Why does our partner always disappoint us in intimate relationships?
Does a highly sensitive person necessarily mean introverted, emotional, and difficult to get along with?
Why do we always fall into inexplicable anxiety and can't help ourselves?
When we feel sad for a long time and lose interest in the things around us, does it mean that we have depression?
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Have you been troubled by these problems for a long time, and it is difficult to find the root cause of the problem?
Perhaps, you never really knew yourself. As humans, we are not only complex, but also interesting.
After two years of precipitation, Blue Lion has published 10 "complex and interesting human" books (one to be published in June) to better understand ourselves from a psychological perspective.
Take advantage of this precious May Day holiday to come and appreciate the complexity and fun of human beings~
"Complex and Interesting Humans" book series
1. Why Love Hurts: Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Intimate Relationships
2. "There's nothing wrong with glass hearts: non-injury practice for highly sensitive people"
3. "Why People Quarrel: The Traumatic Trigger Behind the Conflict"
4. How to Say "No" at a Very Advanced Level: Setting Psychological Boundaries in Interpersonal Relationships
5. "Why I Always Feel Hollowed Out: How to Deal with "Psychological Internal Friction"
6. "Why is Always Dominated by Emotions: Borderline Personality of Irritability, Anxiety, and Loneliness"
7. "Overcoming Anxiety: A Guide to Relaxation in Life"
8. "Getting Rid of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: How to Stop Being Paranoid and Demanding Yourself"
9. Why People Are Depressed: Psychological Reasons for Being Depressed, Depressed, and Self-Attacking
10. "Maybe It's Not You Think Too Much: How to Recognize and Get Rid of Psychological Violence" (forthcoming)
Why Love Hurts: Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Intimate Relationships
Author: Ramani Devasura
Translator: Lu Hongli
Why is it that a ta, which is almost perfect at the beginning, ends up bringing you only endless pain?
If you're feeling frustrated in an intimate relationship, it's important to realize that it's not that you're bad, it's that they're too narcissistic. People with this type of personality disorder have an unstable state of mind, and you unknowingly become a source of "supply". Without these provisions, the narcissistic disorder mechanism cannot function. They use "provisioning" to stimulate their own positive emotional state, so as to transform their deep inner insecurities into short-term psychological safety.
Reading this book does not require you to go through the trouble of understanding psychological theories and principles, in the stories and cases narrated by the author, you may already have the answer in your heart.
"There's nothing wrong with glass hearts: non-injury practice for highly sensitive people"
Author: Alison Lefkowitz
Translator: Cui Zihan
Being highly sensitive is innate, and you don't have to "change" this personality trait. On the contrary, with enough knowledge of it, you will not only be able to live more comfortably, but you will also be able to take advantage of this personality trait.
Allison, a professional "desensitization" training therapist, believes that even if we feel pain everywhere because of our highly sensitive personality traits, we can still strategically train ourselves to "desensitize" things that once easily stimulated us, cultivate our "dull sensitivity", and find the most comfortable way to get along with ourselves.
Alison herself is a highly sensitive person, and in addition to helping herself find a way to get along with herself, she has also helped thousands of people get rid of their hypersensitivity and truly enjoy life. In this book, she will share how to develop her sensitivity in daily life, social situations, and relationships, and how to make good use of her highly sensitive talents to succeed in work and life.
Why People Fight: The Traumatic Triggers Behind Conflict
Author: Susan Campbell
Translators: Cui Zihan and Liu Lu
Arguing with your lover, lashing out at your children, scolding you for making very irrational decisions when you leave the car in the middle of a meeting...... These manifestations may be rebellious behaviors after the trauma has been triggered.
According to the authors, the root cause of a person's frequent unhappiness and easy relationship conflict with others is not knowing how to accept and deal with painful emotions and react accordingly. When we project the reasons for our own reactions onto others, it often creates unnecessary conflict. What leads to all of this is often the retriggering of our inner trauma – unmet needs from childhood, forgotten hurts, etc. – by the events of the moment.
This book is based on the author's more than 50 years of experience as a therapist. The book is divided into two parts, the first of which teaches us how to identify and deal with triggering responses. The second part tells us how to apply these methods in different types of relationships such as partners, parent-children, friends, co-workers, etc.
How to Say "No" at a Very Advanced Level: Setting Psychological Boundaries in Relationships
Author: Nancy Levine
Translator: Lu Hongli
People often choose not to set boundaries in their relationships in order to avoid conflict, silently endure unreasonable demands, things and people they don't like, and they want to maintain the status quo and gain security by pleasing others. But as a result, you can get yourself into a long-term mess – emotional blackmail, neglected self-needs, anxiety, frustration......
In this book, life guru Nancy Levine combines her years of accumulated case experience with practical training methods to help readers correctly understand the possible consequences of conflict step by step, establish clear and healthy psychological boundaries, and get rid of repeated forbearance.
Adapt to short-term discomfort. Setting boundaries inevitably creates discomfort, but it is a "temporary discomfort" that arises in order to end the "discomfort that lasts indefinitely", so it is necessary to endure it in order to overcome the bottleneck.
Start setting boundaries and repeat them until you achieve freedom!
Why I Always Feel Hollowed Out: How to Deal with "Psychological Internal Friction"
Author: William van der Bender
Translator: Chang Jianghan
Frequent physical exhaustion, no longer being able to deal with simple things, inexplicable anxiety, irritability, depression, irritability, insomnia......
All of these may be externalized manifestations of low inner mental energy.
In the book, the author proposes the concept of mental energy management, which is explained using figurative metaphors such as batteries, wheels, and filters. In the author's mental energy management system, it includes the concepts of energy zone, spiritual energy provider, energy restorer, positive energy consumer, and negative energy consumer. At the same time, Williams also provides a series of practical and effective and convenient training techniques and methods to help readers better classify and control these mental energy roles and areas, and stay away from mental and psychological overload and other problems.
Why Are Always Dominated by Emotions: The Borderline Personality of Irritability, Anxiety, and Loneliness
Author: Daniel J. Fox
Translator: Cheng Fan
If you've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, you may feel panicked and overwhelmed. And when you try to search the Internet for relevant information, you can't find the exact and appropriate way to help yourself, except for the horror of this disease.
This book revolves around the theme of providing people with borderline personality disorder and their relatives and friends with borderline personality disorder with ways to heal and make a difference. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to treatment, but rather a groundbreaking approach to the treatment and improvement of borderline personality disorder, including dialectical behavior therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and other professional and scientific psychological treatments.
By reading this book, people with borderline personality can learn more about the condition of borderline personality disorder and learn how to mediate their emotions, improve their physical and mental state, build stable relationships, and get rid of loneliness and hopelessness and start a better life.
Overcoming Anxiety: A Guide to Relaxation in Life
Author: Andreas Stolle Yans Prager
Translator: Du Han Feng Shan
I can't sleep! I'm so anxious that my head is going to "fall off"!
I'm so anxious, but I don't want to do anything......
Anxiety stems from our fear of the unknown and our desire to succeed in a role. It makes people restless, or always unenergetic and depressed.
Based on a large number of clinical cases and cutting-edge research results, this book explores the human anxiety system as comprehensively as possible, trying to let everyone who suffers from anxiety and those around them understand what anxiety is, what its benefits are, and what is the difference between normal anxiety and pathological anxiety (i.e., anxiety disorders). As senior anxiety experts, the authors deliberately selected cases from anxiety clinics to help us understand the different types of anxiety, their characteristics and triggers, and the scientific treatments that work, in the hope of improving everyone's quality of life.
Getting Rid of OCD: How to Stop Being Paranoid About Yourself
Author: Jonathan Grayson
Translator: Zhu Qianqian
Do you wash your hands repeatedly but still feel like you haven't washed them yet?
Do you have strict requirements for the order or symmetry of your items?
Do you always worry that the doors and windows are not locked, and you come back again and again to check them?
Well, you may be suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder.
Based on a large number of real-life cases and years of treatment experience, combined with exposure and response prevention methods, the author of this book leads readers to conduct self-assessment tests, determine their own type of OCD, and provide targeted treatment plans that can meet the current needs, so that readers can design a personalized rehabilitation plan for themselves. Through this book, readers will learn more about their OCD and make substantial progress on the road to recovery.
Why People Are Depressed: Psychological Causes of Depression, Depression, and Self-Aggression
Author: [New Zealand] Gwendolyn Smith;
Translator: Lu Hongli
"What the hell is wrong with me?"
The world we live in is always endlessly conveying messages like: "You should be happy", "It's not a big deal", "Don't think too much", ...... But in fact, reality is random and elusive. It's human nature to feel sad and depressed, and we don't have to force ourselves to be happy. Even, depression that has been suppressed for too long is very likely to turn into depression.
As a clinical psychotherapist, the author of this book has witnessed the pain and struggle of a large number of depressed patients in the course of fighting depression for many years. Therefore, she wrote this book, hoping to help people judge their own psychological state more scientifically, understand the inner world of depressed patients, and also try to provide practical advice and help for those who have been mired in depression in coping with depression, choosing a therapist and treatment plan, etc.