with Li Jing made him deeply realize that it takes sustained efforts to manage a marriage.
As the saying goes, "sharpening the knife does not mistake the woodcutter". In order to have a happy marriage, both parties need to continue to learn and grow through the trials and setbacks of life. After experiencing the lessons of his last marriage, Huang Xiaomao was able to grasp the balance in stability.
Of course, it is not an easy road, and the road to marriage also requires mutual understanding and tolerance. We've all had times when the other person acted elusively and couldn't bear to walk away. However, with patience and enough love to think about the other person's original intentions, you may be able to find the crux of the problem.
Resolve misunderstandings with love and persevere, and the ship of marriage can naturally sail to the other side of happiness.
3. Where do emotions belong? Life and career need to be balanced
The question of "which is more important, love or career" has always been a question that has stumped countless people. In this regard, Huang Xiaomao's two marriages give a powerful reference.
For us born in the 80s and 90s, career often occupies an extremely important position. But just like the examples of Huang Xiaomao and Shi Ke, if you focus all your attention on your career, you are tantamount to leaving your married life behind, and the end result is often a breakdown of the relationship.
Therefore, in modern society, we should not simply put career or life in the absolute first place, but should pursue a dynamic balance. When the husband is away from work, the wife is at home to take care of the family; When the wife goes out, the husband also needs to arrange his life reasonably, and the two of them can tolerate each other and learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses in order to reach the highest level.
Needless to say, Huang Xiaomao's second marriage is a prime example. The two sides shine on their respective stages, and at the same time use enough time and energy to care for each other's feelings. In this way, their lives and marriages are unified at the highest level.
Marriage is an art and a practice. A happy marriage requires both parties to take care of it together, and they need to be considerate and tolerant of each other in the face of problems, and they can always find a way out when they stumble. Huang Xiaomao's two marriages have joys and sorrows, reflecting the truth of this life.
Someone once said, "Anyone who would marry a music producer is too risky." But I want to say that as long as you meet the right person, any kind of marriage is not a risk, it is a worthwhile life experience. The road of love is always full of unknowns, but as long as you master the method, you will definitely reach the other side of happiness.
So what do you think are the basic conditions for a happy marriage? Feel free to share your insights in the comments section.
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