I'm 54 years old and I like to meet people who are older than me. This way I can anticipate future risks. Thus circumventing it. Let the road for the rest of your life be smoother, after my observation, the four mistakes are forbidden in middle age, and the rest of your life will not be bad, if you indulge yourself, you will have to suffer. Everyone's tasting.
One, not treating one's body well.
We humans have a shortcoming, that is, when our desires are not satisfied, it is difficult to put health first. So a lot of people will be desperate to make money. When you are old, you will desperately use money to continue your life. Because in the final stage, few people are willing to die. Therefore, people who do not treat their bodies well will have a sad old age.
Every week, I spend half a day volunteering at a nursing home. I have seen many old people who were very capable when they were young, some were leaders and some were businessmen. But for the rest of his life, he could only stay in a nursing home. Because children also have to live, they really don't have time to take care of it.
In old age, the best state is physical freedom, and only physical freedom can maintain dignity.
In this life, as long as you don't hurt yourself and always put your health first, you will be very happy in your old age.
Second, living in luxury does not save money.
When people are old, they can't have children, but they can't live without money. Having money is confidence, if you don't have money, you have to reach out to your children to ask for money, then it will be too difficult, and the palms are the most undignified.
I have a friend who is 54 years old and the same age as me. She spends lavishly, and rushes to pay for whoever she eats with. My salary of 10,000 yuan is sometimes spent less than the end of the month. The child is working in other places, she has no money to buy a house, and she does not help to buy a car. She just doesn't have the idea of saving money. I often warn her to save money, don't spend money lavishly, she has been a baby bump in the family since she was a child, and her husband is used to it after marriage, and she has no concept of money.
In February this year, her daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, and her in-laws took 100,000 yuan, and she also gave 100,000 yuan with her scalp. Only then did I know the importance of money, and now I began to force saving.
When people are old, money is face and dignity, so we must prepare early to be happy in old age.
Third, if you don't help your children, you will be the saddest when you are old.
I know an elderly man in a nursing home who is inconvenient to live in a nursing home because of a cerebral infarction.
She is a retired teacher with a high pension. From the time her daughter-in-law was pregnant to giving birth, she did not visit once. Confinement is also not subsidized.
When the maternity leave expired, she needed to take care of the child, and she said that she would charge three thousand a month. The daughter-in-law can't take so much. Let your mother take care of the child.
The children are all in kindergarten, and she has not seen them once. I haven't given any New Year's money. She has been traveling everywhere since she retired, and no matter how difficult it is for her children, she does not help at all.
When she needs to be taken care of, her daughter-in-law is also very indifferent. Only the son went to see him at intervals. When people are old and need family affection, she doesn't have it, which is also a pity.
Fourth, unfaithfulness to marriage.
The probability of cheating in middle-aged people is very high, because marriage is not easy, so that each other has seen each other's unbearable. Therefore, middle-aged marriages are maintained by conscience. But there is one thing, the cost of unfaithfulness to marriage is great.
I know a boss who changed when he got rich, disliked his daughter-in-law in the countryside and had an affair in the city. Spending all the money on the women outside, the wife still lives this tight life.
Last winter, he had a heart attack after drinking, and the woman outside took the money and left, and her wife took care of him until he was discharged from the hospital and didn't care about him.
He can only hire a nanny to take care of him, and now he is living a very bleak life, and he is not yet sixty years old. He just broke his wife's heart too much. Didn't leave yourself a way back.
After the age of 50, we have seen too many things in the world, and each of us must manage ourselves well and make the rest of our lives comfortable. Share.
I am Sister Mi Li, a post-70s generation who loves to share, I like to share, remember to like and support to show encouragement. Thank you!