My name is Li Yu, I am 28 years old and I am an accountant. After giving birth, I lived with my 65-year-old mother-in-law, Zhang Shuzhen, in a two-bedroom apartment in the community. My mother-in-law was very strict with me and asked me to do this and that, otherwise she would count me down. I think she's gone too far, and I'm a mom and have my own opinions.
Ever since I gave birth, I wanted to rebel against my mother-in-law's discipline, but I was afraid that I would hurt her heart too much. One day, my mother-in-law saw me eating takeout and started preaching.
"Yuyu, you can't always eat those takeaways, it's not good for your health. I've made you some home-cooked food, so you can eat it while it's hot. The mother-in-law stepped forward with a plate of vegetables.
I frowned, "Mother-in-law, I like to eat takeout, and there are many healthy takeout options now." "
"It's all unclean stuff, how can it be nutritious at home. You're hurting your body!" The mother-in-law's tone was harsh.
"Mother-in-law, don't worry about it, I'll take care of it myself. "I was a little unhappy and pushed aside my mother-in-law's cooking and reopened the delivery app.
Seeing this, the mother-in-law showed a look of disapproval on her face. She stepped forward to try to dissuade her, and her lips squirmed a few times, but in the end she didn't say anything.
I secretly thought to myself, although my mother-in-law has some traditional concepts, her original intention is good, and it is for my good. However, the modern society is developing so fast, and many things can no longer be measured by the standards of the past. Takeout isn't scary, as long as you choose the right one. I'm not a kid anymore and have my own judgment.
Just as I was struggling, my mother-in-law suddenly stumbled and sat down on the ground clutching her chest. I hurriedly held her up and called the 120 emergency number. Soon, an ambulance arrived and took the mother-in-law to the hospital.
I followed into the ambulance, and along the way, my mother-in-law's condition was good and bad, and I watched her painful appearance, and tears flowed straight down. When I arrived at the hospital, the doctor said that my mother-in-law had a heart attack and needed to be hospitalized immediately.
I paced down the hallways of the hospital, sitting down and standing up again, feeling guilty. I was thinking that if I hadn't talked back to my mother-in-law in the first place, she wouldn't have been so angry and would not have had a heart attack. It's all my fault, I'm too willful and stubborn. My mother-in-law is for my good, but I always don't appreciate it. If my mother-in-law has three long and two short, then what will I do in the future?!
My husband, Zhang Wei, also rushed to the hospital. Seeing my teary eyes, he hurriedly stepped forward and hugged me, comforting me not to blame myself too much.
"Yuyu, don't blame yourself too much, your mother's illness is not directly related to you. Zhang Wei said softly.
"There is a generation gap between your mother and daughter, but you are kind to each other. The most important thing now is to take good care of your mother. Zhang Wei wiped away my tears and said earnestly.
Zhang Wei's words made me gradually calm down. Yes, now my mother-in-law needs our care the most. "I'm going to do everything right so that my mom can get a complete recovery. From now on, I will never argue with my mother again, I will listen to her. I made up my mind to say.
As soon as the words fell, I quickly took out my mobile phone and opened the delivery app. I picked an authentic and time-honored Chinese restaurant, ordered a few of my mother-in-law's favorite home-cooked dishes, and asked to be sent to the hospital.
Soon, the takeaway was delivered to the hospital. I asked Zhang Wei to go back and take care of my mother-in-law's housework first, while I took the takeout and walked into my mother-in-law's hospital room with apprehension.
My mother-in-law was on a drip, and when she saw me coming in with takeout, she couldn't help but frown. She was about to say something, but when she saw my red and swollen eyes, she finally swallowed back the words that came to her mouth.
I carefully opened the takeaway, and it was my mother-in-law's favorite home-cooked dish. I shook off the aroma and said, "Mom, try it, it's your favorite dish." "
The mother-in-law looked at the food in front of her, her eyes were a little dazed. She slowly reached out and picked up a piece of food and put it in her mouth to taste it. His eyes gradually softened, and the corners of his mouth even raised a light smile.
I breathed a sigh of relief to see that my mother-in-law had finally returned to her former self. "Mom, I won't argue with you anymore, I'll be obedient to whatever you say. You need to rest well now, and when you are discharged from the hospital, we will live well. I held my mother-in-law's hand, my eyes moist.
The mother-in-law shook her head, "No, it's me who is too stubborn. You're a good boy and have your own opinions. As long as you do it right, I have your back. Her eyes were firm and powerful, "In the future, you should live your own way, Mom trusts your judgment." "
I didn't expect my mother-in-law to say that, and tears fell uncontrollably. It turns out that my mother-in-law is really good for me, but the way is a little traditional. Our mother and daughter just have too big a generation gap, and we always can't understand each other. But now, we've finally found a way to get along.
"Mom, thank you for your understanding. Rest assured, I will take good care of myself and will try my best to be filial to you. I wiped my tears with my handkerchief, a smile on my lips that I hadn't seen in a long time.
The mother-in-law smiled too, and it was that kind, loving smile. I know that from now on, the relationship between our mother and daughter will definitely become more harmonious. With mutual understanding and consideration, there will be no more estrangement.
My mother-in-law finally let go of her stereotypes and began to try to understand my thoughts. At the same time, I also realized that my mother-in-law's approach was not entirely wrong, her intentions were all good, but the way was a little traditional. I am determined to be more considerate of her in the future and treat her views with a more tolerant attitude.
Only by understanding and respecting each other can the mother-daughter relationship be closer and more harmonious. I believe that after this painful lesson, my mother-in-law and I will take this as a warning, cherish each other, and turn hostility into friendship.
After I came out of the hospital, I began to take care of my mother-in-law seriously. Although she always says things like "I'm old, don't worry too much about it", I know that in her heart she actually wants us to care more about her.
So, I prepare her favorite home-cooked food every day and sometimes order takeout, but it's all authentic and healthy restaurants. When I see my mother-in-law eating sweetly, I feel happy for her.
Once, my mother-in-law suddenly said to me, "Yuyu, you are a good boy. Mom used to be too complacent, I'm sorry. "
I hurriedly held her hand, "Mom, it's all over, don't blame yourself." Isn't it good how we get along now?"
The mother-in-law nodded, her eyes gloomy: "However, if I hadn't been so stubborn at the beginning, you wouldn't have worked so hard." "
My mother-in-law's eyes suddenly turned red, and she nodded vigorously and hugged me tightly in her arms. We embraced each other like this, and our hearts were very close to each other.
Since then, I have been with my mother-in-law even more attentively. Occasionally we still have a little disagreement, but we all learn to be considerate and understand each other. In this way, we spent peaceful days one after another.
Later, I became a mother myself. Whenever I watch my mother-in-law with my children, I am grateful for the ordeal that once came. It is because of this that I learned how to truly understand an elder. And my mother-in-law also unloaded her guard and learned to be open-minded because of those days.
The mother-daughter relationship is like this, we need to use tolerance to resolve differences, and understand to embrace differences. Only by cherishing each other with love can the bond of family affection never break. I hope that my story with my mother-in-law will make more people aware of this.
When I think back to the ordeal between me and my mother-in-law, I feel deeply. If we had been considerate and understanding of each other, we would not have ended up with the opposite direction of mother and daughter. Thankfully, we both realized the seriousness of the problem and regained our bonds.
This experience made me realize that many times the disagreement between family members is just a ridiculous misunderstanding. We are both too complacent, we both think that our ideas are correct, but we don't have the heart to understand each other's starting points. In fact, everyone's point of view has its own reasonableness, but there are differences due to factors such as generation gap and environment.
If we can listen to each other with a more tolerant attitude and accept different voices with a broader mind, we will not end up with the opposite goal of mother and daughter. On the other hand, if we all cling to what we have seen and go our own way, then the family relationship will gradually drift apart and eventually break up.
I'm glad that eventually my mother-in-law and I realized this. We learned to be considerate of each other, my mother-in-law let go of my stereotyped thinking, and I also learned to respect the views of my elders. In this way, we embraced each other again and turned hostility into friendship.
If only we had come this earlier. But even so, I'm grateful for the experience. It was it that really taught me how to understand an elder and how to get along with my family. This is not only an important topic for people to live in the world, but also a valuable asset for me.
The mother-daughter relationship is not stiff, and my life has returned to its former track. Unlike the days when I was restrained by my mother-in-law, now I can live my life on my own terms.
I started to take care of the housework and plan a reasonable schedule. Occasionally, I order some takeaways, but they are all authentic and healthy restaurants. Sometimes my mother-in-law joins in and eats with me. Seeing her eat sweetly, I was happy for her.
In addition to eating, I will also take my mother-in-law to do some activities that she enjoys. For example, taking a walk in the community, playing chess at home, playing cards, and so on. Every time I saw my mother-in-law laughing, I was deeply infected.
Gradually, my mother-in-law also gained a new understanding of my lifestyle. Once, she suddenly said to me, "Yuyu, I also appreciate your lifestyle." It's not the same as when I was younger, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. You have your own opinions, and that's good. "
I hurriedly shook her hand: "Mom, thank you for understanding me so well." We've finally found a way to get along. "
The mother-in-law nodded, but her eyes were a little gloomy: "However, if I hadn't been so stubborn at the beginning, you wouldn't have worked so hard." "
I saw that she still couldn't let go of her guilt, so I hugged her and comforted her: "Mom, no one is perfect, you have already admitted your mistakes, let's start all over again, okay? You are my dearest person, no matter what happens, I will continue to be filial to you and take care of you." "
My mother-in-law's eyes suddenly turned red, and she nodded vigorously and hugged me tightly in her arms. We embraced each other like this, and our hearts were very close to each other. Since then, I have been with my mother-in-law more attentively and cherished every moment I spent with her.
Later, I became a mother myself. Whenever I see my mother-in-law with my children, I am grateful for the ordeal that once came. It is because of it that I have learned how to truly understand an elder; And my mother-in-law, because of those days, unloaded her guard and learned to be open-minded and tolerant.
The mother-daughter relationship is like this, we need to use tolerance to resolve differences, and understand to embrace differences. Only by cherishing each other with love can the bond of family affection never break. I hope that my story with my mother-in-law will make more people aware of this, so as to avoid repeating the mistakes we made back then.
I believe that as long as the child is treated in this way, she will definitely grow up healthy and happy. Although there will inevitably be some disagreements and stumbles in the future, as long as we can treat each other sincerely and understand each other, we will be able to resolve all difficulties and make family affection never wear out.