#头条创作挑战赛#
A piece of news about savings recently made the hot search, about a working couple in Shanghai who managed to accumulate their first million assets in five years.
In a certain program, his wife Zhang Chen shared the frugality of the couple.
For example, when it comes to daily diet, they tend to buy food that is close to their expiration date but is still safe to eat, and stock it at home in moderation.
She further calculated such an account for everyone: if they consume according to the original price, their annual living expenses are about 50,000 yuan.
Since they started to buy heavily discounted goods, their annual expenses are only 20,000 yuan, which means that they have saved 30,000 yuan on this item.
In addition, her husband does a small maintenance and oil change for his own vehicle, which is a significant cost savings compared to doing such services in a professional shop.
She herself hadn't been to the barber shop in the past two years, and in order to save money, she bought five matching white T-shirts and rotated them every day.
Their lifestyle is based on the principle of "spend what you send, save what you save", and ensure that every penny is spent by carefully planning how it is put into the places where it is truly valuable.
However, in the face of such a lifestyle, some netizens made slightly derogatory comments:
"Isn't this the normal cost of an average family?"
"Isn't investing time and energy in self-improvement a more profitable way?"
Still, I see an important quality in this couple – "shielding power". They are not influenced by the judgment of others and stick to the path that suits their lifestyle because they understand that life is to live for themselves.
As Haruki Murakami said in his book "Norwegian Woods": "No matter what people all over the world say, your personal feelings are the most real." No matter what the outside world thinks, you shouldn't let it disrupt your own rhythm of life. ”
Only by learning to block out invalid information from the outside world can we truly live in our own world and listen to the voice from within.
If you want to make your life simple and fulfilling, the first thing to do is to improve your three "shielding" abilities.
Block ineffective social circles
To be able to get back to their lives
Mr. Zhou Guoping once said: "I don't pay attention to what the outside world says about me, because I know my own essence."
If a person is not firm and confident in his heart, he is often swayed by the opinions of others. ”
A deep understanding of this sentence is indeed philosophical.
Similarly, the life attitude of Cai Zhizhong, a well-known domestic cartoonist, echoes it.
Many people are afraid of being alone, but Cai Zhizhong is leisurely in solitude: "People should learn to enjoy their alone time and devote themselves to what they love."
If you're always afraid of being different and you're trying to cater to the crowd, then where does excellence begin?"
He has chosen a reclusive lifestyle and has shared in interviews that he has spent 42 days at home to complete a job, has spent 58 hours sitting in meditation to create a TV title, and has even left home only five times in the past year.
To this day, he still works at a year-round pace, waking up at about 1 a.m. every day for about an hour of deep reflection, followed by 16 to 18 hours of work.
Whenever he immerses himself in the world of painting, the only sound in his ears is the rustle of a pencil touching the paper, as if at that moment there is only himself in the universe, but it seems to have the whole world.
In the adult world, some people are bound by material possessions, while others are trapped in complex interpersonal relationships. The key to breaking this situation is to simplify material pursuits and purify interpersonal relationships, so that you can gradually find the best state in life.
In the entertainment industry, Li Yuchun, who is known for his image as an otaku, is such an example.
In the variety show "Please! Refrigerator", He Jiong once revealed that he never participated in the after party after various award ceremonies.
Li Yuchun also shared frankly that because he is not good at socializing, he is often more inclined to be alone and enjoy loneliness. During this time of solitude, she frequently creates, thinks deeply, and continues to learn.
Cai Kangyong once famously said: "After the age of 25, our time becomes more and more precious, and it should not be wasted on unworthy people." ”
The reality of life is that everyone's energy and time are limited.
By streamlining our social circles, we can not only calm down and improve ourselves, but also use the power of time to screen out the really important people in our lives.
Stay away from relationships that make you feel uncomfortable, and decisively cut off contact with inefficient and unhelpful social circles.
If you want to embrace a good life, you must constantly simplify complex interpersonal relationships, abandon unnecessary distractions in life, and find the most comfortable and suitable social environment for yourself.
Block out someone else's life
Don't let yourself live in comparison
The famous cartoonist Jimmy once had such a profound sentence: "People often look up and envy the happiness of others, but when they turn around, they find that they are also the object of happiness in the eyes of others." ”
There was once a fable that went like this:
A couple who had lived a harmonious and happy life until they attended a class reunion turned for the worse in their relationship.
At the party, my wife noticed that several classmates who did not excel in their studies in the past are now successful in their careers and have a good life:
Some people drive Mercedes-Benz or BMW cars, some have purchased multiple properties, and some even have classmates' children successfully enrolled in key schools, while their own children study in an ordinary school.
After the party, the wife's heart gradually grows a sense of comparison, feeling that other people's lives are as hot and hopeful as fire, while her own life is as plain as boiled water.
As a result, she began to complain that her husband was not motivated enough to earn a good income and not be able to change to a bigger house and buy a luxury car.
On a night of intense conflict, she even threw a pillow at her husband while scolding, and the relationship between the two fell to a freezing point.
Later, on her way home from work, the wife ran into the classmate who was driving a BMW at the party.
When she was about to come forward to say hello, she found that the other party was holding a child who unfortunately suffered from Down syndrome.
The classmate said to her, "I really envy your life, you have a caring husband and smart children. If given the opportunity, I am willing to give all my wealth in exchange for my children to be healthy and normal. ”
At this moment, she deeply realized that when she envied others, she was actually being envied by others.
Zhang Xiaoxian once made such a statement:
"People often tend to compare themselves to others, focusing on who is better than them and who is not as good as them. ”
This is like those emerald birds that have exhausted their life force due to excessive comparison. Despite their beautiful appearance, they appear to be sluggish and extremely tired due to their daily busy building nests.
The Dipper is only five or six centimeters long, but its nests can exceed its own volume by several times or even ten times.
In fact, in the absence of competition from other Kingfishers, a Kingfisher will be able to build enough nests for itself.
However, as soon as another bird starts to build a nest, there will be a comparison between the two and a race to expand the size of their nest.
Until their physical strength is completely exhausted, they die one after another. Moderate comparisons can motivate people, but blind comparisons can be like a self-destructive disaster.
Only by learning to break away from the frame of mind of comparison will our lives become open and full of hope.
Shielding negative energy interference information
Make it easy for yourself
At the Academy Awards, "Freehand Climbing" won the Best Documentary Feature Film, a non-fiction documentary that brings to life the story of Alex Honnold, the legend of freehand climbing.
The film reveals that he completed his solo unprotected ascent of the 3,000-foot-tall Emirates Rock, known as the "Mecca of rock climbing," without any ropes, harnesses or extra protection, using only a pair of special climbing shoes, a bag of magnesium powder hanging from his waist, and a few fingers clutching the rock face at a critical moment.
Facing the steep and smooth rock surface, this extreme sport is not only a severe test of physical limits, but also the ultimate sharpening of mental quality, because every climb is a direct dialogue with death, either victory or defeat, life and death.
Amazingly, Alex managed to conquer this vertical rock wall of more than 900 meters in less than four hours.
During the monitoring of his brain waves, even though the researchers tried to observe his reaction by creating a sudden startle, the results showed that his brain waves remained stable at all times, showing extraordinary calmness and concentration.
Despite witnessing the death of his peers in accidents, Alex remains resolute: "On the rock face, I have nothing to fear. ”
He is able to distract from all distractions, including the perception of fear, not to consider the weather, success or failure, or even to anticipate any unexpected eventualities.
He had only one firm goal in mind – to complete this unprecedented climbing challenge.
This film conveys a profound idea: although we may not be able to change the external world, we can achieve a breakthrough in our own limitations through self-transcendence and adjustment.
A reporter once interviewed the president of the world's largest tourist hotel chain, and he said: "You dropped out of school at the age of 14 and started as a hotel floor washing dishes and putting away dishes, but now you have climbed to such a prominent position."
Those who have worked with you may still be doing similar work in small restaurants today. At that time, did you foresee that you would be so far away from them?"
To this, the president responded with a smile: "In my journey along the way, I haven't paid much attention to the position of others. ”
This sentence touched people's hearts deeply.
Indeed, it is only by learning to block out the negative distracting information from the outside world that we can concentrate on planning the more important things in our lives.
On the other hand, if our brains are immersed in a chaotic and complex environment for a long time, it is like being immersed in troubled waters, and we will only gain emptiness and exhaustion, and we will be further and further away from our goals.
Therefore, knowing how to sift through and filter out redundant information to make room for the brain to think clearly is the key to truly achieving a free and quiet life.
Filter out the mess
to be yourself
A study from the United States revealed that each person receives up to 34 gigabytes of information per day, which is equivalent to one-sixth of the total amount of information that can be processed in a lifetime.
In other words, while we are immersed in a sea of information every day, in reality, it can have negative consequences rather than being beneficial.
The human brain's ability to store and process information is not unlimited, and there is an upper limit to its memory carrying capacity.
When we feel a headache, it is often because we lack the ability to effectively sift through useless information, and at the same time, we lack enough energy and brain power to process valuable information in depth.
Therefore, we need to learn to filter and block irrelevant information, and discard unnecessary social content, trivial details of other people's lives, and negative emotional information.
Only then will we be able to free up more time to focus on self-improvement.
The investment of time determines the value of life, where you sow time, the flowers of life will bloom there.
From this moment on, let's take the initiative to block out invalid information, awaken our inner self, and return to our true self life.