Text: Sven Talk
Sources: All of the statements in this article are based on reliable sources, and are detailed in the preface at the end of the article
Preface
Although the success rate of blind date marriage is not high, but in the past ten years, I have met nearly 60 blind dates, but none of them have succeeded, which is also a strange thing.
There is such a man in Hunan, he is now in his thirties, and he still plays games at home every day, and even leaves his mother disabled because of playing games.
So what's going on here? What's going on with him?
"Giant Baby" Pan Jie
Pan Jie was born in 1986 in a well-off family in Hunan, and his parents were intellectuals.
Pan Jie's academic performance was very good when he was young, and he was a very obedient and sensible child, so the family loved him very much, and no matter what he wanted when he was a child, his parents would try their best to meet him.
In the long run, Pan Jie became a very rebellious child.
During his adolescence, Pan Jie became addicted to computer games, and his grades began to decline significantly because of the long hours of playing games.
At that time, his parents also wanted to help him correct some bad problems, but because of long-term doting, they could not be ruthless to their children, and Pan Jie was not afraid of the threats of his parents.
So Pan Jie became more and more decadent in the end, and in the end, when he took the college entrance examination, he only took a junior college exam.
Originally, according to his previous grades, it was no surprise that he would be able to get a good undergraduate, but who didn't expect that he would ruin his future because he was addicted to games.
After graduating from university, Pan Jie did not go out to look for a job, but played games at home every day and did not go out to socialize.
At the beginning, his parents did not urge him to find a job, thinking that he had studied for so many years and it was strange that it was a little hard, so they acquiesced to him relaxing at home.
But as time passed, his parents couldn't help but be a little anxious when they saw that he was still not a little self-motivated.
So I thought of the word "starting a family", thinking that if my son got married, he should know that he would go out to make money, so he began to introduce Pan Jie to someone.
Pan Jie didn't show any disgust when he knew that his parents were going to introduce him to someone.
Under the arrangement of his parents, Pan Jie also met a lot of blind dates and got along with several of them for a while, but none of them talked for a long time.
So what's going on? Could it be that Pan Jie didn't want to go on a blind date, so he deliberately made trouble?
Failed blind dates
To say that although Pan Jie has no job at this stage, his family conditions are still very good, and his parents have pensions.
And their family bought a house in the city very early, and the family must still be very rich.
Pan Jie is not ugly, and his figure is okay in all aspects, so why did he talk about one collapse and one collapse?
In fact, this is mainly related to his values Pan Jie grew up under the doting of his parents, which led to his lack of responsibility.
And he is now in his twenties and thirties, and he is still addicted to games and does not go out to look for a job, which is also something that many girls can't accept.
However, there are also girls who think that his family conditions are very good, and want to date him for a while to see if they can change him.
But Pan Jie didn't want to change in the slightest, he even told his blind date that he wanted to have a play at home, so he wanted the girl to find a job outside and then come to support him.
As soon as these words came out, there was still that girl willing to marry him, after all, whoever got married didn't go to "raise a son".
So is these words deliberately said to girls because Pan Jie doesn't want to get married?
Actually, no, but he thinks so in his heart, he thinks that everyone should love him and take care of him, he doesn't know that the relationship between people is mutual.
Usually his parents take care of him like this, because this is their own son, and Pan Jie was very well-behaved and sensible when he was a child, and his academic performance was good, so he has always doted on him.
But I didn't think that he would become like this because of his pampering, maybe his parents also regret it very much now, and feel that they should have been a little harsh on him when he was a child, which would not make him what he is now.
After he experienced many failed blind dates, his parents had no choice, so they thought about helping Pan Jie change the status quo through the TV station.
The above content and reference are from the official account of "Looking for Love", about "Looking for Love 20200531: Why did my son fail to fall in love 59 times in ten years"
Confirm the condition
When Pan Jie boarded the spot, many people knew that there was a giant baby in his thirties in Hunan, who had been on a blind date for more than 50 times and had no partner, and even left his mother disabled because of playing games.
Suddenly, he became the object of gossip from many netizens, and later some netizens asked if he was sick.
Unexpectedly, after an examination, it was concluded that Pan Jie was indeed sick, and he had paranoid personality disorder, which made him unfilial to his parents and failed many blind dates.
One day, Pan Jie, accompanied by his parents and a TV reporter, walked into a hospital for the treatment of mental illness.
Before entering the hospital, Pan Jie still carried an umbrella and went to the Internet café alone to finish the game for a while before successfully entering the hospital and being examined by the doctor.
He seems to need to complete game tasks every day before he can live his life.
And the game he plays is not a big game, but a browser game like 4399.
I play for hours every day, waiting for the game mission to be completed before I do something else.
And when he was playing games, no one else was allowed to disturb him, and his mother tried to stop him from playing, but he was attacked by him, and ended up with a hand handicap.
From then on, when Pan Jie was playing games at home, his parents would never bother him again, even if someone else came to look for Pan Jie at home, they would remind each other that after Pan Jie "completed the task", they were communicating.
Pan Jie's parents couldn't have imagined that it was because their son was sick that they became so rebellious Maybe many things are out of his control, maybe Pan Jie doesn't want to do such a thing, but he can't control himself.
Later, after being diagnosed and treated by doctors, Pan Jie was diagnosed with personality disorder, which is somewhat difficult to treat, and the reason why he had this situation was because he lacked a sense of security.
And the hospital also has a special department for rehab Internet addiction, and if Pan's father and mother are willing, Pan Jie can also be sent to the hospital for treatment.
The above content is all referenced from the official account of "Looking for Love", 2020.06.01, about "Analysis of Personality Health Assessment Results, Finding the Root Cause of My Son's Series of Abnormal Behaviors|Looking for Love"
epilogue
From Pan Jie's personal experience, we can also get some inspiration: When parents educate their children, they should not spoil them excessively, and should be relaxed.
So that the child will grow crooked because of excessive spoiling, or because he will be under high pressure for a long time and will not be able to bear it.
So how do you educate your children? What do you think of Pan Jie?