Every woman wants to have a happy married life, but when you actually get married, fear will follow. Although the man around him is familiar, he doesn't know anything about his family, which makes people feel strange and uneasy.
When a stranger joins a strange family, it is inevitable to feel a little uneasy and lost. After all, the family is a private domain and is not easily accessible.
I was afraid that my behavior would not be popular with my in-laws, and I was also worried that I would be constantly criticized by them. I hope that through my performance, my in-laws will appreciate me more. However, this worry made me feel anxious and uncomfortable.
These thoughts and worries are very common, and you can also put your best foot forward in front of your in-laws and try to gain their favor. However, don't do these three stupid things, or you'll get a big deal out of it. After all, it is very important to behave well in your in-laws' house, but you don't have to deliberately suppress your personality.
One: unprincipled please
Some newlyweds may be a little timid when they enter the new environment of marriage, afraid to express their thoughts and make different proposals. This is a very normal situation, but it is also necessary to express yourself appropriately and frankly express your thoughts and opinions in order to better integrate into married life and get what you want.
Even if some of her in-laws' behaviors made her feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, she still chose to endure it, and even gave in and curry favor without principle, just to win the favor of her in-laws.
This is in the wrong direction and needs to be changed.
If you don't have your own principles, you will be seen by your in-laws as an unassertive and easily bullied person. It's hard for them to really respect you, let alone have a crush on you. So, it's important to have clear principles. Only if you have your own principles can you gain the respect and respect of your family and friends.
Patterns of interpersonal relationships are formed from the first contact, and if you put on a weak posture at the beginning, it will be difficult to change it for a long time to come. It can be said that this state of getting along will always affect your life and limit you from reaching your greater potential. It is suggested that we should build self-confidence in interpersonal communication, not to let ourselves be a passive party, but to actively fight for our rights and status. Only in this way can we get out of the weak situation and move towards a better future.
Tolerance alone does not earn the goodwill and respect of the in-laws. Only by clearly telling them your bottom line can your life be truly respected and uplifted. This way, you will be able to face life ahead with confidence.
Two: oppress people with family history
The key to getting along with husband and wife is mutual respect, and the same is true for getting along with in-laws.
Each family has its own characteristics and differences, so it can be difficult to match perfectly in every aspect. However, these differences should not be a factor that affects us. What outsiders think doesn't matter, they can't be a testament to our power and advantage. Let's focus on our lives and families, embracing our unique personalities and values.
Getting along in the family should be mutually understanding, tolerant, and in harmony.
When faced with disagreement, if you are convinced that your point of view is correct, then you can present your position in a persuasive way. However, if you know that your position is untenable, you should not insist on your wrong views for the sake of face, but rather take matters into account and deal with differences in a more rational manner. After all, arguing will only make our relationship worse, and we should face our differences with a calm mind in order to reach a rational solution.
Being justified doesn't depend on shouting out loud, nor does it depend on having a position of power.
It is inappropriate to oppress others with family history, and we should be more harmonious in handling family relationships, so as to avoid letting the in-laws have the emotional feeling of looking down on them, and not to let small problems evolve into situations that are difficult to resolve.
Three: Don't give face to your husband
No matter how close your relationship with your in-laws may seem, remember that they are not your blood relatives.
In the hearts of the in-laws, the husband is always the most important person.
No matter how you and your husband get along in private, you should give face to your in-laws when facing your in-laws. This is not a sign of weakness, but a way to get along. In this family, you need to learn to get along with others in a polite and respectful way, so that your in-laws can have a good impression of you and better integrate into this big family.
When you don't give face to your husband at your in-laws' house, it may seem like you have the upper hand, but parents never want to see their son wronged. Even if they don't express it, they will think that you are not sensible and do not know how to love your husband. When you are in your in-law's house, you should pay attention to the interests of your husband and leave a good image on him, because a happy family requires everyone's efforts.
When a husband loses his authority in his own family, his mood is also affected, and it is difficult to maintain a happy mood. This situation will be embarrassing for him.
A smart woman will never argue with her husband in front of a third party, and even if she wins in the end and her face is guaranteed, she may lose her feelings. After all, behind such a quarrel, there will be deeper problems, and such a quarrel is meaningless.
Marriage is not just a simple matter of life between two people, but involves the daily relationship and maintenance with a large family member.
In getting along with your in-laws, maintain your own principles, while increasing tolerance and reducing consideration. This is a very effective way to help us maintain a good relationship with our in-laws. Over time, you will find that getting along with your in-laws is not as scary as you think. As long as we have more understanding and consideration, believe in each other's sincerity, and have a heart-to-heart relationship, our in-laws' family is a beautiful scenery in our life journey.