#头条创作挑战赛#
With the precipitation of the years, people's understanding of social and interpersonal relationships has become deeper and deeper. On the broad stage of life, we can't avoid intertwining and interacting with all kinds of people.
In the process of this experience and growth, a profound wisdom of life gradually emerged: "People do not realize until middle age, no matter what kind of people they face, it is an indispensable communication art to 'pretend' at the right time and appropriately." ”
The "pretending" mentioned here does not refer to hypocrisy or deliberate pandering, but implies knowing how to appropriately adjust one's words, deeds and attitudes in a specific situation, so as to better adapt to the environment, integrate into the group, and effectively solve various problems in interpersonal communication.
01
Pretending to be instigated to turn war into jade silk
In interpersonal communication, showing moderation is not a sign of weakness, but a wise move.
Life is full of conflicts, and sometimes, a proper low profile and forbearance can resolve disputes and make relationships more harmonious.
As the saying goes, when facing conflict, moderate compromise and tolerance can eliminate hostility and ease an otherwise tense relationship. This is not weakness, but the strategy chosen by the wise.
For example, in the workplace, in the face of disagreements and conflicts between colleagues, choose to stay calm moderately, do not fight, and face problems with a calm mind.
Through clever communication and compromise, you can not only resolve conflicts, but also build stronger teamwork.
This "pretense" is not cowardice, but to achieve greater goals and better teamwork.
02
Pretend to be stupid to avoid "shooting the first bird"
On the big stage of society, people often say that "a gun shoots the first bird", which means that being too conspicuous or outstanding often attracts unnecessary trouble.
In certain situations, over-displaying ingenuity and sharpness can cause unwarranted trouble and become an obstacle to one's own progress.
Therefore, it is particularly important to enter the middle-aged stage of life and realize the wisdom of "hiding clumsy" at the right time. This is not a denial of self-wisdom, but rather the choice of a restrained posture when necessary.
For example, in the competition in the business world, sometimes being too shrewd will fall into the trap set by yourself, and the truth that being smart will be mistaken by being smart is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
At the business negotiation table, excessive shrewdness and sanity may inadvertently bring a sense of oppression to the other party, leading to an impasse or even a failure in the negotiation.
However, if you can use the strategy of "playing dumb" and maintain a humble and low-key attitude, it is often easier to win the trust of the other party and reach a more ideal partnership. This strategy is not a debasement of one's own IQ, but a clever way to deal with a specific environment.
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Pretend to be confused, don't lose your peace
In the subtle art of interpersonal communication, harmony is regarded as the most precious and indispensable lubricant of communication. Showing the wisdom of "foolishness" at the right time is not a dull intention, but a clever strategy to carefully care for the harmony of interpersonal relationships.
Selectively "pretending to be confused" in the face of inadvertent petty mistakes or unintentional offenses by others is not a passive evasion of the problem, but out of respect for both sides of the family and dignity, and the active maintenance of a good interpersonal atmosphere.
In the warm harbor of the family, it is inevitable that there will be some friction between husband and wife due to daily trivial matters. At this time, the strategy of "pretending to be confused" is not to turn a blind eye to the problem, but to avoid trivial matters from causing disputes, so as to protect the harmony and stability of the family as a whole.
By judging the situation and selectively ignoring the trivial things that are insignificant, we can effectively avoid unnecessary quarrels and conflicts, so as to maintain and enhance the harmonious atmosphere of the family, so that it is always filled with warmth and love.
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"People don't understand until middle age that no matter who they deal with, they should pretend" is a kind of survival wisdom in interpersonal relationships.
Appropriately adjusting one's attitude and performance is not a departure from the essence of one's true self, but a way to better adapt to the complex and ever-changing social environment.
This kind of "pretending" is a kind of maturity, rationality, and tactfulness, and it is an attitude of being responsible for oneself and others.
On the stage of life, this kind of wisdom allows us to deal with all kinds of ups and downs in life more calmly, making our interpersonal relationships more harmonious and life more fulfilling.