Someone on Zhihu asked:
What personality do you like best?
The most mentioned by netizens is gentleness.
When I was young, I thought that gentleness was an innate character.
After many years, I realized that gentleness is actually a kind of cultivation, a kind of mentality, and a kind of ability.
Martin Luther King Jr. said,
People won't remember your words, but they will remember how you make them feel.
Gentle people, strong in heart, gentle and calm, calm and unhurried, will make you feel like a spring breeze and be deeply attracted.
Gentleness is tolerance in the face of the world
The writer Mo Yan wrote in "The Late Bloomer":
True strength is not confrontation, but allowing it to happen.
Regret, stupidity, ugliness, hypocrisy are allowed, and no return is allowed for giving.
When you allow all this, you will gradually become a soft, relaxed, and stretched person.
Permission is an attitude, it is not forced after giving all its might, it is tolerance after going with the flow, and it is the calm determination of dealing with things.
Zheng Juan in the TV series "The World" is gentle, kind, tolerant, and tenacious.
Zhou Bingkun spent 1,700 to buy a Russian-style villa, and the whole family was very happy.
Unexpectedly, the procedures were illegal, the house was repossessed, and all the savings were lost.
Bingkun was annoyed, and Zheng Juan comforted him:
Just spend money to buy a dream, and it's worth it to live in such a good house in your dream.
Sun Xiaoning likes Zhou Bingkun, after Zheng Juan found out, she went to the bookstore to find Sun Xiaoning, Zheng Juan took her hand and said to Wu Qian:
"Look at how beautiful Xiao Ning's hands are. ”
Sun Xiaoning was very proud.
Wu Qian said:
"And that's not because of youth.
Of all the people I know, your hands are the most beautiful, and it's not that you have massaged your mother-in-law and pressed them out of shape.
But it's worth it, your mother-in-law doesn't recognize anyone now, she only recognizes you. ”
Zheng Juan took retreat as advance, and through the mouth of others, told Sun Xiaoning that he was a great hero of the Zhou family, so that Sun Xiaoning knew the difficulty and retreated.
Zheng Juan told Zhou Bingkun that Sun Xiaoning liked her and let him handle the matter by himself.
Zhou Bingkun was hospitalized, Sun Xiaoning went to see him, and Zhou Bingkun took the opportunity to say:
Zheng Juan is the pillar of the family and the backbone of herself, and Sun Xiaoning is completely dead.
Zheng Juan preserved Zhou Bingkun's image, maintained Sun Xiaoning's decency, and did not hurt the feelings between the brothers.
He quietly handled the crisis and protected his marriage.
Zheng Juan's gentleness is full of strength.
Usually she is invisible, and when her family has something to do, she can provide emotional value, which makes people feel at ease and stable.
Writer Bi Shumin wrote in "Tenderness in the World: Be a Warm Person for the Rest of Your Life":
Gentleness is not weakness, it is kindness to others, the courage to accept oneself, the mind to accept the past, the quality based on understanding and tolerance, and the strength of all warmth.
People who are gentle in their hearts will speak kind words and will have gentle behavior, reflecting the power of tolerance.
Gentleness is the calmness that confronts problems head-on
Kazuo Inamori said that masters are emotionless.
There is only one thing in the master's mind, and that is to solve the problem.
If you can't solve it, try again in another way, and you won't be led astray by emotions.
People who focus on solving problems will give people peace of mind and peace of mind.
In the program "Jumping to the Advanced Workplace", August is impressive.
August is confident, gentle, calm, and emotionally stable.
She focuses on solving problems and gives a sense of being in control.
During the filming of the commercial, the director went for the ultimate shot, which caused the shooting time to run out, and the producer blamed them for confirming the time too late.
August was not angry.
Adopting the method of affirming first and then making appeals, he expressed his views gently and firmly, proposed solutions, and reached a consensus with the other party.
When the team's proposal failed, she saw that the team members were depressed and the atmosphere was low, so she shared her own values to comfort everyone.
She said:
"If you can do things that meet the four points of 'being authentic, trying, learning and having fun', then you are perfect.
I feel satisfied these days.
Although there were some dissatisfactions, we tried our best and learned from them, and we were happy to have gains. ”
August's attitude and warm words relieved the team members, and the team was full of fighting spirit and vitality.
In the process of selecting team members and forming a team, those who are not selected will face elimination.
August thinks rationally and wants to let Xiaolong, who does art, join.
Dan Fanfan and Liu Quan have always fought side by side with her and cooperated tacitly.
She didn't want to let any of them face elimination just because she wanted to win.
She calmly walked up to Fan Fan and Liu Quan and said the warmest words:
"We do need an artist, but it doesn't have to be. ”
August's choice allowed Fan Fan and Liu Quan to see her emotional side, and the cohesion of their team was unprecedentedly high.
The tutor said that Fan Fan and Liu Quan were warmed by August, showing a professional and stable state, not as babbling as before.
August's gentleness has made her a down-to-earth, reassuring, pleasant person to follow.
A gentle person can empathize with the feelings of others, understand the situation of others, and accept the pain of others.
A gentle person who is not disturbed by emotions, calm and decisive in case of things, easy-going and responsible.
Gentleness is the tranquility of mental relaxation
Lin Qingxuan wrote in "The Most Beautiful Life is Qinghuan":
See the world with a pure heart, live life with a joyful heart, have feelings with a normal heart, and remove obstacles with a soft heart.
People are so busy every day that they have no time to think, and they are in a hurry, and they can't help but be anxious and impatient.
Only by stopping and having a sense of relaxation can you calm your heart and soften yourself.
In the TV series "Going to a Windy Place", Xu Hongdou is the lobby manager of a five-star hotel and is busy with work every day.
She has worked hard for ten years, but she has no house, no car, no object, only illness.
The sudden death of her best friend from cancer devastated her.
Xu Hongdou decided to let herself stop, to look at the world, to find the life she wanted, and to heal her wounded heart.
She came to Yunmiao Village, Yunnan, and was a useless waste in this strange place.
Gradually, she got used to the slow life here.
She would sit on the terrace and read quietly, bask in the sun in a daze, and walk on the beach to blow the sea breeze.
She became relaxed, calm, and soft.
She also met a lot of new friends, and her friends liked her very much and liked her gentleness.
Damai is an online writer, and her writing has encountered a bottleneck, and more and more bad reviews have made her lose confidence and see no hope.
Xu Hongdou saw her hiding in the room crying, so he enlightened her.
said that he was very envious of her for having a job she liked, and she was willing to pay for it.
Let her not be too herself and cheer her on whatever choice she makes.
Xu Hongdou also registered a number of small accounts, maintained barley on the Internet, and exchanged black powder.
Her support gave Big Mac the confidence to no longer feel sorry for herself.
Xu Hongdou was in the windy courtyard, and he also healed himself little by little.
She liked the life here and decided to open a homestay in Yunmiao Village, do what she is good at, and live the life she wants.
She uses gentleness to warm, influence and change the people and things around her, making life better and better.
Xu Hongdou's gentleness is the peace of mind after relaxation, and the peace and joy after inner peace.
If you use too much force in life, you will not go far and walk steadily.
Accept your imperfections and allow yourself to stop, relax and find what you love.
Gentleness is to be able to feel the moment, not to be impatient or impatient, to be relaxed because of sober self-awareness, and to be happy because of inner peace.
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Lin Huiyin said:
Gentleness should be necessary, but not compromise, we must be strong in silence and unhurried.
Meekness is a strength.
Calmly face the ups and downs of life,
Calmly solve all kinds of problems in life,
Relax and find your true self.
True growth is not to be tough, but to be gentle.
Author | Purple warp is born to the sun
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