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As people grow older, they see the world more clearly, and they will not be as excited about various things in the outside world as they were when they were younger, on the contrary, the elderly will gradually become optimistic, open-minded, and even develop some appropriate confusion.
So how can people after the age of sixty develop an optimistic attitude, an open-minded attitude, and an appropriate amount of confusion in order to enjoy happiness in old age?
1. Appropriate open-mindedness and confusion.
1. Reduce conflicts and improve the quality of life.
It is often said that "people are open-minded when they reach middle age", and this sentence does not just mean that middle-aged people are more open-minded than young people.
In fact, compared with middle-aged people, middle-aged people will be relatively more open-minded, because as they grow older, people will gradually become more optimistic and more pessimistic about the world.
Middle-aged people are more open-minded, because after most of their lives have experienced ups and downs, middle-aged people have seen the world very thoroughly, they will understand that different people have different life circumstances, and different life circumstances will bring people different ways of thinking, so many things make people feel incredible, middle-aged people can understand.
In addition, middle-aged people are more open-minded, and another important reason is that they have learned to let go of too much care, because life is only so long, and too much thinking will make people feel very bad.
People have feelings, and when they have conflicts with others, they will definitely remember them in their hearts, and they will not only remember them for a day or two, sometimes they may remember it for a lifetime.
When people get old, their hearts are full of things that others are not good for them, which will only make people depressed and unhappy all day long, and it will be a loss to their quality of life and mood.
Middle-aged people are more open-minded, because they have learned to let go of too many scheming, reconcile with themselves, and live happily, because living happily is the highest state of life.
After middle-aged people learn to let go of their calculations, they can also make their mood more comfortable, because people often deal with others, and dealing with others will inevitably involve various contradictions, if people learn to let go of their calculations like middle-aged people, then they will reduce a lot of unnecessary contradictions and improve the quality of life.
2. Be kind to yourself
The reason why middle-aged people will let go of too many cares, reconcile with themselves, and live happily is because middle-aged people have experienced most of their life's ups and downs, they have felt the impermanence of life, so middle-aged people know how to be tolerant, generous, and empathetic, and they will not fight with the world.
Middle-aged people will be tolerant and generous, that is because they know that life is not easy, so they will be tolerant of some of the mistakes of others, and they will also be tolerant of some of others' words and deeds, and will not be like young people, who will seriously ponder every detail of others.
Middle-aged people are generous and tolerant because they understand that life is not easy, so they will not care about some trivial things of others, let alone hold grudges against some small mistakes of others, so middle-aged people are more open-minded than young people.
Middle-aged people will also be empathetic, this is because middle-aged people have experienced more things, so they will understand the mood of others, and they will also be empathetic, and they will not be like young people, who will be thoughtful about every word of others, and will ponder other people's thoughts.
The most important thing for middle-aged people is to be able to fight with the world, this is because middle-aged people understand the impermanence of life, so they will not fight for something that does not belong to them, nor will they quarrel about things that have nothing to do with themselves, on the contrary, middle-aged people will treat themselves well and make themselves happier.
Middle-aged people treat themselves well, will not pursue things that they can't achieve, and won't care about the achievements they can't achieve, on the contrary, middle-aged people will know how to cherish everything they have now, and it is most practical to be kind to themselves and live happily.
3. Appropriate confusion.
In fact, middle-aged people are appropriately confused because they know how to reconcile with themselves and live happily, so when middle-aged people do things, they will no longer be as serious as young people, but appropriately confused.
Middle-aged people are appropriately confused, that is, they do not take themselves seriously, they will no longer ponder every word of others, and they will no longer think deeply about every word of others, because this will only make people's psychology more depressed.
As long as the other party's original intention is not malicious, then middle-aged people will not care about every word of others, will no longer ponder other people's thoughts, and will no longer analyze other people's every move, which will make people's psychology more relaxed.
There is another important reason for middle-aged people to be properly confused, that is, to allow themselves to enjoy the joy of life more, because people's lives are very short, if people take everything seriously, then they will make their lives more short.
This will only make people's mood more depressed, so middle-aged people are appropriately confused, which is to make themselves happier and live more easily.
Second, look open and bearish.
As people grow older, people's experience will become richer, so people should be more pessimistic about the world, let go of too many cares, and face life with a relaxed attitude.
People often encounter a lot of difficulties in life, sometimes difficulties can make people feel very painful, and even make people feel hopeless, but after experiencing big and small difficulties, people will become stronger and more optimistic, because people will become stronger when they come out of difficulties.
When people are young, they will continue to pursue and move towards the goal, but after working hard for a lifetime, they will become more optimistic, this is because after people have experienced ups and downs, they will understand the impermanence of life, so people will know how to let go of too many calculations and face life with a relaxed attitude.
When people are young, they tend to take some things very seriously, but when people are old, they will know how to let go of the burden in their hearts and face life with a more relaxed attitude.
When people are young, they tend to pursue perfection, but when people are old, they will know how to look away, look down, and will no longer take the world too seriously, because people understand the impermanence of life, so people will no longer take the world too seriously, only by looking open and down, will they live more easily.
3. Optimism, open-mindedness, and confusion are not escapism.
Some people think that optimism, open-mindedness and confusion are a kind of escapism, and that people should not run away from difficulties when they encounter difficulties, but should face them head-on.
But optimism, open-mindedness, and confusion are not escapism, on the contrary, optimism, open-mindedness, and confusion are a deep understanding of life, a positive coping strategy, and help to elevate the state of mind.
When people encounter difficulties, if they always run away, then people's mentality will become very negative, and people's hearts will become very fragile, which will only make people's hearts more empty.
When people encounter difficulties, if they can face them optimistically, this is because people understand the impermanence of life, so people will not make their mood very bad because of a little thing, on the contrary, people will find a ray of light from the difficulties and make their mood more optimistic.
When people encounter difficulties, if they can face them open-mindedly, this is because people know how to let go of too many calculations, reconcile with themselves, and live happily, so people will not make their mood worse because of some words and deeds of others, on the contrary, people will be tolerant of other people's words and deeds, be empathetic, and will not care about some of the mistakes of others, which will make people's mood more comfortable.
When people encounter difficulties, if they can be properly confused, this is because people know how to treat themselves, will not think deeply about every word of others, do not account for every detail of others, and will not ponder every detail of others, which will make people's mood more comfortable. epilogue
After the age of 60, people can develop an optimistic attitude, an open-minded attitude and appropriate confusion, which can not only bring happiness to themselves, but also affect the family and friends around them, so that the people around them can feel the energy of optimism.
Appropriate open-mindedness and confusion can make people less careful, treat themselves well, live a happier life, and make people's mood more comfortable.
But optimism, open-mindedness and confusion are not things that people run away from when they encounter difficulties, on the contrary, optimism, open-mindedness and confusion are a deep understanding of life, a strategy for positive coping, and help to improve the spiritual realm.